TheMadHatter

Hello,

As you can tell I'm new to this forum, though I've browsed a few times. People hear seem to be good with advice and have a wide spectrum of experiences.

So I have a question that I'm far to shy to ask a doctor about.

I have Phimosis (A tight foreskin that doesn't retract. Think balloon being stretched over a steering wheel). What can I do. I'm in my mid twenties and I really don't want to get circumcised. If there was some way of me being able to deal with this on my own without getting professional help, it would be great.

It did stretch all the way a few times when I was with my ex 4 years ago, but then didn't roll forward fully. Quite uncomfortable. Basically the head hasn't rubbed on anything in my entire life, so going with the foreskin would be very painful.

It's caused a lot of self-esteem issues, and stopped me getting close of woman because I know that I can't perform fully. Sorta sucks when I want kids some day. I could just go for it and meet a girl and explain the problem and just try get it to stretch again, but that really wasn't that pleasant and my ex found it almost as frustrating. Though, admittedly she was a bitch who kept cheating on me.

Hopefully someone here as had, or heard of, a similar problem and can offer some advice. I just hope it isn't the person here who actually knows me

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This is really something you should consult a doctor for. Getting circumcised may not be the only option. Who knows? They might have other ideas or treatments for it. A doctor is probably your best chance for advice on this one.

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i second the see a doctor, they know best.

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Challah

You should definitely speak to your doctor about that. Your junk should not be a testing ground for home remedies.

World's King

I may be because I don't have a foreskin anymore... but...


What the fuck are you talking about?

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If you are embarassed about stating your problem, tell the receptionist that the appointment is for 'male problems' or something like that. You can print your original post, if you need to, and take it with you.

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Halx

I'm confused. You can't even roll the foreskin back when you're flaccid?

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Carno

Skin stretches.

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TheMadHatter

No

I only realised it was a problem when I was about 16 or so.

Thanks for the advice. Everyone is saying "Doctor doctor doctor"... Maybe I should go see a doctor. I'll have to give it some serious thought.

Thanks

JStrider

I am circumsized so I dont have any personal experience...

I would think you could use some lotion to keep the skin soft and healthy
and then spend 15 or so minutes a couple times a day with it pulled back or partially pulled back to help stretch the skin and stimulate growth to loosen it.

skin will grow if you pull on it enough...

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See a urologist, and quickly. Your foreskin could act as a tourniquet if it gets really swollen and cut off blood supply to the little brain. Emergency surgery on the penis isnt fun.

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Penis problems = Doctor.

Waaaaay too important to leave to chance.

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brownstick899

I had the exact same condition that you do. I started stretching when I was 17 years old after I had gotten serious with a girl. At the time I had phimosis and couldn't even retract the foreskin while erect. She didnt think anything of it and just thought I was unique. I knew I was not normal and wanted to do something about it. After researching it online, I found out that the best solution was stretching. So I started stretching once a day while showering. I would place both index fingers on the inside of the foreskin where the phimotic ring is and pull outwards slightly. Be careful because it is easy to tear the foreskin without knowing creating whitish scars. After a few months I could retract the foreskin while flaccid. And about half way down the glans while erect. If you can already pull you foreskin behind the glands while its erect and it gets stuck thats ok just wait until you're flaccid to pull it back over no worries. I had the same problem but continued stretching in the shower and I noticed that normal masturbation helped extremely. When I say normal I mean pulling the foreskin all the way down even if its difficult. It took awhile for my condition to go away and made me think stretching wasn't the solution so at age 19 I went to see a urologist. At the time I had the condition you do now and told the doctor this. (Told doctor I had partial phimosis meaning I could retract foreskin while flaccid but if I tried while erect it is difficult or would get stuck.) He said there was nothing he could do except circumcision. Hell no was I going to get a circumcision so I continued with what I had been doing. Now I currently have no issues what so ever except for that my glands are really sensitive causing me to climax quickly and a little discomfort but slowly getting less sensitive. Think of it this way, when you're in your mid 30's your sensitivity would be that of a 20 year old. The pros are way better too, wont have erectile dysfunction later in life, the climaxes are extreme and I mean extreme haha also in my case it made me larger, a good 2 inches. Im actually kind of glad that I had phimosis. I felt the same way you do too in that I felt embarassed a girl would think i was weird but let me tell you they really dont care. There are some that would think its weird but that just means she didn't understand your situation. Let me know if this helped you out.

MSD

I was about to give some advice, then I noticed it was an old thread. I hope he got his penis problems worked out since then.

brownstick899 - good contribution, but splitting it up into a few paragraphs would go a long way toward making it more easily readable.

james t kirk

How does one properly wash with such a condition?

I'd simply opt for the circumcision and be done with it.

Xerxys

^^ Like a hair cut. This is the 21st century. Get rid of the thing. You're just asking for UTI's and other hygene related infections when you miss a day of cleaning because you were in a rush or simply forgot.

Plu think of the releif of not having to deal with inspecting yourself so closely EVERYDAY!

inBOIL

I just had this thought: if youretract the foreskin while erect and it gets stuck, could it act like a cock ring and slow the deflation of the glans relative to the rest of the penis?

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ASU2003

This is the problem with the US health care industry. Instead of telling the guy to gently, but consistently stretch the opening for a few weeks or months, the easy option is also the option that makes them the most money. Now, it won't cost the individual that much, but the insurance company will have to pay for something that would be better off fixing with a low-tech solution.

Ayashe

This is actually a rather false statement. Consider for a moment that there are very few physician owned practices these days, meaning that the physicians are paid employees like everyone else. Consider also that there also is in many cases a contract between payers(aka insurance companies) and providers offices(whether physician owned or corporate owned) that gives a yearly allowance for medical care per patient. Consider also that payers audit the provider offices to ensure that the appropriate care is provided at the appropriate time for the appropriate patient. Back to the original topic.

To give perform surgery when a patient does not wish it without offering alternatives when they are available is an open door to malpractice. It is a part of informed consent to explain alternatives and possible complications. If your physician is not offering you this information, that is a clue that you are not seeing a very good doctor. It may not be an issue of what pays better, surgery or its alternatives, it may be that it is his/her belief that it is the quickest route to the better outcome. Physicians who have been in practice over many years definitely do generally come up with some biasis as far as which procedures are best. A circumcision undoubtedly would be considered a rather simple surgery (to the surgeon) with little risk.

Seeing as this thread was added to fairly recently I assume there is still some interest in this problem. Mind you I have not worked in Urology for 8 years or so but I remember this as a fairly common problem. There are two basic nonsurgical remedies. The first as already mentioned is daily stretching. If you cannot be bothered to stretch daily, you should probably consider the Circumcision for one basic reason. If you aren't willing to tend to your penis in this manner you probably find the hygiene of the penis an irritating chore as well. Granted everyone should be keeping their parts clean, some are just better at it than others.

Another option if you want to rush the stretching a bit is to ask for a steroid cream. This has been reported as widely successful. This is generally used with manual stretching, it tends to pick up the pace considerably. I believe betamethasone was used most often. Now, the downside of using steroid creams on this area is that it can also promote yeast growth. If you are prone to jock itch or are diabetic it is probably not going to be the best for you.

Now another thought regarding surgery. What type? There are complete circumcisions, partial(loose) circumcisions, Preputioplasty and a procedure known as a dorsal slit. I would suggest before seeking a surgical option to do a web search, look at photos, print some off that you are considering and bring them to your physicians office at the time of your consult. (many people do that for their haircut, why not for the penis?) This will clearly identify what your expectations are after the procedure. That way you shouldn't encounter any confusion between your definition and the surgeons definition. Tell the surgeons your concerns, what you hope to avoid and also listen to his suggestions after examination. Realize that one option that you prefer may not be feasible due to the amount of skin available, the level of phimosis you have, the length/width of your penis etc. Remember that although your surgeon is working for you, he has only the material that you have to come to the final result. Also a longstanding statement regarding medical care comes to mind, it is not called the "practice of medicine" for no good reason. It is a field of ever expanding ideas and knowledge, and also each person's body is definitely unique.

Now when you go to the doctors office. Regarding feeling nervous or embarrassed, don't be. There is no reason to be, it is a common issue, nothing to be ashamed of and I can assure you that there have been far more interesting scenarios in the office than a case of phimosis. In the medical office when someone presents for an issue of their penis it is no different to the staff than seeing a runny nose, seeing a mole, seeing a sore throat. It is a matter to be taken care of, a part of the job and certainly not seen as something erotic. If you don't wish to discuss the matter with the nurse (or the scheduler) tell them it is personal and you wish to discuss it with the doctor directly. This can at times slow down care as we cannot prepare properly for your visit, but if it makes you more comfortable go for it.

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