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Old 09-10-2006, 08:26 AM   #1 (permalink)
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If someone says I don't know if I miss you or miss having a boyfriend and that they need space the chances of this working out in the guys favour do not exist.
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Old 09-10-2006, 08:30 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Huh? Is everything okay, dude?
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Old 09-10-2006, 08:36 AM   #3 (permalink)
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That's what was said to me. I was asking the wise folks of TFP to confirm my beliefs that nothing good can come from that.
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Old 09-10-2006, 08:51 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Old 09-10-2006, 08:56 AM   #5 (permalink)
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I wonder if anyone has ever actually had this sort of situation turn out good.
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Old 09-10-2006, 09:11 AM   #6 (permalink)
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Sadly I much doubt it, Slim.

Sorry.
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Old 09-10-2006, 10:54 AM   #7 (permalink)
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Sounds kinda rocky at best Slim. Almost like what I'd call, "Wishy washy".

Wishy washy remarks are never very clear and if they aren't clear, my bet is they aren't clear on anything, muchless a relationship IMO.
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Old 09-10-2006, 03:06 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Well, it sounds like if she gets back together with the guy there it's settling. And people who settle are just putting off the conflict and pain for later when it's worse.
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Old 09-10-2006, 06:01 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Sounds kinda rocky at best Slim. Almost like what I'd call, "Wishy washy".

Wishy washy remarks are never very clear and if they aren't clear, my bet is they aren't clear on anything, muchless a relationship IMO.
I basically told her I don't want a relationship in the immediate future, but I would like to keep going with things and see where they go (we broke up but have been seeing each other a bit lately).
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Old 09-10-2006, 06:25 PM   #10 (permalink)
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I hereby reaffirm your belief ...

Those are the words of someone who wants to end things but is afraid of being direct about it.

Game over. Move on.
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Old 09-11-2006, 06:57 AM   #11 (permalink)
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Break up, move on. Sorry and best of luck!
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Old 09-11-2006, 08:09 AM   #12 (permalink)
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Sorry Slim...

I'm 44 years old, and I've never seen anything positive follow those words. It's as tired a breakup line as; "It's not you...it's me".

Only slightly better than; "So-and-so (usually your best friend) and I have been talking a lot lately, and...".

It sounds to me as if she wants her freedom. Take some advise from the old guy...give it to her. Trust me. You'll both end up happier for it.

Good luck, man.
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Old 09-11-2006, 09:50 AM   #13 (permalink)
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"I'm not sure", "Maybe", "I don't know" have all been phrases signifying the slow crumble of a relationship in my past experience.
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Old 09-11-2006, 02:24 PM   #14 (permalink)
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umm, I'm the "move on" type, so I have nothing to offer but this:

Move on, and good luck
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Old 09-11-2006, 02:34 PM   #15 (permalink)
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If someone says I don't know if I miss you or miss having a boyfriend and that they need space the chances of this working out in the guys favour do not exist.
Sadly this is a sign that things are already beyond salvage.
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Old 09-11-2006, 04:04 PM   #16 (permalink)
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I know as a female, the only reason I would say that (not that I would but hear me out) is if I was pretty sure I was done with the relationship but I didn't want to let go until I found the next guy.

It's a done deal when you get that line.
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Old 09-11-2006, 04:24 PM   #17 (permalink)
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Yeah, I'm with Kaliena on this one. Sorry Slim.
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Old 09-11-2006, 04:44 PM   #18 (permalink)
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Even if this was the 1 in ten thousand case where she really might just need "space" and "time" (e.g. parents divorcing, grandma is ill, adjusting her dose of lithium ... etc) then just move on anyway - because, when she's good and ready, she'll come to you .... however unlikely - but don't hold your breath.


When my heart gets stomped on there's one silly song that always cheers me up and even makes me laugh (and I'm not a sappy guy who stews in mood songs) - It's the classic "Everybody Plays the Fool" by The Main Ingredient. I don't know if it works for anyone else but this one works for me so give it a try.

Just for you, buddy - the link will take you to a site where you can download - just pick "free" download http://rapidshare.de/files/32799179/...s_the_Fool.m4p

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Old 09-12-2006, 03:17 AM   #19 (permalink)
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I know as a female, the only reason I would say that (not that I would but hear me out) is if I was pretty sure I was done with the relationship but I didn't want to let go until I found the next guy.

It's a done deal when you get that line.
that's pretty much exactly what's happening. She was just lonely, but now she realises there's all these guys out there for her. She's told me that guys are the last thing on her mind right now, which is not what I've heard from other people. Oh well, you win some you lose some life goes on. No sadness here, just dissapointment.
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Old 09-12-2006, 05:27 AM   #20 (permalink)
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No sadness here, just dissapointment.
Not quite sure that I completely believe that...but, good luck to you, anyway.

I promise you that there is something much better for you, down the road.
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Old 09-12-2006, 07:12 AM   #21 (permalink)
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Good luck! There are way better women out there for you
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Old 09-12-2006, 09:29 PM   #22 (permalink)
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Not quite sure that I completely believe that...but, good luck to you, anyway.

I promise you that there is something much better for you, down the road.
It was a relationship that ended a couple of months ago that sort of started up again. I asked what was going on before I developed the feelings I had again, therefore no sadness.
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