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Konichiwaneko · 12-07-2003, 11:14 PM

One of those nights where you wish you had answers so you weren't so cold.

My Gf and I broke up tonight, and the closest answer I can get to why is "I don't know".

Not seeking pity, just wish I wasn't ignorant.

Posting because I care for the forum.

phredgreen · 12-07-2003, 11:29 PM

sometimes, when you don't know, you get plenty of oppurtunity for retrospect. it'd be numbskulled of me to just tell you to get over the broad and move on cuz i know as well as you do that that isn't gonna happen for a while, so i'll say this:

take some time to regroup, figure out what your priorities in life are, and start making some goals that you can work toward acheiving. giving yourself constructive goals will help take your mind off less delightful things and help you start moving on instead of dwelling on what once was but is no more.

keep your head up, champ. blah blah fish in the sea blah blah...

Konichiwaneko · 12-07-2003, 11:57 PM

I'm happy you replied Phred...as someone who has been on the forum for a while, I notice and respect all the great post you have put up. It means a lot.

It's funny, my personal philosophy on life is that My life is a cake. It's nice, it's sweet, and it's bad for your health. People I meet, GF's, friends, and so on are the topping. Though not needed they do make the cake better.

So my life is good right now, the future is bright, and it's wonderful.

I guess I'm mostly sad because I'm not sharing that feeling with someone right now, and they aren't sharing their perspective with me. (In that way only couples can).

Cynthetiq · 12-08-2003, 08:27 AM

sometimes one never knows the rationale or motivation behind the decision. It's hard not to take it personally especially since it's originating from personal relationship. Rejection is hard not matter where it comes from.

redravin40 · 12-08-2003, 09:27 AM

I don't know the circumstances around your break up but I can say that it is important to talk to friends and keep on going.
Cry when you need to, get some sleep, eat even when you don't feel like it, and try not to dwell on it too much.
The feeling of being ignorant to the circumstances isn't all that unusual.
Don't worry, you will gain insight as time passes.
That is also the only thing that will really help the other feelings you have.

Konichiwaneko · 12-08-2003, 02:42 PM

Thanks guys.

The situation is iffy...she won't give me a reason. Some people suggest that she wasn't ready for a relationship they may be right.

As of right now I've had a tremendous day. It's been busy.

When left to think the doubt and insecurity comes in on a subconcious level, which will go away in a couple of days.

I really don't know why I put this post up....I think it's like my friend Jason mentioned. You put stuff up so you can talk to yourself. Force yourself to say what you are feeling.

Also to have the pleasure of meeting anyone else on this magic carpet ride called the tfp

Bloodslick · 12-10-2003, 11:26 AM

Well, this thread is a few days old, so I hope that dealing with things is getting easier for you.

Sometimes breakups happen because of an infinite number of little things that amount to a huge schism. Sometimes they happen because of a little niggling feeling that something inexplicably just isn't right.

It doesn't matter which happened in any case. Leaving the unhealthy behind to move on to better territory is always the best option and should need no explanation.

Nice Crying Freeman avatar.

ashap · 12-10-2003, 01:25 PM

She may not know why. Sometimes it is hard to verbalize abstract thoughts. I broke up with a gf once not knowing exactly why, just that something was not right. After a while of contemplation, I got a better idea of what it was. Not to say that is the situation, just to lend some perspective.
All in all, I ended up in a better place. You don't want to be with someone that is in the relationship half-heartedly or is unsure of their position - you ultimately won't get what you need out of it. Spend some time and think your perspective throughand you will end up in a better place emotionally. Keep your peace of mind about it all!

12-07-2003, 11:14 PM	#1 (permalink)
Konichiwaneko The Dreaded Pixel Nazi Location: Inside my camera	As the world turns One of those nights where you wish you had answers so you weren't so cold. My Gf and I broke up tonight, and the closest answer I can get to why is "I don't know". Not seeking pity, just wish I wasn't ignorant. Posting because I care for the forum. __________________ Hesitate. Pull me in. Breath on breath. Skin on skin. Loving deep. Falling fast. All right here. Let this last. Here with our lips locked tight. Baby the time is right for us... to forget about us.

12-07-2003, 11:29 PM	#2 (permalink)
phredgreen who? Location: the phoenix metro	sometimes, when you don't know, you get plenty of oppurtunity for retrospect. it'd be numbskulled of me to just tell you to get over the broad and move on cuz i know as well as you do that that isn't gonna happen for a while, so i'll say this: take some time to regroup, figure out what your priorities in life are, and start making some goals that you can work toward acheiving. giving yourself constructive goals will help take your mind off less delightful things and help you start moving on instead of dwelling on what once was but is no more. keep your head up, champ. blah blah fish in the sea blah blah... __________________ My country is the world, and my religion is to do good. - Thomas Paine

12-07-2003, 11:57 PM	#3 (permalink)
Konichiwaneko The Dreaded Pixel Nazi Location: Inside my camera	I'm happy you replied Phred...as someone who has been on the forum for a while, I notice and respect all the great post you have put up. It means a lot. It's funny, my personal philosophy on life is that My life is a cake. It's nice, it's sweet, and it's bad for your health. People I meet, GF's, friends, and so on are the topping. Though not needed they do make the cake better. So my life is good right now, the future is bright, and it's wonderful. I guess I'm mostly sad because I'm not sharing that feeling with someone right now, and they aren't sharing their perspective with me. (In that way only couples can). __________________ Hesitate. Pull me in. Breath on breath. Skin on skin. Loving deep. Falling fast. All right here. Let this last. Here with our lips locked tight. Baby the time is right for us... to forget about us.

12-08-2003, 08:27 AM	#4 (permalink)
Cynthetiq Tilted Cat Head Administrator Location: Manhattan, NY	sometimes one never knows the rationale or motivation behind the decision. It's hard not to take it personally especially since it's originating from personal relationship. Rejection is hard not matter where it comes from. __________________ I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not. What's the best nation in the world? DO-NATION!

12-08-2003, 02:42 PM	#6 (permalink)
Konichiwaneko The Dreaded Pixel Nazi Location: Inside my camera	Thanks guys. The situation is iffy...she won't give me a reason. Some people suggest that she wasn't ready for a relationship they may be right. As of right now I've had a tremendous day. It's been busy. When left to think the doubt and insecurity comes in on a subconcious level, which will go away in a couple of days. I really don't know why I put this post up....I think it's like my friend Jason mentioned. You put stuff up so you can talk to yourself. Force yourself to say what you are feeling. Also to have the pleasure of meeting anyone else on this magic carpet ride called the tfp __________________ Hesitate. Pull me in. Breath on breath. Skin on skin. Loving deep. Falling fast. All right here. Let this last. Here with our lips locked tight. Baby the time is right for us... to forget about us.

12-08-2003, 09:27 AM	#5 (permalink)
redravin40 Loser Location: With Jadzia	I don't know the circumstances around your break up but I can say that it is important to talk to friends and keep on going. Cry when you need to, get some sleep, eat even when you don't feel like it, and try not to dwell on it too much. The feeling of being ignorant to the circumstances isn't all that unusual. Don't worry, you will gain insight as time passes. That is also the only thing that will really help the other feelings you have.

12-10-2003, 11:26 AM	#7 (permalink)
Bloodslick Loser Location: a darkened back alley	Well, this thread is a few days old, so I hope that dealing with things is getting easier for you. Sometimes breakups happen because of an infinite number of little things that amount to a huge schism. Sometimes they happen because of a little niggling feeling that something inexplicably just isn't right. It doesn't matter which happened in any case. Leaving the unhealthy behind to move on to better territory is always the best option and should need no explanation. Nice Crying Freeman avatar.

12-10-2003, 01:25 PM	#8 (permalink)
ashap Crazy Location: Great white north	She may not know why. Sometimes it is hard to verbalize abstract thoughts. I broke up with a gf once not knowing exactly why, just that something was not right. After a while of contemplation, I got a better idea of what it was. Not to say that is the situation, just to lend some perspective. All in all, I ended up in a better place. You don't want to be with someone that is in the relationship half-heartedly or is unsure of their position - you ultimately won't get what you need out of it. Spend some time and think your perspective throughand you will end up in a better place emotionally. Keep your peace of mind about it all!