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Temporary_User · 10-20-2006, 12:41 AM

I'm really just sick of the place I'm at in life right now. I'm 21 years old, been living in this city for over 3 years now, and really don't have any friends here. When I first moved here I was working, and the job I was at, everyone was significantly older than me. I then entered school and have been doing that for the last few years.
I did have a GF for about a year, and I guess that kept me busy for that time period. Now we have been broken up for about 5 months. At first I kept busy working alot. I would work 6-7 days a week on average. Now that I'm back in school for the winter I seem to have alot of free time on my hands and it's really starting to put a toll on me.
I wouldnt consider me anti-social at all. Although I am not very outgoing. I like to dress well and my style I guess would be considered preppy. I dunno. Point is I'm not a stinky slob who no one would want to be around. I talk to many people in class, but that seems to be it. I take part in an intermural sport though school, however the games are so late that everyone just shows up @ game time then goes home to sleep right after.
I have a few thoughts going on in my head on what I want to do.
One is to take the next semester off from school, and move somewhere new.
Right now I'm at a community college, and next year I will have to transfer to a new university. right now I'm thinking that what ever school I goto I will live in the dorms (right now I just live in a 1brdm apt). I figure living in the dorms will give me opportunity to meet people outside of class.
I don't know if I should take the next semester off or not, as of right now I don't know if I could handle another semester of not really knowing anyone, living the same life I am right now. I probably will end up going to school next semester as that is the easy and safe thing to do. Although moving somewhere new seems interesting. I could do it myself, or I have an old friend that I talk to and he mentioned moving in with him.
I believe that there is probably alot of people in my situation, its just hard to meet people and make friends in class it seems.
Right now, I guess I'm just depressed, lonely and dont even know if this post is in any order and making sense.

mandy · 10-20-2006, 02:40 AM

i can honestly say that i know how you feel. i feel that way alot of the time. but mostly because i feel that all my friends and even my BF are "moving on" without me. i'm at unversity now. i am 22 years old. over here, i don't have friends my age. i'm basically a loner. i mean, i'll sit and talk to them and consider them my friends...you see, the thing with me is that i started studying really late and all my friends were busy finishing up when i started and i still get that feeling of lonliness everytime i think that i don't have anyone my age here that i can relate to.

your post makes the world of sense. i've thought about dropping put aswell...many times actually. at times i get really depressed ( and the only reason i'm saying this now is because i know what it can do to a person) i would never have said this to anyone had it not been for this post, so i guess thank you is in order.

i guess my point i'm trying to make is just that you are not alone. and now you know that first hand. the solution is just to perservere. see it through. and don't let this depression take up and eat up whats inside you and what you are capable of.

i'm sure you are an extraordinary person. maybe you should go out and try and find friends outside the university enviroment. maybe i should too

best of luck and lots of love

-mandy-

shesus · 10-20-2006, 04:19 AM

Sounds like you are in a tough spot right now. I wouldn't recommend taking time off school, but that's just my opinion. I think that it's harder to get back in once you get out. Especially because from what I got from your post is that you really aren't that motivated to go to college in the first place. Friends are hard to come by. I didn't have any for awhile and then I had bad ones and then I had none again and now I have great ones. I had aquaintances in college and then at various jobs. We rarely got together outside of school or work, but we were close when we were together. Situational friends I suppose.

Anyway, sounds like you need to take stock...figure out what is important to you and what your goals are. If you have no goals, figure out what would be smart to do and what could hurt you down the road. Ask others for advice, not just us, and listen to it, even if you disagree. Everyone has at least one good thing to say...sometimes it's just buried in shit.

10-20-2006, 12:41 AM	#1 (permalink)
Temporary_User Psycho	Sick of this. I'm really just sick of the place I'm at in life right now. I'm 21 years old, been living in this city for over 3 years now, and really don't have any friends here. When I first moved here I was working, and the job I was at, everyone was significantly older than me. I then entered school and have been doing that for the last few years. I did have a GF for about a year, and I guess that kept me busy for that time period. Now we have been broken up for about 5 months. At first I kept busy working alot. I would work 6-7 days a week on average. Now that I'm back in school for the winter I seem to have alot of free time on my hands and it's really starting to put a toll on me. I wouldnt consider me anti-social at all. Although I am not very outgoing. I like to dress well and my style I guess would be considered preppy. I dunno. Point is I'm not a stinky slob who no one would want to be around. I talk to many people in class, but that seems to be it. I take part in an intermural sport though school, however the games are so late that everyone just shows up @ game time then goes home to sleep right after. I have a few thoughts going on in my head on what I want to do. One is to take the next semester off from school, and move somewhere new. Right now I'm at a community college, and next year I will have to transfer to a new university. right now I'm thinking that what ever school I goto I will live in the dorms (right now I just live in a 1brdm apt). I figure living in the dorms will give me opportunity to meet people outside of class. I don't know if I should take the next semester off or not, as of right now I don't know if I could handle another semester of not really knowing anyone, living the same life I am right now. I probably will end up going to school next semester as that is the easy and safe thing to do. Although moving somewhere new seems interesting. I could do it myself, or I have an old friend that I talk to and he mentioned moving in with him. I believe that there is probably alot of people in my situation, its just hard to meet people and make friends in class it seems. Right now, I guess I'm just depressed, lonely and dont even know if this post is in any order and making sense. Last edited by Temporary_User; 10-20-2006 at 12:45 AM..

10-20-2006, 02:40 AM	#2 (permalink)
mandy Addict Location: Port Elizabeth, South Africa	i can honestly say that i know how you feel. i feel that way alot of the time. but mostly because i feel that all my friends and even my BF are "moving on" without me. i'm at unversity now. i am 22 years old. over here, i don't have friends my age. i'm basically a loner. i mean, i'll sit and talk to them and consider them my friends...you see, the thing with me is that i started studying really late and all my friends were busy finishing up when i started and i still get that feeling of lonliness everytime i think that i don't have anyone my age here that i can relate to. your post makes the world of sense. i've thought about dropping put aswell...many times actually. at times i get really depressed ( and the only reason i'm saying this now is because i know what it can do to a person) i would never have said this to anyone had it not been for this post, so i guess thank you is in order. i guess my point i'm trying to make is just that you are not alone. and now you know that first hand. the solution is just to perservere. see it through. and don't let this depression take up and eat up whats inside you and what you are capable of. i'm sure you are an extraordinary person. maybe you should go out and try and find friends outside the university enviroment. maybe i should too best of luck and lots of love -mandy- __________________ The Imagination equips us to see a reality we have yet to create

10-20-2006, 04:19 AM	#3 (permalink)
shesus Fancy Location: Chicago	Sounds like you are in a tough spot right now. I wouldn't recommend taking time off school, but that's just my opinion. I think that it's harder to get back in once you get out. Especially because from what I got from your post is that you really aren't that motivated to go to college in the first place. Friends are hard to come by. I didn't have any for awhile and then I had bad ones and then I had none again and now I have great ones. I had aquaintances in college and then at various jobs. We rarely got together outside of school or work, but we were close when we were together. Situational friends I suppose. Anyway, sounds like you need to take stock...figure out what is important to you and what your goals are. If you have no goals, figure out what would be smart to do and what could hurt you down the road. Ask others for advice, not just us, and listen to it, even if you disagree. Everyone has at least one good thing to say...sometimes it's just buried in shit. __________________ Whatever did happen to your soul? I heard you sold it Choose Heaven for the weather and Hell for the company