Jam

how hard would it be to hide a tounge ring from parents. im 19, live at home, want to pierce my tounge (im a guy btw) and my parents have said things always like i cant die my hair or get piercings, anywho my hair is always bleached now so i guess that wasnt such a big deal but i wonder if i could hide having my tougne pierced.?

oh my, its spelt tongue isnt it

WarWagon

Good luck. If they don't notice you talking funny/not eating for a few days, then its inevitable that they're going to catch the glisten before long.

But who the hell cares? You're 19, do what you want.

Jam

i dont want to move out though lol

Rlyss

There's no way they won't notice it.

Sounds like a classic case of 'Their house, their rules.' Weigh up whether getting kicked out is worth having a tongue ring <b>now</b>, as opposed to maybe getting it done in a few years' time.

Tongue ring or a roof over your head? I know which one I'd prefer.

Cynthetiq

well then I guess you aren't willing to accept the consequences of your actions.

if the actions you take make moving a possibility and you don't want that, then IMO the answer is crystal clear.

But for some people, the desire to "get over" or "get what they want now" instant gratification, is more important than thinking of the consequences, hence why there are people who have kids at 16.

Jam

yeah but my sister has like 8 piercings in each ear.. its kind of unfair

Cynthetiq

sure but to point out worse behavoir to excuse bad behavior doesn't make it right either.

you are and should be judged solely on your own merits. so while it is unfair in on sense she has her own crosses to bear.

I have a little sister and she was given more liberties on some things than I and as the older brother I was given other liberties that she wasn't. IMO it all balanced out somehow someway in the big picture, not in the minutae.

:::OshnSoul:::

for one, you're an adult now, they can't tell you what to do forever

for two, they have flat, flesh-coloured tops & bottoms (balls) to put on the bar. Very hard to see.

Averett

I agree BUT... He still lives with them. Their roof, their rules. At least that's how I was brought up. (I don't mean that to sound like I'm impling you or others weren't brought up correctly or whatever.)

Tongue rings freak me out anyway, leave your tongue alone

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lol- i was the type to do it anyways- get a tatoo, get my tongue and eyebrow pierced, dyed my hair- but it all depends on the parents.

there really is no hurry for a tongue ring, though.

Lunchbox7

I knew a guy who had his toungue pearced for over 18 months without his parents knowing

majik_6

It's always possible that you COULD hide these things. Hell, I was able to stretch my ears to 0ga before my parents noticed that they'd gotten that big. And I hid a couple of large tattoos for almost three years.

But, the thing is, even if you can hide it, realize that you best be prepared for them finding out. Cause, chances are, eventually they're going to catch it. And when they do, you've gotta be ready for the consequences.

If you honestly think that they'll make you move out (and you're not ready for that) then wait. Because, it's pretty risky to just HOPE that they won't catch you.

I'm not gonna feed you any line about "respect their authority" because it would make me nothing but a damned hypocrite. I got the aforementioned tattoos and stretched ears, along with a lip ring and an eyebrow ring all against my parent's will while still living under their roof. Thankfully, they dealt with those issues. However, they did count as strikes against me when my grades fell in college, and they're a large part of the reason I'll be moving out in about 2 months.

So, if you really think it's worth it (which it may very well be), then go for it. But be ready if they do tell you to get the hell out.

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Esco

Got to tell you about my friend. She pierced her tongue and wasn't able to eat for a while ... not to mention she had slurred speech for days. I guess you could hide it, depending on how much you interact with moms and pop.

BTW, I got a tattoo at 18 while still living at home. I didn't talk to my parents first, I just did it. Their only problem with the tat was that I didn't come talk to them first. Maybe your parents will be understanding if you talk with them.

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bermuDa

hiding it depends more on how you can handle the healing process. It only took me a week for the swelling to go away. eating was a hassle but I don't normally eat with my family, so they wouldn't have noticed...

There are flesh-colored bars and half-balls called retainers you could wear if you're really concerned, but it's not a good idea to change bars within the first couple weeks.

I say if you're really concerned about your parents finding out, give it some time. You won't be living with them forever.

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qtpye4u84

Yea it is hard, they do have flesh color's and clear ones,but if it is shiney they will see it easly, so no silver.

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jRuntlets

egads, sorry, "tongue rings" bother me. It's a tongue piercing! There's no ring in your tongue, it's a barbell. Sorry - just my little pet peeve.

Darker colors of jewlery help (black Titanium beads on the top of the barbell) hide it. As well as some of the flesh colored beads, though some of these are non-autoclaveable so they aren't suitable for fresh piercings. Also, my friend learned that if she angled her head down her front teeth concealed the piercing.

Though, in all reality if your parents are willing to kick you out over it, is it really worth it? No house to live in. Along with that tongue piercings commonly cause chipped teeth and receded gums, if you're on their insurance plan they could drop you and you'd have no dental help for these problems either.

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ibis

Well, I never talked to my parents much, so I guess I could have pulled it off. It might depend on how often their used to you opening your mouth. I would assume it'd be hard to hide the first week or so.

Tinker

OK My tongue is pierced twice.. I work for a major studio and still not many have noticed mine of course I am 35 what would they say.. but
when you get pierced you will have swelling, your speech will not be normal for a few days... after 6 weeks of healing you can put a shorter barbel in which will cut down on the slack... and dont be one of those people that cant stop playing with it, to me that is sooo annoying!!!!! I have had mine pierced for almost 10 years now and most dont even notice it. Also if you do it, please be sure to follow all the care instructions!!!!!!!! Lysterine will be your best friend

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Delvid

I have always wanted to have a woman with a pierced tongue show me the true benefits of it.

silenced

simply put, talk to your parents about it maturely. Do the research and tell them about it. Give them the information, good bad otherwise. Since you are older and more than likely responsible, they might have no problem with it, as long as you talk to them about it beforehand. Hiding it and then letting them find out the hard way could easily break their trust of you if they are rather strict in that fashion. so go do some research and then talk to them and update us.

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kulrblind

To begin with, if you don't want to talk to your parents about it, don't talk to them about it. You're old enough, and they're not likely

It's entirely possible to hide it. Ice and Midol are your friends. I got mine pierced a week before heading "home for the holidays" and nobody even knew.