Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community  

Go Back   Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community > The Academy > Tilted Sexuality


 
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
Old 01-10-2008, 12:08 AM   #41 (permalink)
Junkie
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by TotalMILF
I agree with what most other people are saying - counseling. Lots of it, for both of you. There are a lot of other emotions (and maybe even health conditions?) that are likely involved and she needs professional help.

Gss, not every girl has been raped but many have. Most guys have never been sexually assaulted, so of course you have no idea what it's like or how it can affect you. A few days before my 16th birthday my boyfriend at the time and I were fooling around (fingering, hand job, oral). I was still a virgin and he knew I wasn't ready for sex, but he climbed on top of me and pinned me down anyway. I asked him to stop, not to do what I knew he was going to do. He did the whole "but I love you so much, baby" thing while I protested and cried, then he took my virginity. Eventually I screamed in pain and he let me up. The really, really stupid part is that I stayed with him after that for several more months, enduring his abuse because "I loved him," and it definitely ended up affecting my libido and my sex life for many years after that. I associated sex with fear, guilt, pain and sadness until someone finally showed me that sex can be wonderful and passionate and extremely pleasurable (thanks Xeph!)

In this situation there really isn't a whole lot a guy can do but support his girl while she deals with her emotions. Get counseling (individual and couple) and take things slowly. Communicate. Be honest.

Good luck
My goodness! I'm sorry that's how your first time was hun! I had a similar experience for my first time as well. Not a good one. I wish I had done something different at the time but it just feels like a dream where you can't get up and run. Oh well. The good thing is you're past it and all is better with your wonderful man. You strong brave woman!
surferlove007 is offline  
 

Tags
afraid, hurting, wife

Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 03:14 PM.

Tilted Forum Project

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2024, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.6.0 PL2
© 2002-2012 Tilted Forum Project

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47 48 49 50 51 52 53 54 55 56 57 58 59 60 61 62 63 64 65 66 67 68 69 70 71 72 73 74 75 76 77 78 79 80 81 82 83 84 85 86 87 88 89 90 91 92 93 94 95 96 97 98 99 100 101 102 103 104 105 106 107 108 109 110 111 112 113 114 115 116 117 118 119 120 121 122 123 124 125 126 127 128 129 130 131 132 133 134 135 136 137 138 139 140 141 142 143 144 145 146 147 148 149 150 151 152 153 154 155 156 157 158 159 160 161 162 163 164 165 166 167 168 169 170 171 172 173 174 175 176 177 178 179 180 181 182 183 184 185 186 187 188 189 190 191 192 193 194 195 196 197 198 199 200 201 202 203 204 205 206 207 208 209 210 211 212 213 214 215 216 217 218 219 220 221 222 223 224 225 226 227 228 229 230 231 232 233 234 235 236 237 238 239 240 241 242 243 244 245 246 247 248 249 250 251 252 253 254 255 256 257 258 259 260 261 262 263 264 265 266 267 268 269 270 271 272 273 274 275 276 277 278 279 280 281 282 283 284 285 286 287 288 289 290 291 292 293 294 295 296 297 298 299 300 301 302 303 304 305 306 307 308 309 310 311 312 313 314 315 316 317 318 319 320 321 322 323 324 325 326 327 328 329 330 331 332 333 334 335 336 337 338 339 340 341 342 343 344 345 346 347 348 349 350 351 352 353 354 355 356 357 358 359 360