BlackKittyKat

What is it about being alone that most people don’t like? I mean for me personally I hate it well that’s a bit of a lie I hated it at first.

You see in August 2006 I moved into my very own new apartment after living with two roommates (one of which was my ex boyfriend) I grow to the comfort of coming home and always finding someone there, someone to talk to, share the days happening with, perhaps have a glass of wine whiles you make dinner.

I enjoy my space but just having the thought of someone else being in the apartment or in the next room is a comforting thought.

I guess I’ve never really lived by myself before and I had a bit of getting use to the idea of living alone.

That was the problem I couldn’t the more I tried to the more I hated it!

Friends told me to keep myself occupied and (I do a bit of painting and a few other crafts) but that wasn’t enough I still hated coming home to an empty apartment with on one to greet me and with on one to share the days events.

What was I to do?

Well with all problems and with most people I choose not to deal with it…… I hardly lived there I just stayed with my roommates in our old apartment it was like I never left they loved it and so did I.

Then the holidays came Christmas and New Year which I spent with family and that’s when I realized that I had to start enjoying my new place and not fear it.
I got back home after the holidays and moved back to me own place I had to bite the bullet.

January 07 came and with it came new found courage to face the fear of living alone.

This time I had a new outlook on my dilemma. I started painting more, going out to see friends, having them over, buying new things for me place (shopping always helps ) trying to make this roof and four walls a home.
Its better now living alone I still sometimes hate it but then I think of all the thinks I can do like walk around in the nude, could never do that with roommates . Listen to music that I want and not be subjected to crap or leaving your stuff anywhere and know that it will be there the next day. Just the little things one take’s for granted. Over and above all things……I can make love to a guy without having to worry about anyone hearing us going at it round after round

So now I’m learning to be happier in my space.

It just took a bit of getting use too!

Push-Pull

Glad that you're finding happiness in your solitude. I've always felt that I could easily be a hermit, but realize that keeping people in my life was the better choice. Sounds like you've found a good balance for yourself, and best yet, you control when you're alone and not to some extent. That is a great way to be!

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Charlatan

I have been living alone for the past eight months. Despite missing my wife and kids, I actually like this solitude.

I like the fact that cleaning up after myself takes no time at all. I can come and go as I please without worrying about being home at a certain time.

I haven't had the joy of solo living since second year University (my flatmate decided to drop out school but her parents paid for her rent for the rest of the school year). I ended up living alone and LOVED it. I had forget how cool it was until I moved here.

While I can't wait for them to join me here in a few more months, I can safely say that I will relish these last few months of solitude.

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