Undercover_Man

Hello. Ok. As some of you know, I live at Disney now. Well one of our room mates moved out and relocated to a different apartment. Not all of us really liked him anyways because he was a shady person. Let's call this guy Mr. Shady. Well it's been a while since he's moved out and I'm noticing that he's taking advantage of other people's friendship.

Ok. There's 3 things that I don't like about him.

1. Mr. Shady talks shit about his "friends" behind their backs.
I am aware of him talking shit about me behind my back cause he was talking to another one of my room mates and he told me what Mr. Shady told him. He also thinks he's MY friend and talks shit about other people. BTW, the other people/friends are my friends as well and most also work at the same resort.

2. He gossips about other people A.K.A. he doesn't mind his own business.
Ok. He comes to me and tells me things about his "friends" that I'm sure they wouldn't want me to hear. At least to hear from HIM. Like he comes and tells me about this girl I know that she was making out with this French guy and she also had a twosome with some other guy and a girl. Ok. I didn't need to hear that about a friend of mine (also his) in the middle of making a guests pizza.

3. He takes advantage of his friends friendship.
Ok. If these friends of his (who, remember, are also my friends) knew what kind of things I know about Mr. Shady then I'm quite sure they wouldn't be all nice and taking him to the beach and hanging out with him all the time and stuff. He acts like a great friend and talks to everyone and is funny when he's around them, but when he's around someone he apparently trusts(?), like me, he'll talk shit about them or spread information about them or whatever.

I don't know why this is bugging me so much. I'm a nice guy and I don't want him to be taking advantage of our friends friendships left and right like they're nothing to him.

So why don't I just tell one of them about what he's telling me? Well because I've done something similar with 3 or 4 other situations involving my room mates and some anger came right back at me and the people were pissed at me for some reason.

Should I just let them figure out what he's saying about them on their own or should I tell one of them that he's talking shit about him/her behind their back and/or spreading information about him/her that s/he prolly wouldn't want to be talked about amongst the other cast members. Who knows who else he's telling besides me. I feel like I can't just sit back and listen to/watch him take advantage of other people. If I should tell someone then HOW should I tell him/her without sounding like I'm "tattle taling"/ratting on this Mr. Shady?

What would YOU do?

- Undercover_Man

cj2112

I would probably say something directly to him about it. Something along the lines of, "Wow, I wonder what you say about me when I'm not around" I would do this right after he he says anything about a mutual friend of yours. Other than that, Ithink I'd probably leave it alone, and I'd definately be pretty selective about what parts of my life I shared w/ this guy.

Siege

Usually, I just say "I don't want to hear it." and walk away.

You probably don't want to tell these other people that Mr. Shady is a shit talker, because that'll make you seem like a shit talker too. If he's that bad of a guy, and those people aren't idiots, they'll figure it out.

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bad jane

i wouldn't directly tell the mutual friends--they obviously trust him for whatever reasons. you could try talking to him, that may stop him from talking to you, but it won't change how he is with your mutual friends.

i'd say let your friends figure it out. though i'm a bit of a bitch when it comes to people i don't like--so i'd prolly help my friends out in discovering this. if mr. shady told me my friend was involved in a threesome and the friend hadn't mentioned it to me--i'd make some sort of comment about it to my friend. when my friend was wondering just how the hell i found out about such a thing, i'd mention that mr. shady was talking about it

guthmund

I'd probably just lay it out flat for the guy. I mean, if that's all he's going to talk about, I'd probably tell him I really didn't want to hear it and turn away.

Telling your friends? Well, I would, but I'd just mention it in passing that Shady was doing what he's doing.

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