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man_from_madrid · 10-27-2009, 05:13 PM

Hello everyone, and first of all, my apologies in advice for my poor english.

As a matter of fact I intended to ask all this in a thread I read in the Ladies Lounge after a search with Google, but looks like that would be some kind of invasion, being a man. Pity, since what I could read there has been the only serious discussion I could find so far about the subjet. There is a lot of crap about it on the net and I am not really interested in the humillation side of this matter.

To the point. I intend to buy a strap-on for my wife to wear it and obviously fuck me with it. And I would apreciate any advice, specially from the ladies, in order to make the experience as pleasurable, exciting and memorable for her as possible.

Save me all that about letting a sinthetic phallus enter my ass meaning Im really gay. Im not, and if you'd had a wife like mine you would want to make love with her every possible way, too. If you guys think stimulating your prostate would turn you into a gay as if by magic, its you that have doubts about your orientation, not me. Maybe you are gay, so what? Nothing wrong with it.

Sorry for defending myself before the attack. As I said, I want my woman to enjoy it, and I know the roleplay part will turn her on no end. A few time we have made love as if she were the one fucking me with my own cock, in a way, and I love to see her expression, the look in her eyes.

I guess there may be some humillating aspects in some cases, but trust is the key. I wouldnt dare trying otherwise. Im looking for some strap that would give her pleasure too but being both rookies in this I dont want the experience to be frustrating, specially for her. Soooooo... any suggestion? I would specially like to hear from you ladies, since you can put yourselves in her shoes.

Thank you, all of you.

ratbastid · 10-27-2009, 06:51 PM

Sounds hot. I don't have any experience in this area, and so not a lot of advice to give you. I'm mostly posting to say: I'd be VERY surprised if you encountered much "boy-girl ass play means you're gay" attitude around here. We tend to be a lot more open-minded than.

Vigilante · 10-28-2009, 12:23 AM

Ha. Don't worry man, this is a very open-minded forum. You won't be flamed or called a flamer just because of some ass play. Really, you won't be called that here at all.

To be honest, my wife plays with my ass more than I play with her's. The main thing for a butt newb, is you need to relax. When you're all excited and eager, don't forget to relax. If you don't know this already, you will soon. hehe.

healer · 10-28-2009, 04:43 AM

The wife and I are beginning to experiment with various types of anal play, but we haven't progressed to the stage of her fucking me in the ass with a strap-on...yet. I know she'd love it.

I would check out something that stimulates her as well, while she stimulates you. Nexus makes a great double-dildo that can be worn with a harness that's received great reviews. Check it out here.

If you don't want to bother with a harness you could also try the Feeldoe, which I've heard can be worn worn without a harness.

Have fun.

Redlemon · 10-28-2009, 05:03 AM

Welcome, M_F_M!

How much have you talked to your wife about this? Is she already on-board, or do you need to negotiate this first? There's a fun movie called Young People Fucking, it would be rated R if it were released in the US (it wasn't). One of the couples in the movie successfully tries pegging. If you need a gentle way to introduce the topic, that might be it.

Has she already played with your ass? It would probably be best to broach that level of intimacy before you purchase a toy.

Finally, a toy that stimulates her as she fucks you may not be the best idea at the beginning. I understand that it takes quite a bit of coordination to figure out the hip thrusting rhythm, and if she's being distracted by a vibrator, it may be too much to deal with. Perhaps that is something to work up to.

Finally, regarding teasing: everyone has an asshole. Liking anal penetration doesn't make you gay. Wanting to have sex with men makes you gay.

Daniel_ · 10-28-2009, 11:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Redlemon

****snip*****

Wanting to have sex with men makes you gay.

My god! I married a gay. My wife LOVES sex with me and I'm a man!

Nisses · 10-28-2009, 02:10 PM

Daniel_: I believe there are certains parts of the country where you can have that marriage annuled if you can prove you didn't know about your gay spouse beforehand. All is not lost!

Redlemon · 10-29-2009, 04:54 AM

/ slaps forehead with hand

man_from_madrid · 10-30-2009, 06:43 AM

Thanks for your answers, everyone.

I have had a look at those mentioned by healer, I think the Nexus Jr would be a good choice to begin with, or even the best at all. I really dont need anything bigger, I just seek to feel her every hump (not sure I wrote that right, sorry).

And yes, Redlemon, the two of us still need a lot of talking before we even try. We have had some anal play before, not on a regular basis, but I took once four of her fingers. Ey, from time to time I get to play with hers too, but I believe she would much rather prefer not to have a direct contact with my rectum. Loves to fuck me too, when we exchange roles. Boy, our kitchen has seen quite some hot action...

So, control is the key even more than confort? I definitely want something that makes it worth the exercise apart from my own pleasure totally at her disposal, but do you think a vibrator device is out of place this soon?

MSD · 10-30-2009, 01:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by man_from_madrid

So, control is the key even more than confort? I definitely want something that makes it worth the exercise apart from my own pleasure totally at her disposal, but do you think a vibrator device is out of place this soon?

If you're new to ass toys, you might want to keep away from vibration at first because it can numb you just enough to mask any pain that would otherwise warn you that you need to slow down, stretch some more, or use more lube. You say you've taken 4 of her fingers before, so it sounds like this probably won't be an issue, but be careful.

StellaLuna · 11-06-2009, 06:20 PM

lurkette and I have a Feeldoe... I don't recommend it, really. It could just be that she and I are both shaped wrong for it, but we're super-uncomfortable and that does NOT make for sexy time.

Otherwise, madrid man, go get you some.

man_from_madrid · 11-12-2009, 01:53 AM

Thanks, StellaLuna, we need that kind of advice, because even if it looks great at first sight we dont want the thing to spoil the mood. It's worse than useless if it's not comfortable.

I showed my wife a jpg of the Nexus Jr. She went "YummMMMmmm!". Sounds promising. Anyway we would use an harness for sure, I dont want her to be too distracted holding the toy in place to lose all the fun.

Shunyata34 · 11-12-2009, 04:35 PM

You are one lucky dog to have a woman who will do this for you. I should have had that in my bio before getting married. If your not into anal, please go to the nearest exit!! Cuz now I am seriously thinking about trying to find someone who would do this for me, but at the same time I am torn. I don't want to cheat, but I also know there is no way my wife would do this and it is something I really want to do. She stuck her finger in me one time and cried afterward and said she didn't like it. Some men just get lucky I guess and you my friend are very lucky!! I have been very close to calling some escort girls who advertise they bring toys or pose wearing a strap-on.

Sharon over at the ladies lounge had me fantasing about her fantasy (strap on with your man)... to bad she already made it happen!! Because I would have been her guinea pig.

Salem · 11-12-2009, 09:48 PM

I definitly say go for it. Try things out, see what happens, start out slow, have fun and let us know how it goes!!

10-27-2009, 05:13 PM	#1 (permalink)
man_from_madrid Upright Location: Madrid (Spain)	Seeking advice about strap-on Hello everyone, and first of all, my apologies in advice for my poor english. As a matter of fact I intended to ask all this in a thread I read in the Ladies Lounge after a search with Google, but looks like that would be some kind of invasion, being a man. Pity, since what I could read there has been the only serious discussion I could find so far about the subjet. There is a lot of crap about it on the net and I am not really interested in the humillation side of this matter. To the point. I intend to buy a strap-on for my wife to wear it and obviously fuck me with it. And I would apreciate any advice, specially from the ladies, in order to make the experience as pleasurable, exciting and memorable for her as possible. Save me all that about letting a sinthetic phallus enter my ass meaning Im really gay. Im not, and if you'd had a wife like mine you would want to make love with her every possible way, too. If you guys think stimulating your prostate would turn you into a gay as if by magic, its you that have doubts about your orientation, not me. Maybe you are gay, so what? Nothing wrong with it. Sorry for defending myself before the attack. As I said, I want my woman to enjoy it, and I know the roleplay part will turn her on no end. A few time we have made love as if she were the one fucking me with my own cock, in a way, and I love to see her expression, the look in her eyes. I guess there may be some humillating aspects in some cases, but trust is the key. I wouldnt dare trying otherwise. Im looking for some strap that would give her pleasure too but being both rookies in this I dont want the experience to be frustrating, specially for her. Soooooo... any suggestion? I would specially like to hear from you ladies, since you can put yourselves in her shoes. Thank you, all of you.

10-28-2009, 12:23 AM	#3 (permalink)
Vigilante Broken Arrow Location: US	Ha. Don't worry man, this is a very open-minded forum. You won't be flamed or called a flamer just because of some ass play. Really, you won't be called that here at all. To be honest, my wife plays with my ass more than I play with her's. The main thing for a butt newb, is you need to relax. When you're all excited and eager, don't forget to relax. If you don't know this already, you will soon. hehe. __________________ We contend that for a nation to try to tax itself into prosperity is like a man standing in a bucket and trying to lift himself up by the handle. -Winston Churchill

10-28-2009, 05:03 AM	#5 (permalink)
Redlemon Devoted Donor Location: New England	Welcome, M_F_M! How much have you talked to your wife about this? Is she already on-board, or do you need to negotiate this first? There's a fun movie called Young People Fucking, it would be rated R if it were released in the US (it wasn't). One of the couples in the movie successfully tries pegging. If you need a gentle way to introduce the topic, that might be it. Has she already played with your ass? It would probably be best to broach that level of intimacy before you purchase a toy. Finally, a toy that stimulates her as she fucks you may not be the best idea at the beginning. I understand that it takes quite a bit of coordination to figure out the hip thrusting rhythm, and if she's being distracted by a vibrator, it may be too much to deal with. Perhaps that is something to work up to. Finally, regarding teasing: everyone has an asshole. Liking anal penetration doesn't make you gay. Wanting to have sex with men makes you gay. __________________ I can't read your signature. Sorry.

10-28-2009, 02:10 PM	#7 (permalink)
Nisses Shade Location: Belgium	Daniel_: I believe there are certains parts of the country where you can have that marriage annuled if you can prove you didn't know about your gay spouse beforehand. All is not lost! __________________ Moderation should be moderately moderated.

10-29-2009, 04:54 AM	#8 (permalink)
Redlemon Devoted Donor Location: New England	/ slaps forehead with hand __________________ I can't read your signature. Sorry.

10-27-2009, 06:51 PM	#2 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	Sounds hot. I don't have any experience in this area, and so not a lot of advice to give you. I'm mostly posting to say: I'd be VERY surprised if you encountered much "boy-girl ass play means you're gay" attitude around here. We tend to be a lot more open-minded than.

10-30-2009, 06:43 AM	#9 (permalink)
man_from_madrid Upright Location: Madrid (Spain)	Thanks for your answers, everyone. I have had a look at those mentioned by healer, I think the Nexus Jr would be a good choice to begin with, or even the best at all. I really dont need anything bigger, I just seek to feel her every hump (not sure I wrote that right, sorry). And yes, Redlemon, the two of us still need a lot of talking before we even try. We have had some anal play before, not on a regular basis, but I took once four of her fingers. Ey, from time to time I get to play with hers too, but I believe she would much rather prefer not to have a direct contact with my rectum. Loves to fuck me too, when we exchange roles. Boy, our kitchen has seen quite some hot action... So, control is the key even more than confort? I definitely want something that makes it worth the exercise apart from my own pleasure totally at her disposal, but do you think a vibrator device is out of place this soon?

11-06-2009, 06:20 PM	#11 (permalink)
StellaLuna Psycho Location: hiding behind wings	lurkette and I have a Feeldoe... I don't recommend it, really. It could just be that she and I are both shaped wrong for it, but we're super-uncomfortable and that does NOT make for sexy time. Otherwise, madrid man, go get you some. __________________ Screw tradition!

11-12-2009, 01:53 AM	#12 (permalink)
man_from_madrid Upright Location: Madrid (Spain)	Thanks, StellaLuna, we need that kind of advice, because even if it looks great at first sight we dont want the thing to spoil the mood. It's worse than useless if it's not comfortable. I showed my wife a jpg of the Nexus Jr. She went "YummMMMmmm!". Sounds promising. Anyway we would use an harness for sure, I dont want her to be too distracted holding the toy in place to lose all the fun.

11-12-2009, 04:35 PM	#13 (permalink)
Shunyata34 Upright Location: Washington State	You are one lucky dog to have a woman who will do this for you. I should have had that in my bio before getting married. If your not into anal, please go to the nearest exit!! Cuz now I am seriously thinking about trying to find someone who would do this for me, but at the same time I am torn. I don't want to cheat, but I also know there is no way my wife would do this and it is something I really want to do. She stuck her finger in me one time and cried afterward and said she didn't like it. Some men just get lucky I guess and you my friend are very lucky!! I have been very close to calling some escort girls who advertise they bring toys or pose wearing a strap-on. Sharon over at the ladies lounge had me fantasing about her fantasy (strap on with your man)... to bad she already made it happen!! Because I would have been her guinea pig. Last edited by Shunyata34; 11-12-2009 at 04:42 PM..

11-12-2009, 09:48 PM	#14 (permalink)
Salem Psycho Location: Canada	I definitly say go for it. Try things out, see what happens, start out slow, have fun and let us know how it goes!!