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BlackKittyKat · 03-26-2007, 03:40 AM

What is it about being alone that most people don’t like? I mean for me personally I hate it well that’s a bit of a lie I hated it at first.

You see in August 2006 I moved into my very own new apartment after living with two roommates (one of which was my ex boyfriend) I grow to the comfort of coming home and always finding someone there, someone to talk to, share the days happening with, perhaps have a glass of wine whiles you make dinner.

I enjoy my space but just having the thought of someone else being in the apartment or in the next room is a comforting thought.

I guess I’ve never really lived by myself before and I had a bit of getting use to the idea of living alone.

That was the problem I couldn’t the more I tried to the more I hated it!

Friends told me to keep myself occupied and (I do a bit of painting and a few other crafts) but that wasn’t enough I still hated coming home to an empty apartment with on one to greet me and with on one to share the days events.

What was I to do?

Well with all problems and with most people I choose not to deal with it…… I hardly lived there I just stayed with my roommates in our old apartment it was like I never left they loved it and so did I.

Then the holidays came Christmas and New Year which I spent with family and that’s when I realized that I had to start enjoying my new place and not fear it.
I got back home after the holidays and moved back to me own place I had to bite the bullet.

January 07 came and with it came new found courage to face the fear of living alone.

This time I had a new outlook on my dilemma. I started painting more, going out to see friends, having them over, buying new things for me place (shopping always helps

) trying to make this roof and four walls a home.
Its better now living alone I still sometimes hate it but then I think of all the thinks I can do like walk around in the nude, could never do that with roommates

. Listen to music that I want and not be subjected to crap or leaving your stuff anywhere and know that it will be there the next day. Just the little things one take’s for granted. Over and above all things……I can make love to a guy without having to worry about anyone hearing us going at it round after round

So now I’m learning to be happier in my space.

It just took a bit of getting use too!

03-26-2007, 03:40 AM	#1 (permalink)
BlackKittyKat Upright Location: South Africa, Johannesburg	It just took a bit of getting use too! What is it about being alone that most people don’t like? I mean for me personally I hate it well that’s a bit of a lie I hated it at first. You see in August 2006 I moved into my very own new apartment after living with two roommates (one of which was my ex boyfriend) I grow to the comfort of coming home and always finding someone there, someone to talk to, share the days happening with, perhaps have a glass of wine whiles you make dinner. I enjoy my space but just having the thought of someone else being in the apartment or in the next room is a comforting thought. I guess I’ve never really lived by myself before and I had a bit of getting use to the idea of living alone. That was the problem I couldn’t the more I tried to the more I hated it! Friends told me to keep myself occupied and (I do a bit of painting and a few other crafts) but that wasn’t enough I still hated coming home to an empty apartment with on one to greet me and with on one to share the days events. What was I to do? Well with all problems and with most people I choose not to deal with it…… I hardly lived there I just stayed with my roommates in our old apartment it was like I never left they loved it and so did I. Then the holidays came Christmas and New Year which I spent with family and that’s when I realized that I had to start enjoying my new place and not fear it. I got back home after the holidays and moved back to me own place I had to bite the bullet. January 07 came and with it came new found courage to face the fear of living alone. This time I had a new outlook on my dilemma. I started painting more, going out to see friends, having them over, buying new things for me place (shopping always helps ) trying to make this roof and four walls a home. Its better now living alone I still sometimes hate it but then I think of all the thinks I can do like walk around in the nude, could never do that with roommates . Listen to music that I want and not be subjected to crap or leaving your stuff anywhere and know that it will be there the next day. Just the little things one take’s for granted. Over and above all things……I can make love to a guy without having to worry about anyone hearing us going at it round after round So now I’m learning to be happier in my space. It just took a bit of getting use too!