ASU2003

Now, this will be different for different people, but I am wondering how often you talk to your parents, children that don't live at home, spouse, person you are dating, best friends, friends, and anyone else in your life that you think is important.

I'm mainly wondering about how long a couple that is dating (at the beginning) could go without talking to one another and it not being an issue with you. If they went on a business trip and couldn't call for a week would it be a problem? What about 3 weeks?

I usually talk to my parents once or twice a week, I don't live with them and I see them a few times a year.

Vigilante

I talk to my wife daily. I have talked to her daily since we started dating, and even before. By daily I mean not a single day has gone by where we didn't talk, either in person or on the phone.

As for the rest of the world, it depends on who I am talking about. My grandfather raised me from about 3 to 14, and I haven't talked to him in...7 years? He even lives just a couple of miles away. He was important in my life in that he raised me during that time, but he was a royal asshole. Sometime during college I realized that I didn't actually have to talk to him, so I haven't since. I've even driven by (checking on hurricane damage to the old house) and saw him and he saw me, and I kept driving.

I chat with my in-laws all the time. We're close and they consider me their kid as much as their own kids. In fact Dad was over today helping me paint a bedroom.

I talk to friends pretty rarely. I just saw 2 very good friends that I hadn't seen in 7 years. They came to our halloween party from about an hour and a half away. I have some local friends too, but we chat maybe once a month to once every 2 weeks.

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jewels

I talk to my parents once or twice per week. I see my kids daily but leave them alone every other weekend when they're with their dad, so let's call that two days.

As for my man, if he was on a business trip, he could still call at least once every day. Seriously. Or at least he could ping me.

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abaya

With my husband, from the very beginning of our relationship (first date), not a day has gone by in the last 4.5 years without us speaking to each other at least once... usually many more times than that... no matter how far apart we were.

The sole exception to this was when I was forced to be incommunicado when I was doing fieldwork in the African bush (rural Zambia) for 2 months. I had no access to any phone, internet, or postal mail for 3 weeks at a time. But, in our own way, we still contacted each other every day... I kept a journal in which I wrote letters to him each day (and sent the whole book to him when I was finished), and he wrote me e-mails each day, all of which I read in one sitting when I got back to an urban area.

As for parents, it averages out to about once a week, and grandparents more like once a month (I only have one left now). Aunts and uncles, it varies... depending on how much I like them or not. The ones I don't like so much, we never talk. I probably talk more with my cousins than anyone else, since we're constantly online and connected in that way. Funny, I actually talk with my 3 best friends least often (because they're furthest away right now, and they are not technologically adept)... once every few months, maybe. And my next-best group of friends are all on Facebook, so that's at least once a week.

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little_tippler

I talk to my mom every day, sometimes more than once. We both live alone and very close by to each other, and are pretty close emotionally too. I'm an only child so it figures.

With a SO, I can go for 3-4 days without talking much, especially if they are away somewhere. After that I miss them too much and it becomes a problem.

With friends, I can go for weeks, sometimes months. This happens mainly because several of my closest friends live abroad, so though we email often, sometimes actual talking is a lot further apart. I have learned to live with this.

I'm a bit of a loner and when my life is less busy, sometimes I can go for days without talking to anyone, except maybe my mom who will call to check up on me. I go a bit mad when that happens.

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We are ever unapparent. What we are
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However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
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SabrinaFair

Let's see....

My parents, I talk to about 2-3 times a week on average, but sometimes when we get busy it's more like once a week. I see them 1-2 times a month; they live about an hour away.

No SO to speak of, and no children. My last bf and I spoke just about every day, but occasionally had to go longer periods without speaking. (never more than a couple of days, though)

The person I talk to most often is my good friend and next-door-neighbor. (except during the throes of campaign season, when she starts working 80 hour weeks....then we'll go a few days without talking) We at least take a few minutes at the end of the day catching up, and have coffee together every morning on the weekends. Other friends, it varies.

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Borla

I did a fly-in fishing trip to Northern Manitoba once. The only contact we had with the outside world was one radio that could reach the main camp about 50 miles away, no one else was within range. So I went 7 1/2 days without contact with my wife, or anyone except the other guys on the trip.

Normally when I travel we talk at least 1-2 times per day, depending on our schedules. I never go the entire day without calling at least once.

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inBOIL

I regularly go over a week without talking to anyone, due to low social motivation. I'll talk to my parents about 3 or 4 times a month, but only if there's something of substance to talk about (none of that 'how are you doing' crap).

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Jetée

I can honestly go a decade without speaking to a significant other, friend or family member, but perhaps not any any longer. I have no need to talk to any one person, but if the opportunity presents itself, then so, too, will the conversation. I don't seek out what should present itself naturally.

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snowy

I talk to my SO daily; we live together so I can't really avoid it On days when we might only see each other at bedtime and be too tired to talk, we email each other. I also have two roommates. One roommate is one of my best friends, so I talk to him every day he's home, and the other is my SO's brother, so we talk when we see each other (every couple of days). I talk to my mom every day to two days, and email my dad once a week. I talk to my best friends outside of my home a lot less--I just saw my best friend this weekend after not having seen her since July! We don't talk on the phone much, either, but I call her every now and again when I really need an ear to bend. She's used to it. Her boyfriend is another close friend of mine, and we instant message once a week or so to keep each other in the loop. Some of my friends, though, I can go months without talking to, but it doesn't seem to matter in the least; we're still happy to talk to one another when we see each other.

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World's King

I talk to my mom every day. My sister a few times a week. My dad... I wish I didn't have to talk to him at all.

I talk to certain friends more then others.


I've been known to go weeks without having a face to face conversation with anyone. I tend to hide out every once in a while.

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Xerxys

I talk to my mom every day. Now if you think I'm a mommas boy, I have to talk to someone, I got nuts without having verball diarrhea spew outta me if I dont speak to anyone.

I crave company, I crave a human voice, I work for a place where I HAVE to speak to people, I have no girlfriend so no dating neccessary, because I cant stand the same person more than 30 minutes. I'm a verball whore!!

Fotzlid

I talk to the wife daily though some weeks its just by phone as we work opposite shifts.
Some days its just out of habit than any need to say anything specific.

The couple of friends I have left I only speak to a few times a year.

I speak to my parents and sister about once a month or so.

I have to talk to people constantly while at work. By the time i get home, talking is the last thing i want to do.

genuinegirly

I speak with my husband daily. Most days we don't have what you could call a conversation, but we definitely speak. I try to come up with solid conversation topics once every three days, and we'll chat for a few hours about that. He asks me every morning over breakfast if there's something I want to do special that day. Usually my response is: "Study?" He'll tell me at that point if there is something he'll want to discuss that day. He'll say something like, "We really need to look at this" and we'll set aside a time then to discuss later.

I speak with my mother once a week, if not every day. She rarely calls me, she prefers letting me phone or drop by at a time that works for me. I speak with my father once a month or so. I speak with my sister once a week, if not every day. I speak with my brother about once every six months.


Friends - I call or stop by once a month at minimum. I would rather spend every day with them, but the days never work out that way.

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Prince

I went weeks in a row, many years ago, without speaking to a single soul. It didn't really get to me, but I don't think it helped my depression either.

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Martian

I get paid to talk to strangers. So does Magpie. I'm very good at it. So is she.

And yet, surprisingly, we're both very quiet people. We do talk to one another daily, but when we're around each other there's a lot of comfortable silences as well.

Of my family, I talk to my mother most regularly, at once or twice a week. My sisters are generally once or twice a month. Friends vary wildly; we're spread out more these days, so it can be anything from once a week to once every three months. I decided a long time ago that the true definition of friendship is someone who you can go months without seeing and then pick things up like you didn't skip a day.

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Starkizzer

I talk to im2sm4t4u everyday. We talk about everything from school to work to nonsense we think up throughout the day.

I talk to my parents about once a week, my friends very, and the rest of my family about once a month. I wish I could talk with them all more but time is an issue. (Except for my brother and biological mother who I haven't spoken to in years and plan to keep it that way)

I am one of those people who has no problem talking about whatever random thoughts have popped into my head during the day. Poor Steven, he normally the one that has to listen to my nonsense but I guess I listen to his as well.

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anti fishstick

i can go for months without talking to friends..
or my parents.
i can go for years without talking to my dad.
in a relationship, who knows... would want to talk everyday cos i'm needy like that.

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skizziks

I talk to myself constantly. While I can go quite a while without talking to anyone, if I had my way, I would talk with someone every day.

lotsofmagnets

parents: weekly

friends in au: every few weeks, on facebook nearly constantly

friends in iceland and europe: daily

longest i´ve gone without talking to anyone was 3 months. literally 3 months of absolutely no communication with anybody. at the end of it i was completely mad.

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Cernunnos

Parents: I speak to both of them several times throughout the week, but I could easily allow weeks to pass with my dad, months with my mother.

Brother: We speak once or twice per week. I could allow months to pass.

Friends: Maybe once per week. A few weeks could pass without troubling me.

Girlfriend: Daily basis. Several days apart wouldn't be the end of the world, but I would miss her.

Sue

I talk to my mom on the phone every other day. My boyfriend I talk to every single day.

As far as the longest goes, I'm currently not speaking with my former best friend since the end of April of this year.

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Anormalguy

I talk to my wife on the phone once or twice a day, more when see each other on weekends. As for family & friends, it varies greatly. I had a job speaking on the phone 7.5 hours a day, five days a week, & got so burned out that I now dislike lengthy phone conversations. In person, it depends on the person and what we have to talk about.

I could probably go for several weeks without speaking to anyone. Early in our marriage my wife would give me the silent treatment when she got really mad at me, but she quickly learned that I could hold out much longer than her.

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