radioguy

I don't see how a person could ever leave their child for someone they met and fell in love with. Love won't always last forever, but your child will always be your child. I couldn't turn my back on my children and leave them. How could you?

tecoyah

Through a careful, and ligitimate evaluation and understanding of what will indeed be in the best interest of the child. There are times when the relationship of the Mother and Father of said child is either unhealthy, or dangerous for the longterm outlook of the child. In my previous marriage there was little if any love remaining between us, and it was becoming obvious to our son. I felt it would be benefitial in the long run for his future mental developement, to remove this unhealthy relationship from his view.
My Ex-wife is a christian Minister, and has sole custody of my son, at my request. I felt it would be selfish and wrong to pull this young mind in multiple directions before his developement had reached a point where emotions were in balance with logical thought. He is mentally and physically better off than he would have been had we continued to be together, of this I have no Doubts. He is now ten years old and can understand and talk about the situation, and most likely has a far better grasp on human relationships as a result of our descision.
To subject a developing mind to the destructive nature of a failed marriage is, in my opinion, far worse than having the fortitude to correct that failure in an effort to give your child a better life.

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maverick750

there is no was i could live with myself if i moved away from my kids. They are the most important part of my life.

arriana_l

There is no way that i could give up my son. He is only 1 but he alreadyknows when ishould be home andsceams bloody murder when i leave. no matter how great the adoptive parents are they are no replacement for the void that is left when a parent is gone.

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