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Seer666 · 08-30-2008, 09:35 AM

If I didn't respect them when they were breathing, I see no reason to change that. Face it, the world is just better off without some people. A dead asshole is still an asshole.

little_tippler · 08-31-2008, 05:44 AM

Respect is not owed to someone just because they are dead. That being said, I would not have written this obituary for anyone. No matter what horrible deeds the person may have committed, they are still a person. It would not, I think, make me any better than them, or make me a better person generally, if I wrote them such an obituary. If someone is disrespectful to you, that does not mean the best response is to be disrespectful back.

On a personal note, when my father died, I wrote him a letter, which I placed in his coffin. I said in it all that I felt I would have liked to say more clearly when he was living, with regards to who he was, what his presence had meant to me in my life, and how I understood why things had been the way they had. My father was a complicated man, but I still loved him. I still miss him, 7 years later.

Tully Mars · 08-31-2008, 07:20 AM

I agree with Seer666. Years ago I worked with a guy I considered to be an major asshole. At least 90% of my co-workers openly couldn't stand this man. I came into work one day and was told he'd passed away. Almost everyone was behaving as if their best friend just died. I didn't say anything but thought to myself he was a live asshole and now he's a dead asshole. I volunteered to work during his service. I was given a grief day for doing that. I took my kid fishing that day and never once thought about him or his passing.

Plaid13 · 09-02-2008, 06:16 PM

Respect is something earned. Its not free you dont just get it. If you cant earn the respect while your alive you dont deserve it when your dead.

Anormalguy · 09-05-2008, 07:37 PM

No, just because someone dies doesn't mean their misdeeds in life are automatically forgotten or forgiven. OTOH, flaming someone after their death doesn't show much classs.

An old joke...

Did you know that Old Man Smith died?
Yep. Did you go to his funeral?
Yes.
Why? He was a mean SOB.
I wanted to make damn sure he was dead.

08-30-2008, 09:35 AM	#41 (permalink)
Seer666 Oh dear God he breeded Location: Arizona	If I didn't respect them when they were breathing, I see no reason to change that. Face it, the world is just better off without some people. A dead asshole is still an asshole. __________________ Bad spellers of the world untie!!! I am the one you warned me of I seem to have misplaced the bullet with your name on it, but I have a whole box addressed to occupant.

08-31-2008, 05:44 AM	#42 (permalink)
little_tippler Leaning against the -Sun- Super Moderator Location: on the other side	Respect is not owed to someone just because they are dead. That being said, I would not have written this obituary for anyone. No matter what horrible deeds the person may have committed, they are still a person. It would not, I think, make me any better than them, or make me a better person generally, if I wrote them such an obituary. If someone is disrespectful to you, that does not mean the best response is to be disrespectful back. On a personal note, when my father died, I wrote him a letter, which I placed in his coffin. I said in it all that I felt I would have liked to say more clearly when he was living, with regards to who he was, what his presence had meant to me in my life, and how I understood why things had been the way they had. My father was a complicated man, but I still loved him. I still miss him, 7 years later. __________________ Whether we write or speak or do but look We are ever unapparent. What we are Cannot be transfused into word or book. Our soul from us is infinitely far. However much we give our thoughts the will To be our soul and gesture it abroad, Our hearts are incommunicable still. In what we show ourselves we are ignored. The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged By any skill of thought or trick of seeming. Unto our very selves we are abridged When we would utter to our thought our being. We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams, And each to each other dreams of others' dreams. Fernando Pessoa, 1918

08-31-2008, 07:20 AM	#43 (permalink)
Tully Mars Living in a Warmer Insanity Super Moderator Location: Yucatan, Mexico	I agree with Seer666. Years ago I worked with a guy I considered to be an major asshole. At least 90% of my co-workers openly couldn't stand this man. I came into work one day and was told he'd passed away. Almost everyone was behaving as if their best friend just died. I didn't say anything but thought to myself he was a live asshole and now he's a dead asshole. I volunteered to work during his service. I was given a grief day for doing that. I took my kid fishing that day and never once thought about him or his passing. __________________ I used to drink to drown my sorrows, but the damned things have learned how to swim- Frida Kahlo Vice President Starkizzer Fan Club

09-02-2008, 06:16 PM	#44 (permalink)
Plaid13 I want a Plaid crayon	Respect is something earned. Its not free you dont just get it. If you cant earn the respect while your alive you dont deserve it when your dead.

09-05-2008, 07:37 PM	#45 (permalink)
Anormalguy After School Special Moralist Location: Large City, Texas.	No, just because someone dies doesn't mean their misdeeds in life are automatically forgotten or forgiven. OTOH, flaming someone after their death doesn't show much classs. An old joke... Did you know that Old Man Smith died? Yep. Did you go to his funeral? Yes. Why? He was a mean SOB. I wanted to make damn sure he was dead.