naszune

Back in High School, I had my small circle of good friends, and around my junior year, I met a Wonderful girl. We had our ups and downs, and looking back at it now, I miss those days very much.

Towards the end of my Senior year, I just let my life decay and fall to pieces, I stopped talking to friends, gave up my job, and just stopped bothering to save up for a car. And, started to neglect this wonderful girl.
She finally left me, and like most guys, I got angry about it (even though all I did was watch TV and play video games all day). I handled everything horribly.

My parents got me to go through college, first few semesters, I was still apathetic about life, barely keeping my grades above a 2.0 GPA. After that, I just stopped going for a semester.

About 2 months ago, came the day I looked back at my life, wondering what I was gonna do with myself, and thought back to my High School days when things were much better. It occured to me just how great everything felt when I thought about the times I spent with the girl . Strangely enough, that same day I went back to the college campus, signed up for the next semester classes. The semester started just over a month ago, and I've made certain to turn in every assignment on time and my grades have never been this good before.

After getting my classes set up, I did something else quite strange that day, I went and signed up for a gym membership and have been going ever since, and only working out for 2 months, there is an incredible difference.(you get incredibly weak and skinny from sitting around all day )

Now not only this, I went Job hunting and started up the process of saving up enough cash to get my own car

Seems kinda strange, that it was the girl I lost a few years ago thats given this enthusiam for life.

In case anyone was wondering, I came across some people from high school that still keep in touch with her. She went off, married, and has a baby on the way currently.

Anyone got stories to share? :P

Smooth23

Well, it wasn't exactly a breakup but I have a similar story. I was horribly unpopular in highschool and after realizing there was no chance of me graduating with my class after skipping almost every day for a year to avoid being around the people. After I left highschool I went into a funk, and did pretty much nothing till I was 19. I was fat, lazy, and really unmotivated- an all around loser. I was also aware of my loserism, and refused to have anything to do with any girls that would consider me worth dating. One day in mid march of 2005 I was laying in bed being depressed and hoping I had a life. From that day forward I vowed to change it. From that point, I went and scrounged enough money for a horrible car(a very hard task), went and got my GED, got a job, and my first girlfriend since highschool. I then got rid of the crappy job after securing a new better paying job, got a much better car(and my first debt, yay!). A year later? A few girls have come and gone, I'm making well over 30,000 a year, am looking at buying possibly my first new car, or very good used(mazda speed6) car, and moving out of my dad's house.

Ch'i

I was just finishing 2nd semester of 6th grade when I finally hooked up with one of my best friends, which was a lonnggg time coming. A few weeks after I found out I was moving to San Jose. Me and her really liked each other, but she moved at almost the same time, and we just ended up losing touch. I moved from Lodi, near Stockton, so the culture shock was pretty substantial. With that, and the regret, I had a hard time adjusting. I came out of my shell after a few weeks and became the hilarious chubby kid, and I kicked ass at break-time football, so I was content. I still felt like something was missing though. And then I found online games and got damn addicted; I would get withdraw & depression when I wasn't playing, and would normally play for around 6-10 hours a day. I was already chubby, but with that depression I also turned to comfort eating. After about two-three years of this I was unable to focus, depressed when I wasn't playing my game, very overweight, with declining grades. I then had the reflection day too. I sat there remembering "the one that got away" and how pathetic I would have looked to her then, and realized how I was insulating myself in order to avoid my problems. I then took a good look in the mirror and saw how fat I'd gotten. Wouldn't call that one a good day!
I deleted the game, destroyed the cd, burnt the cd key, and went cold turkey, which, by the way, is NOT as delicious as it sounds. So that was pretty much that, aside from a few relapses here and there. I talked to my parents about letting me try martial arts, and because I hadn't really done any sports before or anything (martial arts is NOT a sport by the way), they agreed. What I learned through martial arts and my instructor had a profound impact on me. If you've seen any of my other posts, you'd know that I highly regard martial arts, and that's because alot of what I know, and who I am today was learned through martial arts. Since then I've lost 56 pounds, got some self-confidence back, and bought my first car (the other love of my life, which died today ). Aside from the car...things are going good. I have always hoped that I might find that girl again someday. Who knows.

shesus

I was engaged right after high school. He joined the army and we set a date to be married May of 2000 after I graduated college. I had settled into the fact that I was domesticated at 19 and was ready to start a family and everything. YIKES!

On my 21st birthday, I had a realization of what I was doing. Broke off the engagement and then started dating JJ. That was a huge change in my life and started me on the path that has brought me to where I am today. The other whammy that made me change about that was that my ex died 6 months later in a car accident. That made me realize a lot of things.

Yes, that was one of my most life changing relationship endings. I had one before but it was abusive and changed me for the worse so I don't really like talking too much about it.

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JamesB

I had two breakups that very much changed my life. Both in positive ways.

I learned a lot through my relationships and their demise. I am a much better person than 10 years ago as a result.

My second last ex was a learn to treat people like gold situation. I got lazy and the relationship went to shit. I feel really bad about it - even today. (years ago)

I miss my last ex very much but can not change the past. From that relationship I learned that if her parents don't like you - you might as well move on because you cant do fuck all to change it.

So yeah, they are all learning experiences.

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kurty[B]

My last break-up was a life-changer. I was hoping things would just work out after returning to the states, but she had moved on. I decided to go ahead and bike North through the Rockies, and landed a job in a ski resort town.

She got accepted into Pharmacy school (her dream). We're both living our dreams, I'll live it up as a snowboard bum in a small mountain town away from the city crowds, and she's furthering her education and career in a city she enjoys.

Cynthetiq

nothing i'm interested in living again... needless to say I used to live in LA and now been in NYC for 15 years...

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Daniel_

My divorce really changed my life.

For the better in the end, but it was painful to go through.

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analog

All my life, up until age 18, I was the quiet one. I was a little shy, but very introverted. I enjoyed having friends, but wasn't very talkative or outgoing. It wasn't depression or anything, I was very happy- I just wasn't a person who spoke up, and was never the "center of attention", except my occasional outlet on the high school tv news. If I had to do that in front of more people than just the TV crew, I couldn't have done it, i'd have died. Just getting up on stage in front of my drama class, who were all great friends, for a small joke lip-sync performance thing, nearly made me pass out and I felt crippling nausea the whole time.

Then, I met this girl who asked me out. She was my first girlfriend ever, and I was just turning 18 (literally). After 4 months of hell, I finally realized that what I was going through was not what relationships were. She was very emotionally and verbally abusive to me, and took advantage of my kindness and walked all over me.

Suddenly, I snapped. You know when someone says that someone went crazy, literally, and just snapped? That's how I mean it- in my head, anyway. I suddenly realized that my more quiet personality and introversion caused all the hell I'd just been through. I decided that I was never again going to let my introversion make me take whatever comes along, I was never going to "settle" for whoever came to me- because that's exactly what happened. I was so shy and introverted, that I immediately took to her simply because she said she wanted to go out with me.

I said "fuck this" and was instantly transformed a full 180 degrees to the outgoing, extroverted, make friends with anyone, stand up and speak in front of people, afraid of nothing person that I am. It's not that my personality changed, it was just suddenly given a voice, and energy.

And when I say "instant", here's how it happened- I was laying in bed after just waking up from a night's sleep. I had my epiphany, drove to school, broke up with her, and immediately lived my life the way I am today. It freaked everyone out. Everyone I knew thought that she'd literally driven me insane. I was the complete opposite of my former self in what seemed to others as "overnight".

I also took that day to thank various friends who had supported me while she was being shitty to me- most especially those very few closest to me who had the courage to tell me what she was doing to me, no matter how much I denied it. I thanked them for sticking by me and helping me, rather than leaving me when I refused their help, because I was not thinking correctly.

So for those of you who know me personally, can you even imagine me as a guy who keeps to himself, doesn't talk to people he doesn't know, doesn't ever make himself the center of attention, and is generally introverted? The idea of it will probably just make you laugh as though it were an impossible scenario.

Sorry this was so long, but it literally redefined me as a person- suddenly, permanently, and completely opposite. (My mom still jokes on occasion about "what a nice quiet kid" I used to be. lol)