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MarcellaMel · 12-12-2006, 07:03 PM

Ok I am new to this group first of all and this is my first thread so here I go. My husband and I of almost 3 years just had our first baby and well, we used to enjoy anal sex now and then but we did not not do it too often. Now I have had a baby 5 months ago and we have not tried it since I was about 4 months prego. I know this is alot of info but I had hemmies so how do we begin to enjoy anal again without serious pain? Can I ever enjoy it again? I really want to suprise him one night soon. Help please.

Sage · 12-12-2006, 07:24 PM

In my expierence, the best thing you can do for anal sex is just relax and have fun! Myself, I enjoy anal the best after a little of the "regular" sex as a warm up. Be sure to use plenty of lube and go as slow as you need to.

I really, seriously don't see why giving birth would have any impact on anal sex enjoyment. However, there's lots of good guides to anal sex at www.goodvibes.com (Good Vibrations website) and www.stockroom.com (JT's Stockroom website). Two great sites with lots of sex toys, books, and videos- and where a goodly portion of my christmas presents to myself are coming from!

abaya · 12-12-2006, 08:33 PM

Well, I guess the most important thing is, how are your "hemmies" now? (cute word, btw, and much better than the usual one) That would be my main concern, regardless of the pregnancy.

MarcellaMel · 12-12-2006, 09:11 PM

Well, they are better but I was told that once you have them they are there for life. And for months until more recent weeks even a large BM would hurt so that is why I am so concerned.

Mister Coaster · 12-13-2006, 11:27 AM

For me and the wife, it seems to have been just the opposite. We had done anal a few times, very few actually, like 2-3 times in the first 9 years we were together. I never really thought is was all that great. I preferred regular sex or BJ's to anal. After she had a baby (can't exactly remember how long after) we went for it, and HOLY SMOKES! Everything "down there" seemed to loosen up and felt SO much better for both of us. I couldn't beleive how great it was. (I'm erect just typing the story...)

She never had the "hemmies" so don't know how that may have adversly affected it.

MSD · 12-14-2006, 12:23 PM

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Originally Posted by MarcellaMel

And for months until more recent weeks even a large BM would hurt so that is why I am so concerned.

I really think you answered your own question with that statement.

Viking1064 · 12-14-2006, 01:04 PM

My wife had "hemmies" after childbirth. Every once in awhile they come back. I feel horrible for her. Anyway, if they are not acting up, she can have anal sex with no more pain that the usual. Anal also did not make the "hemmies" come back. Just be careful, slow and gentle. I hope it all works out for you. Congrats on the baby.

Acetylene · 12-16-2006, 07:00 AM

I would try getting a soft silicone toy that is about the same size as your husband's penis. Lube it up and see if it hurts or feels good. You willl probably want to check for pain before you have anal every time since the hemmies can be better some times, worse others (or so I have heard).

12-12-2006, 07:03 PM	#1 (permalink)
MarcellaMel Upright Location: Las Vegas	Anal sex after birth???? Ok I am new to this group first of all and this is my first thread so here I go. My husband and I of almost 3 years just had our first baby and well, we used to enjoy anal sex now and then but we did not not do it too often. Now I have had a baby 5 months ago and we have not tried it since I was about 4 months prego. I know this is alot of info but I had hemmies so how do we begin to enjoy anal again without serious pain? Can I ever enjoy it again? I really want to suprise him one night soon. Help please.

12-12-2006, 07:24 PM	#2 (permalink)
Sage hoarding all the big girl panties since 2005 Location: North side	In my expierence, the best thing you can do for anal sex is just relax and have fun! Myself, I enjoy anal the best after a little of the "regular" sex as a warm up. Be sure to use plenty of lube and go as slow as you need to. I really, seriously don't see why giving birth would have any impact on anal sex enjoyment. However, there's lots of good guides to anal sex at www.goodvibes.com (Good Vibrations website) and www.stockroom.com (JT's Stockroom website). Two great sites with lots of sex toys, books, and videos- and where a goodly portion of my christmas presents to myself are coming from! __________________ Sage knows our mythic history, King Arthur's and Sir Caradoc's She answers hard acrostics, has a pretty taste for paradox She quotes in elegiacs all the crimes of Heliogabalus In conics she can floor peculiarities parabolous -C'hi

12-12-2006, 08:33 PM	#3 (permalink)
abaya Location: Iceland	Well, I guess the most important thing is, how are your "hemmies" now? (cute word, btw, and much better than the usual one) That would be my main concern, regardless of the pregnancy. __________________ And think not you can direct the course of Love; for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course. --Khalil Gibran

12-13-2006, 11:27 AM	#5 (permalink)
Mister Coaster Big & Brassy Location: The "Canyon"	For me and the wife, it seems to have been just the opposite. We had done anal a few times, very few actually, like 2-3 times in the first 9 years we were together. I never really thought is was all that great. I preferred regular sex or BJ's to anal. After she had a baby (can't exactly remember how long after) we went for it, and HOLY SMOKES! Everything "down there" seemed to loosen up and felt SO much better for both of us. I couldn't beleive how great it was. (I'm erect just typing the story...) She never had the "hemmies" so don't know how that may have adversly affected it. __________________ If you have any poo... fling it NOW!

12-16-2006, 07:00 AM	#8 (permalink)
Acetylene Addict Location: under a rock	I would try getting a soft silicone toy that is about the same size as your husband's penis. Lube it up and see if it hurts or feels good. You willl probably want to check for pain before you have anal every time since the hemmies can be better some times, worse others (or so I have heard). __________________ There's no justice. There's just us.

12-12-2006, 09:11 PM	#4 (permalink)
MarcellaMel Upright Location: Las Vegas	Well, they are better but I was told that once you have them they are there for life. And for months until more recent weeks even a large BM would hurt so that is why I am so concerned.

12-14-2006, 01:04 PM	#7 (permalink)
Viking1064 Insane Location: New Jersey	My wife had "hemmies" after childbirth. Every once in awhile they come back. I feel horrible for her. Anyway, if they are not acting up, she can have anal sex with no more pain that the usual. Anal also did not make the "hemmies" come back. Just be careful, slow and gentle. I hope it all works out for you. Congrats on the baby.