Best way to move out of your parent's house if you have nothing? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

Jesus Pimp · 05-18-2003, 01:13 PM

I'll be graduating college this coming week but I have yet to find a job in this shitty economy to support myself. My parents are getting on my case again about how useless and worthless I am. I'm pretty much fed up with this shit. So I want to move out as soon as possible. Any good advice would be appreciated..

Cynthetiq · 05-18-2003, 01:30 PM

don't cut off your nose to spite your face. Plan on moving out and start to gather the things (money, bedding, plates, furniture, et. al.) you need to do so.

good luck

rogue49 · 05-18-2003, 01:34 PM

You can always roommate with someone else, who is established.
But PLEASE make sure you are a good roomie.

Clean
Pay your bills on time
And replace your own food you eat.

Red Two · 05-18-2003, 01:46 PM

Join the Army. It builds character, it works for thousands of people. It helped me.

Cursive · 05-18-2003, 04:16 PM

I had the same problem only i was in high school. You really cant move out unless u have a job that can support you. I owuld go job hunting ASAP. If your that determined to move out you will find a job wether you like it or not.

HeyAgain · 05-18-2003, 04:25 PM

See if you have a buddy who is willing to put you up for a couple of weeks until you are able to find a job to support yourself.

Another advice, tell your parents, instead of putting you down, why don't they try to help you out by providing job leads, people to contact.

fhqwhgads · 05-18-2003, 04:35 PM

My advise is to be humble. Don't pass up a chance to earn a paycheck because it's not a glamourous job. Start small and work your way up. Patience is always good too...

gibber71 · 05-18-2003, 07:50 PM

If your parents are telling you that you are useless and worthless,then congratulate them on finding someone else rather than yourself to care for them when they get older and need someone to help them. How soon we forget that it always comes around....

Shadowman · 05-19-2003, 01:54 AM

I have a job. Im an apprentice Electrician, and its still really hard to move out. Once you have that money, you won't want to spend it on rent, water, gas, electricity and groceries. You'll want CD's, games, computers, DVD's, to go to the movies, see bands, go to concerts. It just takes some financial discipline. If you have that discipline, your half way there.

nowthen · 05-19-2003, 06:11 AM

One of the worst things that can happen in my opinion is to get stuck in the vicious circle of "work to live, live to work" when you are too young. You are just leaving college, this is the time in your life when you should be having a little fun, deciding what you want to do with yourself in the future...... that may well involve moving out, but what I trying to say is don't be in too much of a rush. You may think your parents are on your case and it is really tough, but TOUGH is working like crazy all month and only having enough money to pay the bills....

Byebye723 · 05-19-2003, 07:03 AM

get a job...any job to get money to move out...
(all the while keep looking for your dream job)

Atanvarno · 05-20-2003, 09:31 AM

What I've discovered is that as soon as you move out, when you come back to visit them the situation is totally different. They're soooooo happy to have you in their house and they missed you terribly, even if you just lived away for a week

So, get a cheap place, a source of income (this doesn't have to be work

), then go visit them to get fed

NoSoup · 05-21-2003, 05:44 PM

I just went though a similar situation. Basically, as crazy as it may sound, just go. First of all, there is the shock-factor, where your parents go "Holy Shit- I can't believe he moved out"

There are basically two results to that.
A) Your parents realize that you really aren't that terrible of a child, and realize that you are not really what they thought. This will generally happen if you are not known for doing crazy shit.
and of course, the dreaded B could occur as well
B) Get out - and Stay out!

Anyway, if A happens, see if you can work a deal with your parents, like they get off your case if you pay a little rent.

If B happens, or if A happens and you decide to keep going it on your own, judging from past experience, It isn't nearly as hard as people say it is. When I had first moved out I was pretty damn content to sit in my apartment and think "Damn... I can't believe this is really mine," therefore saving me a ton of money on entertainment. Eventually it gets old, true, but during this time you should be able to save up a couple months worth of rent.

My advice, take it or leave it, on roomates is to either move in with a really good friend, or some total stranger. So far in my experience I have lived with both. It is difficult to say which I prefered, with the friend we have a commradary, but with the total stranger, we had a lot more mutual respect for each others things and lives.

Just make sure that if there are problems you bring them up before they explode.

My financial advice is to think about the future - don't just make minimum payments on credit cards, that is going to get you nowhere. If you have a car loan, pay extra if you can. Yeah, money is a little tight at the moment, but a year from now you'll be happy that you were strapped now.

Well, there is my 2 cents worth... Good luck to you, and keep us posted.

Oh - on a final note, When I moved out, I had some clothes and a stereo. While I was in my "I can't believe this is mine" phase I was sitting in the middle of my living room floor. Buy the essentials first, and then slowly aquire the "wants "

DelayedReaction · 05-22-2003, 07:37 AM

Financial stability first, independence second.

Rather than work against your parents, have them work with you. Tell them that you'd like to move out and be independent, just as they want you to be, and that you need some help in order to get that way. They've been through it, so they'll know exactly what you'll need to do.

05-18-2003, 01:13 PM	#1 (permalink)
Jesus Pimp The Original JizzSmacka	Best way to move out of your parent's house if you have nothing? I'll be graduating college this coming week but I have yet to find a job in this shitty economy to support myself. My parents are getting on my case again about how useless and worthless I am. I'm pretty much fed up with this shit. So I want to move out as soon as possible. Any good advice would be appreciated.. __________________ Never date anyone who doesn't make your dick hard. Last edited by Jesus Pimp; 05-18-2003 at 01:30 PM..

05-18-2003, 01:30 PM	#2 (permalink)
Cynthetiq Tilted Cat Head Administrator Location: Manhattan, NY	don't cut off your nose to spite your face. Plan on moving out and start to gather the things (money, bedding, plates, furniture, et. al.) you need to do so. good luck __________________ I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not. What's the best nation in the world? DO-NATION!

05-18-2003, 01:46 PM	#4 (permalink)
Red Two Upright	Join the Army. It builds character, it works for thousands of people. It helped me. __________________ People sleep peaceably in their beds at night only because rough men stand readyto do violence on thier behalf. - George Orwell

05-18-2003, 04:16 PM	#5 (permalink)
Cursive Tilted	I had the same problem only i was in high school. You really cant move out unless u have a job that can support you. I owuld go job hunting ASAP. If your that determined to move out you will find a job wether you like it or not. __________________ Never trust anything that bleeds for 6 days and doesn't die

05-19-2003, 01:54 AM	#9 (permalink)
Shadowman Crazy Location: Perth	I have a job. Im an apprentice Electrician, and its still really hard to move out. Once you have that money, you won't want to spend it on rent, water, gas, electricity and groceries. You'll want CD's, games, computers, DVD's, to go to the movies, see bands, go to concerts. It just takes some financial discipline. If you have that discipline, your half way there. __________________ Shadowman

05-18-2003, 01:34 PM	#3 (permalink)
rogue49 Loser	You can always roommate with someone else, who is established. But PLEASE make sure you are a good roomie. Clean Pay your bills on time And replace your own food you eat.

05-18-2003, 04:25 PM	#6 (permalink)
HeyAgain Psycho	See if you have a buddy who is willing to put you up for a couple of weeks until you are able to find a job to support yourself. Another advice, tell your parents, instead of putting you down, why don't they try to help you out by providing job leads, people to contact.

05-18-2003, 04:35 PM	#7 (permalink)
fhqwhgads Junkie	My advise is to be humble. Don't pass up a chance to earn a paycheck because it's not a glamourous job. Start small and work your way up. Patience is always good too...

05-18-2003, 07:50 PM	#8 (permalink)
gibber71 Loser	If your parents are telling you that you are useless and worthless,then congratulate them on finding someone else rather than yourself to care for them when they get older and need someone to help them. How soon we forget that it always comes around....

05-19-2003, 06:11 AM	#10 (permalink)
nowthen Insane Location: Republic of Panama	One of the worst things that can happen in my opinion is to get stuck in the vicious circle of "work to live, live to work" when you are too young. You are just leaving college, this is the time in your life when you should be having a little fun, deciding what you want to do with yourself in the future...... that may well involve moving out, but what I trying to say is don't be in too much of a rush. You may think your parents are on your case and it is really tough, but TOUGH is working like crazy all month and only having enough money to pay the bills.... __________________ "People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can't find them, make them." George Bernard Shaw

05-19-2003, 07:03 AM	#11 (permalink)
Byebye723 Upright	get a job...any job to get money to move out... (all the while keep looking for your dream job)

05-20-2003, 09:31 AM	#12 (permalink)
Atanvarno Tilted Location: Norway	What I've discovered is that as soon as you move out, when you come back to visit them the situation is totally different. They're soooooo happy to have you in their house and they missed you terribly, even if you just lived away for a week So, get a cheap place, a source of income (this doesn't have to be work ), then go visit them to get fed __________________ Memorization is a poor excuse for intelligence." - Cesar Martinez-Garza (1973 ->) -

05-21-2003, 05:44 PM	#13 (permalink)
NoSoup Non-Rookie Location: Green Bay, WI	I just went though a similar situation. Basically, as crazy as it may sound, just go. First of all, there is the shock-factor, where your parents go "Holy Shit- I can't believe he moved out" There are basically two results to that. A) Your parents realize that you really aren't that terrible of a child, and realize that you are not really what they thought. This will generally happen if you are not known for doing crazy shit. and of course, the dreaded B could occur as well B) Get out - and Stay out! Anyway, if A happens, see if you can work a deal with your parents, like they get off your case if you pay a little rent. If B happens, or if A happens and you decide to keep going it on your own, judging from past experience, It isn't nearly as hard as people say it is. When I had first moved out I was pretty damn content to sit in my apartment and think "Damn... I can't believe this is really mine," therefore saving me a ton of money on entertainment. Eventually it gets old, true, but during this time you should be able to save up a couple months worth of rent. My advice, take it or leave it, on roomates is to either move in with a really good friend, or some total stranger. So far in my experience I have lived with both. It is difficult to say which I prefered, with the friend we have a commradary, but with the total stranger, we had a lot more mutual respect for each others things and lives. Just make sure that if there are problems you bring them up before they explode. My financial advice is to think about the future - don't just make minimum payments on credit cards, that is going to get you nowhere. If you have a car loan, pay extra if you can. Yeah, money is a little tight at the moment, but a year from now you'll be happy that you were strapped now. Well, there is my 2 cents worth... Good luck to you, and keep us posted. Oh - on a final note, When I moved out, I had some clothes and a stereo. While I was in my "I can't believe this is mine" phase I was sitting in the middle of my living room floor. Buy the essentials first, and then slowly aquire the "wants " Last edited by NoSoup; 05-21-2003 at 05:46 PM..

05-22-2003, 07:37 AM	#14 (permalink)
DelayedReaction BFG Builder Location: University of Maryland	Financial stability first, independence second. Rather than work against your parents, have them work with you. Tell them that you'd like to move out and be independent, just as they want you to be, and that you need some help in order to get that way. They've been through it, so they'll know exactly what you'll need to do. __________________ If ignorance is bliss, you must be having an orgasm.