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rlbond86 · 10-17-2006, 04:57 PM

I'm having friend problems. I'm in college, and I get along with my friends pretty well I guess. The problem is, there's one person in our "circle" who just doesn't like me for one reason or another. The problem is, it's making tensions in the group, and, quite honestly, is making me wonder whether I really want to associate with these people. I want to be friends with him, but he just acts like a jerk to me sometimes. Has this happened to anyone, or does anyone have ideas? It's really getting me down.

Sage · 10-17-2006, 05:16 PM

Dude, people are asses sometimes. Don't know why- maybe this dude thinks you have a bigger penis, or he's just plain got a bee in his bonnet about you. Thing is, you're in COLLEGE. I mean, everyone in college is just freaking walking around WAITING to make friends with everyone else. Take a break from your regular group and go do something different- join a new club, take up a new hobby, or just hang out in the library, student union, or quad sometime and see what happens. Start saying hi to random people. Start talking to people in your classes more. It's SO INSANELY EASY to make friends in college- and if anyone in your current circle really likes you, they'll make an effort to come to you instead of you having to come to them

Good luck!

Lady Sage · 10-17-2006, 05:44 PM

Ahhh, welcome to the world of adulthood... there will always be someone in your life be it work or otherwise that will be pretty much like this guy...

Kill with kindness or ignore him!

high_jinx · 10-20-2006, 10:28 AM

sounds like this guy is like the majority of asshats... his problem with you can be traced back to his own insecurities.

match000 · 10-20-2006, 12:02 PM

What sage said

Seer666 · 10-21-2006, 07:14 AM

Kill him with kindness.... or just kill him. Easier to just ignore him though. People suck. Simple fact of life, and people like this, well, they are really not worth the time to deal with. If he's around, then talk tot he people you want to talk to, and minimize your comments to him to what is needed, and make it clear that if it's a shindig you are throwing, he is not invited. If the rest of them can't deal with that, then take a deep breath, say "fuck it", and find people worth knowing.

Lasereth · 10-29-2006, 05:09 PM

Why don't you go up to him the next time he's rude and say "so why did you just say that? what did I do to make you mad? why did you treat me like crap? did I do something to you?" Force him to realize what he's doing and embarass him in front of the others. Pester him until he admits why he's doing it and he probably won't do it again.

Kaliena · 10-31-2006, 07:58 AM

Honestly, to save yourself a crapload of grief and possibly losing friends, just be straight up with him. See if you can pull him aside and just be like "I've got nothing against you but I'm under the impression you don't really care for me. Can we be straight up about this?"

I find it has solved NUMEROUS problems, even with the most passive aggressive.

10-17-2006, 04:57 PM	#1 (permalink)
rlbond86 Insane	Friend problems... I'm having friend problems. I'm in college, and I get along with my friends pretty well I guess. The problem is, there's one person in our "circle" who just doesn't like me for one reason or another. The problem is, it's making tensions in the group, and, quite honestly, is making me wonder whether I really want to associate with these people. I want to be friends with him, but he just acts like a jerk to me sometimes. Has this happened to anyone, or does anyone have ideas? It's really getting me down.

10-17-2006, 05:16 PM	#2 (permalink)
Sage hoarding all the big girl panties since 2005 Location: North side	Dude, people are asses sometimes. Don't know why- maybe this dude thinks you have a bigger penis, or he's just plain got a bee in his bonnet about you. Thing is, you're in COLLEGE. I mean, everyone in college is just freaking walking around WAITING to make friends with everyone else. Take a break from your regular group and go do something different- join a new club, take up a new hobby, or just hang out in the library, student union, or quad sometime and see what happens. Start saying hi to random people. Start talking to people in your classes more. It's SO INSANELY EASY to make friends in college- and if anyone in your current circle really likes you, they'll make an effort to come to you instead of you having to come to them Good luck! __________________ Sage knows our mythic history, King Arthur's and Sir Caradoc's She answers hard acrostics, has a pretty taste for paradox She quotes in elegiacs all the crimes of Heliogabalus In conics she can floor peculiarities parabolous -C'hi

10-17-2006, 05:44 PM	#3 (permalink)
Lady Sage Mistress of Mayhem Location: Canton, Ohio	Ahhh, welcome to the world of adulthood... there will always be someone in your life be it work or otherwise that will be pretty much like this guy... Kill with kindness or ignore him! __________________ If only closed minds came with closed mouths. Minds are like parachutes, they function best when open. It`s Easier to Change a Condom Than a Diaper Yes, the rumors are true... I actually AM a Witch.

10-20-2006, 10:28 AM	#4 (permalink)
high_jinx Psycho Location: venice beach, ca	sounds like this guy is like the majority of asshats... his problem with you can be traced back to his own insecurities. __________________ -my phobia drowned while i was gettin down.

10-21-2006, 07:14 AM	#6 (permalink)
Seer666 Oh dear God he breeded Location: Arizona	Kill him with kindness.... or just kill him. Easier to just ignore him though. People suck. Simple fact of life, and people like this, well, they are really not worth the time to deal with. If he's around, then talk tot he people you want to talk to, and minimize your comments to him to what is needed, and make it clear that if it's a shindig you are throwing, he is not invited. If the rest of them can't deal with that, then take a deep breath, say "fuck it", and find people worth knowing. __________________ Bad spellers of the world untie!!! I am the one you warned me of I seem to have misplaced the bullet with your name on it, but I have a whole box addressed to occupant.

10-20-2006, 12:02 PM	#5 (permalink)
match000 Psycho	What sage said

10-29-2006, 05:09 PM	#7 (permalink)
Lasereth Knight of the Old Republic Location: Winston-Salem, NC	Why don't you go up to him the next time he's rude and say "so why did you just say that? what did I do to make you mad? why did you treat me like crap? did I do something to you?" Force him to realize what he's doing and embarass him in front of the others. Pester him until he admits why he's doing it and he probably won't do it again. __________________ "A Darwinian attacks his theory, seeking to find flaws. An ID believer defends his theory, seeking to conceal flaws." -Roger Ebert

10-31-2006, 07:58 AM	#8 (permalink)
Kaliena Crazy Location: Pennsylvania, USA	Honestly, to save yourself a crapload of grief and possibly losing friends, just be straight up with him. See if you can pull him aside and just be like "I've got nothing against you but I'm under the impression you don't really care for me. Can we be straight up about this?" I find it has solved NUMEROUS problems, even with the most passive aggressive. __________________ ~Beware the waffle~