anal play for beginners - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

vancityboi · 01-02-2009, 01:02 PM

So my gf has brought up anal play for her. I have never done anything like this so i dont even know where to start. What are the general things i should do to warm her butt hole up? what are some things she should do to prepare herself? lube/diet/bowel movement..All we have so far are water based lube and a discreet vibe. Thanks in advance

lostgirl · 01-02-2009, 01:38 PM

Here are a few threads that may help

http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/tilted-...-any-tips.html

http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/tilted-...beginners.html

vancityboi · 01-02-2009, 01:41 PM

ty lost girl. my attempt at using the search function was fruitless since i still had to go through ALOT of threads

Plan9 · 01-02-2009, 01:41 PM

...or hit up Google.

The Internet was designed by Al Gore in 1992 to allow all free citizens of the world with computers and modems to access porn and global warming information.

...

Key to success? Don't pull a Scorpions and rock it like a hurricane the first time. Be gentle. Use patience along with your lube.

Stare At The Sun · 01-02-2009, 01:43 PM

Eros silicon lube is pretty amazing as far as lube goes, and its far better than water based lubes.

When you're talking about anal, its important to be relaxed, and realize that sometimes you'll end up with some poo in places you would rather it wouldn't be. Its just a risk you take. Be realistic about it, don't go eat Mexican food before anal, etc. From my experience, if you're just talking about fingering her ass during sex, I wouldn't worry about BM's, because there is nothing there for the first 3-4 inches. So that's almost OK.

Eh, if you're going full on sex, I advise getting a small anal plug and working your way up. Biggest things to remember are start small, use lots of lube, be relaxed, and be comfortable. Have fun and enjoy it, anal can add a lot to sex.

Also, for you, remember that anal stimulation on the surface is great for her too, just get some lube on your thumb, and gently rub her ass. Light touches can be good. Just find out what she wants and go with it. But its a good thing to use other toys like a vibe to keep her in the mood and turned on.

I do advise reading up from other sites though. This kind of trial and error can be a lot of fun, just don't pressure anything/don't force anything, and be clear/open in your communication both during and after sex.

mk im done

Plan9 · 01-02-2009, 01:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by vancityboi

ty lost girl. my attempt at using the search function was fruitless since i still had to go through ALOT of threads

That's right... the TFP: Where the F really means anal sex.

Strange Famous · 01-02-2009, 01:51 PM

I would advise you to have none of this kind of malarky.

It's just not right!

dlish · 01-02-2009, 02:38 PM

SF - any reason you think this sort of behaviour is not on?

what makes it 'not right'? have you had any personal experiences that you'd like to share to help benefit the rest of the community?

edit: im neither for nor against..i cant say ive tried it and i cant say i will, i just dont have an opinion at the moment

Stare At The Sun · 01-02-2009, 08:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Strange Famous

I would advise you to have none of this kind of malarky.

It's just not right!

Avoid the naysayers. Anal, when done right adds a lot to a persons sex life, and if you're open to it, you'll enjoy it!

The_Jazz · 01-03-2009, 07:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Strange Famous

I would advise you to have none of this kind of malarky.

It's just not right!

And THAT, my friends, is good enough reason to try it.

SabrinaFair · 01-03-2009, 07:58 AM

I'll just rehash what's been said before--lube, patience, and relaxation are the trifecta of successful anal play.

It's not my favorite thing on the menu, personally, but I'm glad I've had the experience.

vancityboi · 01-03-2009, 09:27 AM

Ty ty for the great advices. This is why I love TFP

Plan9 · 01-03-2009, 11:24 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The_Jazz

And THAT, my friends, is good enough reason to try it.

Man... I haven't slid into some nice tight malarky in forever.

01-02-2009, 01:02 PM	#1 (permalink)
vancityboi Tilted Location: Vancouver,BC	anal play for beginners So my gf has brought up anal play for her. I have never done anything like this so i dont even know where to start. What are the general things i should do to warm her butt hole up? what are some things she should do to prepare herself? lube/diet/bowel movement..All we have so far are water based lube and a discreet vibe. Thanks in advance __________________ I reject your reality and substitute my own -MythBusters Life is easier to measure by experience points -Watch The Guild

01-02-2009, 01:41 PM	#3 (permalink)
vancityboi Tilted Location: Vancouver,BC	ty lost girl. my attempt at using the search function was fruitless since i still had to go through ALOT of threads __________________ I reject your reality and substitute my own -MythBusters Life is easier to measure by experience points -Watch The Guild

01-02-2009, 01:41 PM	#4 (permalink)
Plan9 I Confess a Shiver	...or hit up Google. The Internet was designed by Al Gore in 1992 to allow all free citizens of the world with computers and modems to access porn and global warming information. ... Key to success? Don't pull a Scorpions and rock it like a hurricane the first time. Be gentle. Use patience along with your lube. __________________ *Whatever you can carry.* "You should not drink... and bake." Last edited by Plan9; 01-02-2009 at 01:45 PM..

01-02-2009, 01:51 PM	#7 (permalink)
Strange Famous follower of the child's crusade?	I would advise you to have none of this kind of malarky. It's just not right! __________________ "Do not tell lies, and do not do what you hate, for all things are plain in the sight of Heaven. For nothing hidden will not become manifest, and nothing covered will remain without being uncovered." The Gospel of Thomas

01-02-2009, 02:38 PM	#8 (permalink)
dlish Currently sour but formerly Dlishs Super Moderator Location: Australia/UAE	SF - any reason you think this sort of behaviour is not on? what makes it 'not right'? have you had any personal experiences that you'd like to share to help benefit the rest of the community? edit: im neither for nor against..i cant say ive tried it and i cant say i will, i just dont have an opinion at the moment __________________ An injustice anywhere, is an injustice everywhere I always sign my facebook comments with ()()===========(}. Does that make me gay? - Filthy Last edited by dlish; 01-03-2009 at 12:10 AM..

01-02-2009, 01:38 PM	#2 (permalink)
lostgirl lightform Location: Edge of the deep green sea	Here are a few threads that may help http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/tilted-...-any-tips.html http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/tilted-...beginners.html

01-02-2009, 01:43 PM	#5 (permalink)
Stare At The Sun Eh? Location: Somewhere over the rainbow	Eros silicon lube is pretty amazing as far as lube goes, and its far better than water based lubes. When you're talking about anal, its important to be relaxed, and realize that sometimes you'll end up with some poo in places you would rather it wouldn't be. Its just a risk you take. Be realistic about it, don't go eat Mexican food before anal, etc. From my experience, if you're just talking about fingering her ass during sex, I wouldn't worry about BM's, because there is nothing there for the first 3-4 inches. So that's almost OK. Eh, if you're going full on sex, I advise getting a small anal plug and working your way up. Biggest things to remember are start small, use lots of lube, be relaxed, and be comfortable. Have fun and enjoy it, anal can add a lot to sex. Also, for you, remember that anal stimulation on the surface is great for her too, just get some lube on your thumb, and gently rub her ass. Light touches can be good. Just find out what she wants and go with it. But its a good thing to use other toys like a vibe to keep her in the mood and turned on. I do advise reading up from other sites though. This kind of trial and error can be a lot of fun, just don't pressure anything/don't force anything, and be clear/open in your communication both during and after sex. mk im done

01-03-2009, 07:58 AM	#11 (permalink)
SabrinaFair Junkie Location: Louisville, KY	I'll just rehash what's been said before--lube, patience, and relaxation are the trifecta of successful anal play. It's not my favorite thing on the menu, personally, but I'm glad I've had the experience. __________________ "With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy." -Desiderata

01-03-2009, 09:27 AM	#12 (permalink)
vancityboi Tilted Location: Vancouver,BC	Ty ty for the great advices. This is why I love TFP __________________ I reject your reality and substitute my own -MythBusters Life is easier to measure by experience points -Watch The Guild