Realizm

If you had a child that regularly needed to go to a doctor and take different drug prescriptions, which would mean an immense amount of bills...


would you accept any kind of money (not pity money, but meant to genuinely help out) from a friend? If you outright think you wouldn't, is there any way that you think the friend would get you to?

toxic515

genuine help that is not a sacrifice on the part f the person giving it, yes. There are a number of values in the world that are not monetary, and I certainly value some of my friends and their children to help them out if I ever thought I needed it. It is important to me that they do well, and if I can assist with that without putting my kids to bed hungry, I would, and have, done the same for them. There's no shame involved at all.

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raeanna74

I would definately help out a friend. Here in Wisconsin we have some good programs and I pointed a friend in the right direction to get signed up for state medical care for their children. Since I'm not in a place to help much. They still get the care they need. Health is pretty important on my list.

Would I accept it? I have and would but I would do whatever I can to pay them back at least in other ways. For example: When hubby was laid up and unable to work, a friend of our's helped us out monetarily. He's single and lives alone. He knows he is welcome ANY time to eat at our place and get a good hot meal (since he doesn't cook much). Also we help him out in other ways. If he ever needs a ride because his car is down, when he moves or other things. We make sure not to forget our friend if he ever needs help. To me it's not a charity thing at all it's "responsible friendship".

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Realizm

Would it be better accepted as cash or as a check?

absorbentishe

My wife and I have helped out her friends several times, even though they tell us they don't want it. It happens that they are in debt to their ears and beyond after having a child go through chemo, then pass away. We've helped them by paying their water bill/phone bill, etc. Not much but a little. They tell us no, but we do it anyway and they appreciate it.

agball

In my opinion, it really depends on the type of person this friend is. Question that you need to ask yourself:
1. Will I feel in debt to this friend for life?
2. Will this friend hold this over me for years to come and keep reminding you about the money they gave you?
3. Is it a gift or a loan?
4. Will this friend ask me for a lot of non-monetary favors in the future, that you might not be comfortable doing.

Consider these things before taking money from friends. Good luck

sexymama

Yes, I would accept as to not accept is kind of a "slap" to the friendship.

I would have them make a check to an entity that would justify it as a tax right off -- a donation.

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raeanna74

One rule I go by when anyone offers me financial (and sometimes otherwise) help is to politely refuse at least once. Saying something like, "Oh thank you for your generosity. You don't need to do that. Thank you." It gives them an out if they are doing it out of a feeling of obligation. Otherwise if they insist then I try to accept as graciously as possible.

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