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Rem · 11-14-2004, 08:33 AM

I am still live with my Mom, I have a job that pays well, but not well enough to pay for a house's installments. I want to move out and live with a friend. After studying I went abroad for a year, stayed her till I got a job, now a year and a half later I feel its time to move. But I also feel that I will be wasting much more money ( I pay my Mom rent). Is it that sad for a 25 year old guy to still live at home?

Jimellow · 11-14-2004, 08:37 AM

It's only sad if you consider it to be sad. Nothing wrong with living at home if it works for you, and the fact that you pay rent shows you aren't totally dependant on her.

To society your situation may be considered "sad," but I wouldn't worry too much about society, and what they think. It's your life, so you should be the one deciding whether to move out or not.

It could be a lot of fun to move in with a friend though too, or it could suck.. Hard to say, but if your comfortable now, maybe there isn't a need to change your situation.

Rem · 11-14-2004, 08:43 AM

Thanks.
Its just that I love my mom very much. But it feels like after living away from home, then moving back things are not the same..we argue alot.
I would love to move out..but i wont be able to save much...some but not as much as I would at home. Also I feel embarresed to tell ppl I still live at home.
I feel terrible approaching woman and then fearing that they'll ask me where i live? You know.......?

denim · 11-14-2004, 09:56 AM

So move out if you feel you need to. You're an adult now. If you want to express yourself in ways that your mom doesn't want to deal with, yes, it's time to move out. Roommates can work, really. Moving in with a friend has pluses and minuses, of course.

ergdork · 11-15-2004, 11:22 AM

I'm 25 too - lived pretty much out of the house since beginning college. Couple things regarding roommates:

Be careful living with friends - they don't always make great roommates. I am very lucky with my roommates and friends in that we get a long great. But remember that being a friend and seeing someone as often as a roommate is a BIG difference. Also consider money issues, cleanliness issues, etc. Its a question of expectations, really.

Know what you are getting into - do left out dishes bother you? Make sure your roommate ends? Will you and your roommate(s) be doing the same sort of things or will you have very different schedules. Sometimes that can cause issues.

JustDisGuy · 11-15-2004, 06:29 PM

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Originally Posted by ergdork

Be careful living with friends - they don't always make great roommates.

I'll second that - living with friends can be a very good way to lose friends. You're further ahead living with acquaintances. BTW - be careful who you live with... I ended up marrying the only person I was ever able to live amicably with.

On the subject of living at home - meh. Sounds like you're not comfortable with it, so move out. I wouldn't worry too much about what "society" thinks about it. Women, on the other hand may see someone who lives with their mother as 'attached at the apron strings' or perhaps worse, unable to provide for a family. My relationship with my parents improved dramatically once I no longer lived under their roof.

Ustwo · 11-15-2004, 06:51 PM

The movie 'Psycho' ruined it for any man who wanted to live with their mother :P

Hirare · 11-16-2004, 04:43 PM

I just moved out of my parents house, but I couldn't stand living with them anymore. I also had some very close friends who I'd pretty much lived with for years.

If you want to move in with friends, get away from your parents, or just feel more independent then go for it.

But don't like society's view of what is good for you dictate what you do. If you are happy at home and don't run into issues with your parents or relationships with others then living at home can be a great way to put away some money for your future.

Irishsean · 11-16-2004, 05:08 PM

Good friends generally make bad roomates. It may be fun to hang around with people, but little things you think are funny now start to get grating when your dealing with them 24/7.

My advice would be to find a small place of your own. Studio apartments aren't bad, and you should still be able to save money to get a bigger place.

LIMilf · 11-20-2004, 06:02 AM

Nothing wrong living at home with the parents, if you are planning on getting out though. Living at home gives you a good chance to save up some money and actually go out and buy something. Now if you are living at home and just leeching, thats just sad. But save up some money and when you are good and ready, you can move out, and not worry about breaking any contracts!

pook · 11-20-2004, 06:32 PM

Nothing's wrong with living with mom, but here are some things to consider:

1) If you have a good job that pays well, you can afford a home. First time home buyers can often get into a home with little money down. And interest rates are still damn low. You'd be amazed at how low your monthly payment will be.

2) If you're still not sure you can swing the house payment, or just don't need all that room, buy a home and rent out a room to a friend. If you buy a good home in a good part of town that's not too pricey, you could come out with a ton of equity five years from now (when you're ready to get married!). Pay a bit more on the mortgage each month and when Mrs. Right comes along you'll be sitting pretty for your first home together. By the way, if you go this route, research rental agreements on the 'net and get your friend to sign one.

joeyaz · 11-21-2004, 12:10 AM

I don't think its sad I'm 23 and I live at home till about Jan when my house is finished!

I never had a problem but lately now that I know for sure that I'm leaving my mom is really annoying me and I can't wait till I get out

Try to see if a house is an option for you I didn't think no way in the world I could get one and was looking at small apartments till a realtor I talked to convinced me to give it a try.

11-14-2004, 08:33 AM	#1 (permalink)
Rem Upright	Want to move out!! I am still live with my Mom, I have a job that pays well, but not well enough to pay for a house's installments. I want to move out and live with a friend. After studying I went abroad for a year, stayed her till I got a job, now a year and a half later I feel its time to move. But I also feel that I will be wasting much more money ( I pay my Mom rent). Is it that sad for a 25 year old guy to still live at home?

11-14-2004, 08:43 AM	#3 (permalink)
Rem Upright	Thanks Jimellow Thanks. Its just that I love my mom very much. But it feels like after living away from home, then moving back things are not the same..we argue alot. I would love to move out..but i wont be able to save much...some but not as much as I would at home. Also I feel embarresed to tell ppl I still live at home. I feel terrible approaching woman and then fearing that they'll ask me where i live? You know.......?

11-15-2004, 11:22 AM	#5 (permalink)
ergdork Tilted	Living w/ friends I'm 25 too - lived pretty much out of the house since beginning college. Couple things regarding roommates: Be careful living with friends - they don't always make great roommates. I am very lucky with my roommates and friends in that we get a long great. But remember that being a friend and seeing someone as often as a roommate is a BIG difference. Also consider money issues, cleanliness issues, etc. Its a question of expectations, really. Know what you are getting into - do left out dishes bother you? Make sure your roommate ends? Will you and your roommate(s) be doing the same sort of things or will you have very different schedules. Sometimes that can cause issues.

11-15-2004, 06:51 PM	#7 (permalink)
Ustwo Pissing in the cornflakes	The movie 'Psycho' ruined it for any man who wanted to live with their mother :P __________________ Agents of the enemies who hold office in our own government, who attempt to eliminate our "freedoms" and our "right to know" are posting among us, I fear.....on this very forum. - host Obama - Know a Man by the friends he keeps.

11-16-2004, 05:08 PM	#9 (permalink)
Irishsean edited for content Location: Austin, TX	Good friends generally make bad roomates. It may be fun to hang around with people, but little things you think are funny now start to get grating when your dealing with them 24/7. My advice would be to find a small place of your own. Studio apartments aren't bad, and you should still be able to save money to get a bigger place. __________________ There are no absolute rules of conduct, either in peace or war. Everything depends on circumstances. Leon Trotsky

11-14-2004, 08:37 AM	#2 (permalink)
Jimellow Junkie	It's only sad if you consider it to be sad. Nothing wrong with living at home if it works for you, and the fact that you pay rent shows you aren't totally dependant on her. To society your situation may be considered "sad," but I wouldn't worry too much about society, and what they think. It's your life, so you should be the one deciding whether to move out or not. It could be a lot of fun to move in with a friend though too, or it could suck.. Hard to say, but if your comfortable now, maybe there isn't a need to change your situation.

11-14-2004, 09:56 AM	#4 (permalink)
denim Banned Location: Massachusetts, USA	So move out if you feel you need to. You're an adult now. If you want to express yourself in ways that your mom doesn't want to deal with, yes, it's time to move out. Roommates can work, really. Moving in with a friend has pluses and minuses, of course.

11-16-2004, 04:43 PM	#8 (permalink)
Hirare Upright	I just moved out of my parents house, but I couldn't stand living with them anymore. I also had some very close friends who I'd pretty much lived with for years. If you want to move in with friends, get away from your parents, or just feel more independent then go for it. But don't like society's view of what is good for you dictate what you do. If you are happy at home and don't run into issues with your parents or relationships with others then living at home can be a great way to put away some money for your future.

11-20-2004, 06:02 AM	#10 (permalink)
LIMilf Crazy	Nothing wrong living at home with the parents, if you are planning on getting out though. Living at home gives you a good chance to save up some money and actually go out and buy something. Now if you are living at home and just leeching, thats just sad. But save up some money and when you are good and ready, you can move out, and not worry about breaking any contracts! __________________ My goal is to be rookie of the year...

11-20-2004, 06:32 PM	#11 (permalink)
pook Registered User	Nothing's wrong with living with mom, but here are some things to consider: 1) If you have a good job that pays well, you can afford a home. First time home buyers can often get into a home with little money down. And interest rates are still damn low. You'd be amazed at how low your monthly payment will be. 2) If you're still not sure you can swing the house payment, or just don't need all that room, buy a home and rent out a room to a friend. If you buy a good home in a good part of town that's not too pricey, you could come out with a ton of equity five years from now (when you're ready to get married!). Pay a bit more on the mortgage each month and when Mrs. Right comes along you'll be sitting pretty for your first home together. By the way, if you go this route, research rental agreements on the 'net and get your friend to sign one.

11-21-2004, 12:10 AM	#12 (permalink)
joeyaz Tilted Location: Az	I don't think its sad I'm 23 and I live at home till about Jan when my house is finished! I never had a problem but lately now that I know for sure that I'm leaving my mom is really annoying me and I can't wait till I get out Try to see if a house is an option for you I didn't think no way in the world I could get one and was looking at small apartments till a realtor I talked to convinced me to give it a try.