Miss Mango

Does anyone have any home remedies, or something along those lines, for increasing sex drive?

I pretty much lost mine when I went on the depo provera. Ive been off since October 07 and my periods/etc are returning to normal but I still have little or no sex drive. The only time I feel remotely horny is when Ive been drinking (wine, specifically) but this of course makes my BF think I have to get drunk to be attracted to him! (Totally not true.)

Ive tried porn, toys, etc.. it either doesnt work or works once and then boring. I dont know what to do, and its affecting our relationship. Next stop is going to the doctor but Ill feel like a bit of a twit doing that so Im hoping you guys have some advice first.

Vlad

Well, since it started when you went on the birth control, it makes sense that this could be more of a chemical issue than a mental one, meaning that things like porn and toys probably won't do a whole lot.

So, I'd say that the doctor's probably the best bet to try and figure it out.

levite

Going to your doctor is your best bet, since it's probably a chemical side effect of your medication.

Nonetheless, if you're especially eager to experiment before going to get actual medical advice, try drinking the following tea (some ingredients require a visit to your local herbarist).

about 1 tbsp fresh grated ginger
about 2 tbsp fresh grated galanga root, or 2 generous pinches dried, crushed galanga
4 generous pinches powdered or crushed ginseng root
3-4 generous pinches powdered or crushed jimson's herb ("horny goat weed")
1 generous pinch powdered or crushed mandrake root
1 pinch dried lavender
6 dried rose buds
about 1 small stalk dried lemon grass, or 1/3 small stalk fresh
2 generous pinches of powdered coriander, or about 1/8-1/4 tsp whole seeds, well crushed
8 cardamom seeds, well cracked
1 twist fresh cracked black pepper
zest of 1/3-1/2 fresh lime

Steep all this well, for a long time, over a low flame, in about 24 ounces of water.

Try to drink this twice a day (warm or cooled, doesn't matter). It works better if you also eat at least 1/2 a mango per day, along with a little pineapple. Also, if you plan to drink alcohol, drink red wine, not distilled spirits-- hard liquor will interfere with the effectiveness of the tea. White wine will not interfere, but will not help. Red wine will help, if not drunk to excess.

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777

Well, for men, I'd recommend the porno, but for a woman, I was wondering if you've tryed reading erotica? Try one of the Susie Bright book of short stories.

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Baraka_Guru

I can speak a bit about physical remedies as opposed to psychological.

• Exercise: Cardio three to five days per week, resistance training once or twice per week.
  
• Stress management. (Consider a vitamin B complex and a vitamin C supplement for stress reduction. But relaxation techniques are important.)
  
• Proper sleeping habits.
  
• No more than one alcoholic beverage per day (for women...it's two for men). Don't use alcohol as a crutch in this respect.
  
• Have sex regularly. The more you have it, the better you get at it. (Or so I've read.)

There are a number of "natural remedies" out there, but I'm not sure about their effectiveness. If you can get into your best physical shape (the both of you), your sex drive should by nature be switched on. Exercising together is a bonus.

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Or you can read user submitted stories at sites such as literotica.com

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Willravel

Levite speaks the truth (high five). Go talk to your doctor immediately.

Personally, I've found that my sex drive increases when I date asian women. Somehow I don't think that'd work for you. I would STRONGLY recommend full body massages from your SO. Oil, towels and everything. Let it build over days or weeks.