Zeraph

I'm with you OP. Just because you love someone intimately doesn't mean you want to see them wipe their ass. Goes for good hygiene too. Just because I love you doesn't mean I want to smell your BO or feel your unbrushed teeth with my tongue.

Tell her to meditate on the saying "You think your shit don't stink" ... its not just for referencing arrogance.

Daniel_

Americans visit my offices reasonably regularly. Often they ask to use the bathroom.

We don't have a bathroom.

We have lots of toilets; none with a bath in...

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purplelirpa

there's no way I could poop with the door open!

I have to wait until everyone leaves public restrooms so no one hears me. There's nothing more embarrassing than that plop-plop..

Bear Cub

Personally, I find it hilarious when my SO hears me machine gunning out a Jackson Pollock in the bathroom. However, I don't want to hear her pooping. I mean, for Christ's sake, I put my dick in there!

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Sharon

I think women are probably less squeamish about this because public toilets are communal spaces to us. We pee, we poop, we chat, we do our make up. We even go together. Men don't seem to do this... in fact I remember a conversation I had with a close male friend of mine several years ago - he said that typically men don't even acknowledge each other in a public toilet, and even explained the process of choosing the urinal which is the further away from anyone else using the urinal at the time!

Personally, I prefer not to take a shit around the men in my life; it may sound odd, but I don't want them associating my butt with anything smelly or icky. I keep myself very clean back there, and I want them to feel safe spanking it, licking it and sticking things in it, and that's surely easier if they don't smell or hear what comes out of it.

purplelirpa

2 things:

1. It makes me really uncomfortable when women talk to me in a public bathroom while I'm trying to go. Because women are so apt to listen, and because I've never heard it done, I also can't poo in a public restroom.

2. Women don't have to see each other doing our business. I imagine I would be disinclined to make small talk with the woman sitting on the toilet next to me if there was no wall separating us.

Private restrooms are fair game, though. I scare the shit (ha no pun intended) out of my guy walking into the bathroom when he's mid poo. We don't close the doors if it's just a pee. He's taken to locking the door now. I'm alright with pooping in front of him as long as I've already begun pooping, starting pooping is so incredibly difficult to do while being watched because the necessary muscles don't want to relax mid-scrutiny.

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jewels

Personally, I don't care. I've always adapted to the important men in my life just because it doesn't bother me either way and there are bigger things to tackle in relationships.

You're not oversensitive. She was a tad insensitive but I'm glad that she's realized this and has backed off some. Mutual respect. Muy importante!

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Anormalguy

After 22+ years of my objecting, my wife still insists on conversing while I'm sitting on the toilet. I sort of understand it if it's something important that needs to be addressed, but not if it's something that can wait.

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Strange Famous

I dont mind taking a piss in front of someon (anyone in fact), but I very much need to take a shit in private.

Doesnt everyone (or every man) feel the same?

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Plan9

No, some girls flip out... they won't pee on the same floor as their boyfriend if there is a chance that old accidental fog horn might go off.

I had a girlfriend like that. Fit, funny, really down to earth... but really phobic about bathroom activities. Completely irrational "girls don't poop" logic.

I swear she would have rather embraced seppuku than unburden her bowels in the bathroom next to the living room while I was watching a movie.

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SecretMethod70

Put me down as another pee is OK, shit is not. Thankfully, my girlfriend agrees.

Also, I'm an American and I always feel odd when I slip and call it a "bathroom." The Brits are right: there's no bath! Even when I'm in someone home where there is a bath, I'm not going to be using the bath. Restroom is equally ridiculous. Washroom is better, though even that one feels a bit odd to me. I like Daniel_'s explanation for why that term is appropriate though.

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Vigilante

I have no issue pissing in front of anyone. Like other men, anything other than that is strictly private.

For men, the restroom is like a holy temple. No one speaks. No one acknowledges another. If you bump into another coming out as you're going in the door, you simply nod, and if you're being vocal, you grunt a greeting. It's perfectly acceptable to do nothing but walk past.

There are a few exceptions that bring chuckles and stuff, but they are far and few between. Not habitual at all.

People that treat the public restroom like their home disgust me. If a building has 3 floors of public restrooms, it is reasonable to walk in, see a stall door closed, and leave and go to another floor for an empty restroom. I hate it when someone walks in and takes a seat right next to me. I will wait down the hall, go up the stairs to another floor or go back to my desk and wait longer if need be. I find the cleanest and least used restroom and use that one. That is called "the safe haven". I refer to it as such in my mind when I'm embarking on my trek to the toilet

At my last job, I tracked traffic over a month and found that generally, the 3rd floor is least used and has the least number of occupied offices. That was my safe haven from then on.

Men are weird about that stuff. My wife didn't get it for a long time too. She would just barge in and I'd be like WTF GET OUT. Now she respects my privacy, but will occasionally knock then enter to get something, then leave quickly while sticking her tongue out at me or something. LOL

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snowy

My husband's pooping time is his private time. I try not to interrupt.

I don't care if someone's in the room while I pee. I really don't. My husband will spend a significant amount of time farting around in the bathroom, and acts all offended when I come in and drop trou to pee. Whatever. If you don't want to see me pee, stop dilly-dallying and get out of my bathroom. Our bathroom space is kind of limited around here. However, I will not poop with other people around. That's just gross.

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Charlatan

Bathroom, restroom... the rest of the world calls it a toilet.

I was in France once and had to go. I asked someone, Ou est le salle de bain (where is the bath room)? And received a look like I was talking crazy talk (i.e. why do you want to have a bath in the middle of a Convention Centre?).

I quickly changed to, Ou est la toilette? And was directed to the appropriate location.


The funny thing about Singapore is that it's a bit of a cultural hybrid with a lot of British influence but also a healthy dose of American influence. Depending on whom you are talking to, you can say toilet or bathroom. I have learned to use toilet as it is the more straight forward word and creates fewer questions when speaking to older folks with less of a grasp on the English language.

I suppose I could go all British and say WC or water closet.

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