The_Dude

Here's my situation.

I'm in a math class that is really really hard and the rest of the class thinks the same way about the class. I was browsing through this messageboard for the class and I happened to post my IM address.

This girl added me and asked for some homework help. I didnt know who she was or what she looked like at this point. I had an idea of who she was though. Anyway, I tried to help her as much as I could (through IM) and then she asked me if I wanted to work with her this wednesday in my dorm (my dorm, not dorm room). Today, I found out that she wasnt who I thought she was.

She's actually 29 years old!

I dont know how comfortable I would be to do math problems with a 29 year old woman (and I'm 18). And through the IM convo's, I think that she might actually like me (I'm not sure though). She's WAY out of my range for anything.

I dont know whether I should cancel this appoinment or not. Any suggestions?

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micah67

For the time being, consider it math work. Don't worry about the age difference - you are two people trying to figure out how things work.

Cross the "attraction" issue *if* it becomes an issue. (And for the record, there's nothing wrong with the 11 year difference IF there is an attraction issue. - my two cents.)

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Rodney

I agree with micah67. It's just math, and you're helping each other.

If it all goes somewhere you're uncomfortable with -- and odds are, not -- you always have the power to say "no."

But don't turn down a meet with her just because it _might_ turn into something uncomfortable. That's the kind of thinking that leads to a very uneventful and unadventurous life.

yournamehere

Maybe she wants to pass math, and figures you look enough like a math geek to pull her through

/jk

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clavus

Two things -

1) IT'S JUST MATH HOMEWORK. Christ. Sorry to yell, but just because she's 29 doesn't mean you guys can't learn math together.

2) When I was 18, I managed to shag a 27 year old scientist on campus. We had a great relationship, and I'm friends with her to this day (18 years later). Chew on that.

This is a great time in your life to meet and enjoy new people. Don't let silly things like age, race, gender, etc. get in your way.

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neddy65

Math aside, this is an opportunity to expand your horizons and meet other people. Have fun, help someone and maybe learn something in return.

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troit

You seem to be hung up on the age issue -- try thinking of your situation this way:

Would you still have a problem if you were employed and you had to work with a co-worker on a project that would allow the two of you to get up to speed on a certain subject.

I mean your just studying -- take advantage of the different perspective she has to offer and the fact that she will probably drive you to study more... Good luck!

*my $0.02*

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absorbentishe

Help her with the math, and see what else happens. I was always looking for some beer help back then. Just go with the flow.

Lebell

Geez,

Put your hormones back in your pants.

She's just asking for math help.

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johnnymysto

*SIGH* Oh to be 18 and doing math homework with a 29-year-old woman....

You're already having more fun in your Freshman year than I did.

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JStrider

theres nothin wrong with that age difference if your both into it...

as for this case i would say she probably just wants math help... if its more... then have some fun...

and only a LONGHORN would be freakin out like this over such a thing...

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Cynthetiq

remember... focus on MATH!!! stop looking at her boobs.

now stop thinking about her boobs.... think MATH.

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alkaloid

Is she hot?
Just curious....

meff

I am 19 and married to a 34 year old

'nuff said.

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Memalvada

Get a hold of yourself man! Its just studying.... She's just a woman...

WTF are you afraid of?

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The_Dude

nope. that's another thing.

if she was, i would have invited her to my room

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Cynthetiq

you could of course remember the sexual math axiom

the angle of the dangle is directly proportional to the mass of the ass multipied by the circumference of the boobies.

oh you'd invite her to your room if she was hot?? jeez you aren't thinking about math at all.

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alkaloid

They say teaching is the best way of learning. So you may get something out of it. But most likely the time spent studying with her would basically be free tutoring for her, and mostly waste of time for you. Since it's been established that she's not even good looking, I'd now recommend that you blow her off nicely.
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Averett

Say in your head "Its only math homework help" Rinse and repeat..

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seizei

was all ready to reply saying that you can teach her some math.. then she can teach you some 'extracurricular' stuff

but then you said she isn't hot, so stick to the math.

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oberon

Dude, seriously, WTF cares who you're working on math homework with as long as they have a brain?

Who knows, maybe she has a hot friend you'd be interested in. Don't burn your bridges over age or beauty (in the eye of the beholder, my friend).

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expd

Sounds like you have already flunked math. You added two and two and came up with five. Sometimes a request is no more than what the words spell out. Don't make assumptions without any basis. Bad formula for math and even worse for a happy life.

Slims

Listen to everybody else, right now it's just a study session you both seem to need. If she comes on to you, just politely shrug it off.

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Splice

Thank you. Dude, not everybody who ask for your help wants to have sex with you!

The_Dude

In case anyone is wondering on what I did, I cancelled the meeting.

I did it for other reasons though (that I had a study session about 30 mts from the meeting time which suddenly came up).

Hopefully, we'll reschedule.

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water_boy1999

Aaahhh....to be in college again......the decisions you have to make...

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