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bryanzera · 07-24-2003, 11:03 PM

I learn life's lessons much slower than everyone else, I think. It leaves me acting like a child, emotionally, sometimes, but at least I learn the lesson. Here are a few things that I've just, at 24, learned.

Nobody cares if your feeling down. It's nobody's responsibility to make you happy but yourself.

Don't talk too much. People might think you don't know when to shut up. Listen twice as much as you talk during conversations.

Don't lie. Every lie comes out eventually, and the longer between the lie and the telling of the truth will only make it worse.

If you fuck up, accept it, learn from it, and move on. Don't dwell on it.

Even when life seems crappy, you probably have a roof overhead, food in the fridge, transportation available, and people to talk to.

What have you learned lately?

warmingup2prose · 07-24-2003, 11:42 PM

i've learned never to feel guilty...it wastes so much time.
i've also learned that i am the single most important thing to myself, and that nothing else can be important to me if i am not.

thanks for posting this thread.

geodaro · 07-25-2003, 05:05 AM

I've recently learned that if I get caught on the TFP at work, I will get into trouble. And here are a few other jewely from the recent past:

1. If your wife is taking a bath and you are drying your hair at the sink...put the dryer down and leave the room immediately, at least until the urge to toss the dryer into the tub subsides.

2. Laugh and the world laughs with you.....cry and the world laught AT you.

3. If you feed your dog a chocolate bar, you better have a bucket and a mop handy.

4. Tossing a Baby Ruth into your friends new swimming pool during his house warming party is only funny to the person who did it (me).

5. No matter how many times you watch the same porno movie...the music still SUCKS!

Valuable lessons, to say the least.

johnnymysto · 07-25-2003, 06:29 AM

And in keeping with geodaro, I've learned that the IT group where I work doesn't monitor my internet activity very closely. But, they probably will now!

And, I've learned that direct confrontation can be both easy and productive. It gets easier the more you do it.

tikki · 07-25-2003, 06:48 AM

I've learned that women are confusing as fuck, and I have sworn them off for a while. Nothing but computers for me.

Cynthetiq · 07-25-2003, 11:15 AM

I have learned that renovating a home takes time, much more time than I think that they need, not to mention having to get approvals, permits, and other red tape.

-Anders · 07-25-2003, 11:58 AM

I have learned that missing someone very dear to you hurts more than it does good, and eventualy someone else will come along and make you feel alot better.

Thank you Cecilie

bermuDa · 07-25-2003, 02:05 PM

i've learned to not trust anybody you don't already know and trust. everyone is out to get something from you.

hobo · 07-25-2003, 09:29 PM

I learned that I should really figure out a system of thinking for several seconds before I say anything to a girl.

anti fishstick · 07-25-2003, 10:26 PM

at 20, i finally learned i can say "no" to a guy, and it'll be ok. don't think twice about seeming 'rude' when doing so. if YOU dont like it, or feel obligated, *say no*.

Stiltzkin · 07-25-2003, 10:27 PM

I have learned that I essentially know nothing. Ditto for everyone else in the world.

I've also learned that I am a damn fool in every way imaginable

I've also learned that... oh screw it. I have to go sulk for a while.

almostaugust · 07-26-2003, 12:24 AM

Yeah, Bryanzera, im with you on the lying thing. It seems like nothing but insincerity and playing people false is the worst kind of human trait. I remeber reading somewhere this dude was saying how he never lied cause it had something about it that was close to the grave, close to death (I think it was Joseph Conrad). I remebered this cause, i could empathise with it to some extent. Lying complicates life and relationships and all the other shit in between.

Semi-Normal · 07-26-2003, 09:15 PM

I've learnt that all the advice of my parents and teachers that my cynical younger self shrugged off as cliched bullshit is cliched because it's actually true.

I've also learnt that people will think better of you if you just take responsibility for your fuck-ups rather than try to make excuses and convince them it's not your fault.

Most importantly I've learnt that just because I'm out of my teens and into my 20s doesn't mean I'm done growing up yet.

spectre · 07-26-2003, 09:46 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by bryanzera
Nobody cares if your feeling down. It's nobody's responsibility to make you happy but yourself.

Don't talk too much. People might think you don't know when to shut up. Listen twice as much as you talk during conversations.

Don't lie. Every lie comes out eventually, and the longer between the lie and the telling of the truth will only make it worse.

If you fuck up, accept it, learn from it, and move on. Don't dwell on it.

Even when life seems crappy, you probably have a roof overhead, food in the fridge, transportation available, and people to talk to.

First of all, all of this was dead on.

I've learned to stand tall. No matter how tough things are, just keep on fighting and don't give up.

denim · 07-26-2003, 09:58 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by bryanzera
I learn life's lessons much slower than everyone else, I think.

Heh. And here I was thinking I was unusual for this.

Recently?

I'm not fond of responsability, and I tend to grab it in situations where it's inappropriate.

Example: figuring that it's not a good idea for someone to move closer to me so we could enjoy each other, so not suggesting it. Inappropriate, as that should have been her call.

Stare At The Sun · 07-26-2003, 10:01 PM

Stupid but:

You get what you pay for, Ahem lemon cars ahem

GunslingerCold · 07-27-2003, 03:12 AM

Ive learned:
That if you dont stand up for yourself, nobody will
That confidence is the most important thing you can have
That you need to laugh off bad things that happen to you

GoldenOuroboros · 07-27-2003, 03:25 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by geodaro
I've recently learned that if I get caught on the TFP at work, I will get into trouble. And here are a few other jewely from the recent past:

1. If your wife is taking a bath and you are drying your hair at the sink...put the dryer down and leave the room immediately, at least until the urge to toss the dryer into the tub subsides.

2. Laugh and the world laughs with you.....cry and the world laught AT you.

3. If you feed your dog a chocolate bar, you better have a bucket and a mop handy.

4. Tossing a Baby Ruth into your friends new swimming pool during his house warming party is only funny to the person who did it (me).

5. No matter how many times you watch the same porno movie...the music still SUCKS!

Valuable lessons, to say the least.

I got a laugh out of most of these

But the Baby Ruth had me rolling around.. brought back memories of Caddy Shack

I think that maybe I have learned something and that I just don't realise it.. or I just plain haven't

Pennington · 07-27-2003, 11:25 AM

We're alive for the first time, for the last and for a short time. I remind myself that everyday.

I'm no better or worse than the highest of the high and the lowest of the low. Talk to some homeless, you'd be amazed what they'll say.

Joy is the only measure of success. Property, money and power mean nothing in the end.

drawerfixer · 07-27-2003, 04:50 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by bryanzera
Don't talk too much. People might think you don't know when to shut up. Listen twice as much as you talk during conversations.

What if all in the conversation follow this rule?

-In the thread sense, I've learned that on the show 'Trading Spaces', they have a team of fellas to help. It's not just the designers, families, and one carpenter! Crazy, I know.

-People, for the most part, are self absorbed.

-When you make a small move to help someone, it can really brighten up their day.

-Starting the day with a smile, even fake, can work wonders.

-Nothing is more aggravating than a blown speaker.

asudevil83 · 07-27-2003, 05:20 PM

i've learned that i've got a bunch of learning still to do.

i'm destined for a tough life...much like many others.

as much as i want to grow up, i'll always need to be a kid at heart. otherwise i'll die of boredom

true love is harder to find than it seems

dwelling on failure does nothing to help the situation...its better to just get over it and move on

music can be the cure for just about everything.

maximus · 07-27-2003, 06:25 PM

never love somebody....

Semi-Normal · 07-27-2003, 08:51 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by drawerfixer
What if all in the conversation follow this rule?

Well it's easy if there are three people in the converstion - if everyone talks an equal amount then all three will listen twice as much as they talk.

I don't think that rule is supposed to be taken literally though.

Caser · 07-28-2003, 08:35 AM

hobo amen to that my brother

"I learned that I should really figure out a system of thinking for several seconds before I say anything to a girl"

07-24-2003, 11:03 PM	#1 (permalink)
bryanzera Crazy Location: Fresno, CA	What have you learned lately? I learn life's lessons much slower than everyone else, I think. It leaves me acting like a child, emotionally, sometimes, but at least I learn the lesson. Here are a few things that I've just, at 24, learned. Nobody cares if your feeling down. It's nobody's responsibility to make you happy but yourself. Don't talk too much. People might think you don't know when to shut up. Listen twice as much as you talk during conversations. Don't lie. Every lie comes out eventually, and the longer between the lie and the telling of the truth will only make it worse. If you fuck up, accept it, learn from it, and move on. Don't dwell on it. Even when life seems crappy, you probably have a roof overhead, food in the fridge, transportation available, and people to talk to. What have you learned lately?

07-25-2003, 06:29 AM	#4 (permalink)
johnnymysto Overreactor Location: South Ca'lina	And in keeping with geodaro, I've learned that the IT group where I work doesn't monitor my internet activity very closely. But, they probably will now! And, I've learned that direct confrontation can be both easy and productive. It gets easier the more you do it. __________________ "I'm disinclined to acquiesce to your request." - Capt. Barbossa

07-25-2003, 06:48 AM	#5 (permalink)
tikki Justified Location: West Lafayette, IN	I've learned that women are confusing as fuck, and I have sworn them off for a while. Nothing but computers for me. __________________ Take notice. Take interest. Take me with you.

07-25-2003, 11:15 AM	#6 (permalink)
Cynthetiq Tilted Cat Head Administrator Location: Manhattan, NY	I have learned that renovating a home takes time, much more time than I think that they need, not to mention having to get approvals, permits, and other red tape. __________________ I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not. What's the best nation in the world? DO-NATION!

07-25-2003, 11:58 AM	#7 (permalink)
-Anders Custom title. Location: Denmark.	I have learned that missing someone very dear to you hurts more than it does good, and eventualy someone else will come along and make you feel alot better. Thank you Cecilie __________________ Signature 101

07-24-2003, 11:42 PM	#2 (permalink)
warmingup2prose Upright	i've learned never to feel guilty...it wastes so much time. i've also learned that i am the single most important thing to myself, and that nothing else can be important to me if i am not. thanks for posting this thread.

07-25-2003, 05:05 AM	#3 (permalink)
geodaro Psycho	I've recently learned that if I get caught on the TFP at work, I will get into trouble. And here are a few other jewely from the recent past: 1. If your wife is taking a bath and you are drying your hair at the sink...put the dryer down and leave the room immediately, at least until the urge to toss the dryer into the tub subsides. 2. Laugh and the world laughs with you.....cry and the world laught AT you. 3. If you feed your dog a chocolate bar, you better have a bucket and a mop handy. 4. Tossing a Baby Ruth into your friends new swimming pool during his house warming party is only funny to the person who did it (me). 5. No matter how many times you watch the same porno movie...the music still SUCKS! Valuable lessons, to say the least.

07-25-2003, 02:05 PM	#8 (permalink)
bermuDa don't ignore this--> Location: CA	i've learned to not trust anybody you don't already know and trust. everyone is out to get something from you. __________________ I am the very model of a moderator gentleman.

07-25-2003, 09:29 PM	#9 (permalink)
hobo Archangel of Change	I learned that I should really figure out a system of thinking for several seconds before I say anything to a girl.

07-25-2003, 10:26 PM	#10 (permalink)
anti fishstick Post-modernism meets Individualism AKA the Clash Location: oregon	at 20, i finally learned i can say "no" to a guy, and it'll be ok. don't think twice about seeming 'rude' when doing so. if YOU dont like it, or feel obligated, say no. __________________ And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~Anais Nin

07-25-2003, 10:27 PM	#11 (permalink)
Stiltzkin Junkie	I have learned that I essentially know nothing. Ditto for everyone else in the world. I've also learned that I am a damn fool in every way imaginable I've also learned that... oh screw it. I have to go sulk for a while. __________________ The most important thing in this world is love.

07-26-2003, 12:24 AM	#12 (permalink)
almostaugust Junkie Location: Oz	Yeah, Bryanzera, im with you on the lying thing. It seems like nothing but insincerity and playing people false is the worst kind of human trait. I remeber reading somewhere this dude was saying how he never lied cause it had something about it that was close to the grave, close to death (I think it was Joseph Conrad). I remebered this cause, i could empathise with it to some extent. Lying complicates life and relationships and all the other shit in between. __________________ 'And it's been a long December and there's reason to believe Maybe this year will be better than the last I can't remember all the times I tried to tell my myself To hold on to these moments as they pass'

07-26-2003, 09:15 PM	#13 (permalink)
Semi-Normal Insane Location: Christchurch, New Zealand	I've learnt that all the advice of my parents and teachers that my cynical younger self shrugged off as cliched bullshit is cliched because it's actually true. I've also learnt that people will think better of you if you just take responsibility for your fuck-ups rather than try to make excuses and convince them it's not your fault. Most importantly I've learnt that just because I'm out of my teens and into my 20s doesn't mean I'm done growing up yet. __________________ I'm not lazy, I'm "motivationally challenged."

07-26-2003, 10:01 PM	#16 (permalink)
Stare At The Sun Eh? Location: Somewhere over the rainbow	Stupid but: You get what you pay for, Ahem lemon cars ahem

07-27-2003, 03:12 AM	#17 (permalink)
GunslingerCold Banned Location: IL	Ive learned: That if you dont stand up for yourself, nobody will That confidence is the most important thing you can have That you need to laugh off bad things that happen to you

07-27-2003, 11:25 AM	#19 (permalink)
Pennington Banned Location: Autonomous Zone	We're alive for the first time, for the last and for a short time. I remind myself that everyday. I'm no better or worse than the highest of the high and the lowest of the low. Talk to some homeless, you'd be amazed what they'll say. Joy is the only measure of success. Property, money and power mean nothing in the end.

07-27-2003, 05:20 PM	#21 (permalink)
asudevil83 Psycho Location: Scottsdale, AZ	i've learned that i've got a bunch of learning still to do. i'm destined for a tough life...much like many others. as much as i want to grow up, i'll always need to be a kid at heart. otherwise i'll die of boredom true love is harder to find than it seems dwelling on failure does nothing to help the situation...its better to just get over it and move on music can be the cure for just about everything.

07-27-2003, 06:25 PM	#22 (permalink)
maximus Crazy Location: Pa	never love somebody.... __________________ i don't want to be lonely, i just want to be alone.

07-28-2003, 08:35 AM	#24 (permalink)
Caser Tilted Location: langley	hobo amen to that my brother "I learned that I should really figure out a system of thinking for several seconds before I say anything to a girl" __________________ ( . Y . )