abaya

I think so, too... I just have no idea how to go about doing it yet, though my husband was raised without religion and he seems to do just fine. I just don't have an example for myself. That's definitely understandable... I guess that's what parenting the teen years is all about, eh... watching and waiting to see whether the values instilled in the kids actually "sticks" or if they end up going wild (or going religious, like I did... wild in a different way, heh). Let us know how it goes!!

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World's King

That's not the only reason.


Would you want your daughter dating me?

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Poppinjay

Noes.

It's not that you're a bad person or anything.

But it's just that... you're a bad person. But in best sense of the term.

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World's King

Thank you. That means a lot.

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MSD

I'm a guy and my mother was so overprotective that I went to a whole 1 party in high school and took years to undo the conservative religious upbringing. It would have been even worse if I were a girl. Don't be paranoid, kids have to make some mistakes and they'll be fine if you raised them well (the overprotectiveness continues to this day, but I've overcome the problems it caused since my parents did almost everything else perfectly.)

Apex Shok

Yes and no. I think back to when I was that age, and all the things I would try to get in a girls pants, and just about have a heart attack thinking that my daughter will have to go through all that.


Having a daughter is my penance for all the crappy things I did to girls when I was young.

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abaya

Ha! Now we're gettin' somewhere...

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Catdaddy33

They decided to go to the zoo on Sunday instead of a movie on Saturday. My daughter told me (and not her mom..yay!) yesterday that she wasn't sure if she ready for a "boyfriend" but was going to see how it goes Sunday.

Catdaddy33

Well it happened and then it got interesting...

Prior to her date, she confided that she "didn't think that she was ready for a boyfriend" citing all her schoolwork and the free time that she has she likes to spend with her friends, and fencing twice a week (the sport, not selling stolen goods). So she decided that she would break it off if he wanted to go out again. Lo and behold, after they had walked around the zoo for a couple of hours he asked and she told him that she wasn't ready for a boyfriend. He said something to the effect of "well thats a conversation ender" and that was that...

They talked later in the day via Facebook and at some point in the future are planning on getting together with a group of friends (guys and girls) and going to the movies. They are also planning on playing some World of Warcraft together (I wasn't invited for WoW, so I whined but I'm better now).

Couple of things that we talked to her about was if she is interested in someone else and told him she wasnt ready as a cop-out, and then she starts seeing someone else then there will be hard feelings and could get uncomfortable. Also, if he decides to go after someone else we asked how she would feel, she said she wouldn't care..

Anyway, as a dad I must say that I am pleased of the way she handled it (unless there is more to the story) and how she recognized she doesn't want or really need to have more "on her plate" than she does now. I find myself feeling some empathy for the guy, it's tough getting dumped anytime but especially at that age.

BogeyDope

Careful she isn't lying to you...and the boy will recover. He probably asked your daughter out for one real reason, especially at that age.

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Dragonknight

OHH GOD!!! Don't say that, my wife is having two girls and she loves to jokingly tell our friends what a whore I was in high school.....oh man I'm going to start buying guns now.....


My wife will probably kill me if I get our kids into WoW...but I plan on trying any way

I figure you have nothing to worry about with your daughter though she seams pretty goal oriented, and if push comes to shove get a large size dog, (I hear Rots work nice) and a pistol. Let the dog greet the boy at the door, if he makes it inside then greet him with the gun.

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