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inBOIL · 04-30-2009, 09:01 PM

Men, have you ever had a woman make the first move on you? From what I've heard, women give the idea a lot of lip-service, but rarely follow through. Is being approached by a woman becoming common, or just less uncommon?

I've never been asked out in a non-joking way, or chatted up or propositioned by a non-pro.

Xerxys · 04-30-2009, 09:06 PM

The girl I'm talking to approched me. I would never have approached her!!! The league thing is primal, I guess!

SSJTWIZTA · 05-01-2009, 02:08 AM

my woman of 4 years now talked to me first.

i shit you not, this is how we started dating. she looked me dead in my eyes and said "MINE! you're mine."

best relationship ive ever had.

little_tippler · 05-01-2009, 02:40 AM

I've done that but they all ran....*sigh*

Lucifer · 05-01-2009, 02:54 AM

My fiancee initiated everything with me and I've never, ever been happier, more content or more in love.

snowy · 05-01-2009, 07:32 AM

I was the one who made a move on my guy. It worked out well for us both, I think!

lostgirl · 05-01-2009, 07:50 AM

I was the one who walked up to my current SO and started a conversation. That was the first time I had ever done that. I saw him looking at me and then trying to act like he wasn't looking at me. So I came up with an excuse to go talk to him.

I also was the first to offer him a BJ, because I sensed he was too shy to ask me too. Much to my pleasure it led to sex. He really wanted to do all of the above, I could tell, so I made a move for him. It was also the first time I had initiated sex in a relationship.

Xerxys · 05-01-2009, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by little_tippler

I've done that but they all ran....*sigh*

If YOU asked me out I'd think I'm being punked ....

Gosh, I really need to work on my self esteem!!

Redjake · 05-01-2009, 10:57 AM

My wife (then RA of our floor in college!) approached me at a party and basically flatout kissed me after talking for an hour. Then she asked me out and the rest is history!

Strange Famous · 05-01-2009, 11:09 AM

Once. A girl I dated for a year and a half at uni and I think the only person (parents and sister aside) I maybe loved.

Although I had probably made my feelings quite obvious I didnt out and out make it clear and she actually made the first official move. It came over the guy she had just broken up to threatening to beat me up to her (without even having met me and on the basis of something apparently his mate told him... but he was one of those people who is all talk cos when he actually met me at a corrdior party he was extremely polite and calm and didnt talk at all about wanting to kick the shit out of me or such like). When I was saying his intentions were stupid and evidence that he wasnt good enough for her, she admitted having feelings for me (which I had about her)

I really wish we didnt break up. The reason I did was she went back to London and I didnt have the guts to go with her, and wound up being a fucking admin manager and 22 stone in the same town I grew up in cos I was too scared to leave what I felt was my "home" at age 21, and she became an a grown up and probably lived happy ever after.

But I guess its easy to idolise the paths you dont follow in life, so...

MSD · 05-01-2009, 12:59 PM

I read somewhere in the past week that 5 out of 6 women who ask a man out receive a "yes." It's rare for me that a woman makes the first move simply because my size makes me extremely intimidating, so it's nice when it happens whether or not I'm interested.

Zeraph · 05-01-2009, 05:22 PM

I've had it happen a couple of time's where some woman I've never seen before basically comes right up, says I seem cool or some such, and asks for my number. I wish it happened way more often. Usually I'm quite shocked when this happens, barely able to mutter much of anything but my number.

It can be really tough to know if a stranger is interested sometimes, especially with all the "flirting for fun" and "just wants friends" kind of types. So girls! Ask a guy out!

View Poll Results: Has a woman ever approached you unsolicited and:
Chatted you up, but nothing further	7	23.33%
Asked you out/asked for your number	11	36.67%
Asked to have sex	7	23.33%
None of the above	5	16.67%
Voters: 30. You may not vote on this poll

04-30-2009, 09:01 PM	#1 (permalink)
inBOIL I have eaten the slaw	Women making the first move. Men, have you ever had a woman make the first move on you? From what I've heard, women give the idea a lot of lip-service, but rarely follow through. Is being approached by a woman becoming common, or just less uncommon? I've never been asked out in a non-joking way, or chatted up or propositioned by a non-pro. __________________ And you believe Bush and the liberals and divorced parents and gays and blacks and the Christian right and fossil fuels and Xbox are all to blame, meanwhile you yourselves create an ad where your kid hits you in the head with a baseball and you don't understand the message that the problem is you.

04-30-2009, 09:06 PM	#2 (permalink)
Xerxys Junkie Location: My head.	The girl I'm talking to approched me. I would never have approached her!!! The league thing is primal, I guess! Last edited by Xerxys; 05-01-2009 at 10:27 PM..

05-01-2009, 02:08 AM	#3 (permalink)
SSJTWIZTA Master Thief. Master Criminal. Masturbator. Location: Windiwana	my woman of 4 years now talked to me first. i shit you not, this is how we started dating. she looked me dead in my eyes and said "MINE! you're mine." best relationship ive ever had. __________________ First they came for the Jews and I did not speak out because I was not a Jew. Then they came for the communists and I did not speak out because I was not a communist. Then they came for the trade unionists and I did not speak out because I was not a trade unionist Then they came for me And there was no one left to speak out for me. -Pastor Martin Niemoller

05-01-2009, 02:40 AM	#4 (permalink)
little_tippler Leaning against the -Sun- Super Moderator Location: on the other side	I've done that but they all ran....sigh __________________ Whether we write or speak or do but look We are ever unapparent. What we are Cannot be transfused into word or book. Our soul from us is infinitely far. However much we give our thoughts the will To be our soul and gesture it abroad, Our hearts are incommunicable still. In what we show ourselves we are ignored. The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged By any skill of thought or trick of seeming. Unto our very selves we are abridged When we would utter to our thought our being. We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams, And each to each other dreams of others' dreams. Fernando Pessoa, 1918

05-01-2009, 02:54 AM	#5 (permalink)
Lucifer Husband of Seamaiden Location: Nova Scotia	My fiancee initiated everything with me and I've never, ever been happier, more content or more in love. __________________ I am a brother to dragons, and a companion to owls. - Job 30:29 1123, 6536, 5321

05-01-2009, 07:32 AM	#6 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	I was the one who made a move on my guy. It worked out well for us both, I think! __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

05-01-2009, 07:50 AM	#7 (permalink)
lostgirl lightform Location: Edge of the deep green sea	I was the one who walked up to my current SO and started a conversation. That was the first time I had ever done that. I saw him looking at me and then trying to act like he wasn't looking at me. So I came up with an excuse to go talk to him. I also was the first to offer him a BJ, because I sensed he was too shy to ask me too. Much to my pleasure it led to sex. He really wanted to do all of the above, I could tell, so I made a move for him. It was also the first time I had initiated sex in a relationship. __________________ We're about to go through the crucible, but we'll come out the other side. We always arise from our own ashes. Everything returns later in its changed form. - Children of Dune

05-01-2009, 10:57 AM	#9 (permalink)
Redjake I'm a family man - I run a family business. Location: Wilson, NC	My wife (then RA of our floor in college!) approached me at a party and basically flatout kissed me after talking for an hour. Then she asked me out and the rest is history!

05-01-2009, 11:09 AM	#10 (permalink)
Strange Famous follower of the child's crusade?	Once. A girl I dated for a year and a half at uni and I think the only person (parents and sister aside) I maybe loved. Although I had probably made my feelings quite obvious I didnt out and out make it clear and she actually made the first official move. It came over the guy she had just broken up to threatening to beat me up to her (without even having met me and on the basis of something apparently his mate told him... but he was one of those people who is all talk cos when he actually met me at a corrdior party he was extremely polite and calm and didnt talk at all about wanting to kick the shit out of me or such like). When I was saying his intentions were stupid and evidence that he wasnt good enough for her, she admitted having feelings for me (which I had about her) I really wish we didnt break up. The reason I did was she went back to London and I didnt have the guts to go with her, and wound up being a fucking admin manager and 22 stone in the same town I grew up in cos I was too scared to leave what I felt was my "home" at age 21, and she became an a grown up and probably lived happy ever after. But I guess its easy to idolise the paths you dont follow in life, so... __________________ "Do not tell lies, and do not do what you hate, for all things are plain in the sight of Heaven. For nothing hidden will not become manifest, and nothing covered will remain without being uncovered." The Gospel of Thomas

05-01-2009, 12:59 PM	#11 (permalink)
MSD The sky calls to us ... Super Moderator Location: CT	I read somewhere in the past week that 5 out of 6 women who ask a man out receive a "yes." It's rare for me that a woman makes the first move simply because my size makes me extremely intimidating, so it's nice when it happens whether or not I'm interested.

05-01-2009, 05:22 PM	#12 (permalink)
Zeraph Banned Location: The Cosmos	I've had it happen a couple of time's where some woman I've never seen before basically comes right up, says I seem cool or some such, and asks for my number. I wish it happened way more often. Usually I'm quite shocked when this happens, barely able to mutter much of anything but my number. It can be really tough to know if a stranger is interested sometimes, especially with all the "flirting for fun" and "just wants friends" kind of types. So girls! Ask a guy out!