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pan6467 · 10-11-2005, 11:43 PM

Ok, so I am up and watching television and playing on my puter so I don't oversleep school, when what should come on? "Breaking Bonaduce".... that's right Danny and his wife's reality television show, so I watch it.

Now either this guy is truly a great actor and very underrated or he is truly nuts and his wife a true bitch.

I watched the episode in which he had tried to kill himself, off camera, because the wife had told him she wanted a divorce.

Why did she want a divorce?

The television show producers set her up to have a party with male strippers and Danny got jealous.

Now add to it the pressure of being on camera and letting the world see you problems, it adds fuel to the fire.

Anyway right before the suicide attempt, he had to literally beg her to ask the camera people to leave so that they could talk in private. She refused until he grabbed a camera and followed her into the bathroom.

It's sad, because as he said, he thought he was going to be on tv and do what he does best, joke around have some fun and instead, it exposes his pain.

What I have seen of this show, (this wasn't my first viewing), the producers set him and his wife up to have the problems they have so that there would be a show.

I always liked Danny and wish him well and feel sorry that he has done this to himself. His wife although gorgeous is a fucking publicity seeking whore from what I see, and he is a husband who reacts as most husbands would, except it's on camera and you have everyone saying "you're freaking, Danny. You're reacting badly...."

Which in turn makes bad situations worse by adding extra pressure and embarrassment.

I only hope he truly realizes the producers do not have his or his wife's best interests at heart.... on ratings points.

This is sadly one show where I can see the producers asking if the cameras were rolling when Danny does kill himself.

Pathetic.... not Danny the show.... and yet, I watched it glued to the screen feeling empathy for Danny.

Catdaddy33 · 10-12-2005, 03:14 AM

I've watched a couple of episodes out of sheer curiousity, and they say it's not scripted, but I don't completely buy it. He said it himself on another VH1 show, "being a former child star is easy just pop up every now and then and rob a store, it keeps your name out there".

I get the same feeling with Breaking Bodaduce...it's more of a psuedo-reality...

Poppinjay · 10-12-2005, 04:00 AM

I don't know, the steroid use, the drinking, it all seems pretty real.

I haven't seen it enough to get a sense of his wife, but they married after knowing each other for a few hours, so what could possibly be expected?

He is obvioiusly dependent on his wife, not in a good way. In a bad way.

He did really go on his morning show on Star 98.7 and talk about his affair. What's kind of odd is how his wife is at one turn very hostile towards the girl he screwed and protective of Danny, then a few minutes later will say she wants a divorce.

Salomon · 10-12-2005, 09:04 AM

I agree, it is a frightening show. Like watching a human trainwreck - when you start to think about the real-life ramifications of his actions, how he looks to be destroying himself and his family in front of the camera, it's uncomfortable to watch. I saw about 3 episodes and had enough - if this guy lives to see 50 he'll be lucky. What's particularly painful to watch is whenever they show him playing with his kids. You're just thinking: kids, enjoy him now while he's here, because when you're a little older, he won't be. Ugh. Bad television.

pan6467 · 10-12-2005, 10:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Poppinjay

I don't know, the steroid use, the drinking, it all seems pretty real.

I haven't seen it enough to get a sense of his wife, but they married after knowing each other for a few hours, so what could possibly be expected?

He is obvioiusly dependent on his wife, not in a good way. In a bad way.

He did really go on his morning show on Star 98.7 and talk about his affair. What's kind of odd is how his wife is at one turn very hostile towards the girl he screwed and protective of Danny, then a few minutes later will say she wants a divorce.

He used to go on the shows and tell the story how they got married the day they met and a month or so into the marriage he went to buy drugs and she laid behind the car so he couldn't go anywhere. He credits her for saving his life.

In some ways that's good, they've been married like 10 years and he seemed happy and like life was getting better for him and if she helped then that is really cool she stuck by him when he was down and dirty.

In some ways it is bad because you can become dependant to a person who helped you, expecting them to always be there when you fuck up. Then the helper can be co-dependant always expecting to clean up and make things right and be in control.

However, and this could be the case with Danny, there comes a time when the helper says "you fucked up and I can't take it anymore" then they snap and start fucking up expecting the same help, which usually doesn't come because the person doesn't know how to help.

So you end up with a pissed of helper saying, "you don't love me because you didn't help me like I helped you."

And a pissed off addict (recovering or not), saying "hey I need you to help me and you're out fucking around and screwing up."

So it's a very venomous relationship, and from what I've seen that's Danny and his wife.

However, when you watch the credits at the end, Danny and his wife have the production company that owns the show..... so it could be well scripted and acted.... but attempting suicide and going to the psyche ward is really above and beyond the call of duty.... but makes for great television these days.

All I can say is after all these years following Danny and his life, you never know what the truth is with him, he's a great salesman and the product he sells is himself. Again, sad in a way, but I can't help following and watching.

Sweetpea · 10-12-2005, 12:12 PM

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Originally Posted by pan6467

I watched the episode in which he had tried to kill himself, off camera, because the wife had told him she wanted a divorce.

Why did she want a divorce?

Well, i have watched a couple espidoes. not only does he have dependency issues, but according to his wife... he is becoming more and more controlling, in previous episodes, he reacts so very agressively to anything she wants to do separate from him... basically, he doesn't want her to be her own person and that is why she is becoming fed up...

As far as trying to kill himself... he was doing it to 'punish' his wife... to show her how much she had upset him... which i'm not sure if you know this... but that is emotional abuse at it's high point. He is very sick mentally and emotionally and i hope he gets some true help (without the cameras).

The scary thing is that they have three kids and his wife is becoming nervous with him around the children because his behavior is so unstable... if he had been my husband i would have left him long ago... no one is worth that amount of pain, esp. when you have kids who need a stable homelife.

Indeed though, i will keep watching the show, as i find it facinating from a psychological perspective.

Sweetpea

Poppinjay · 10-12-2005, 12:26 PM

Apparently, the VH-1 folks started to flake out after the suicide attempt, they wanted to stop the show and get the hell away from this couple. Gretchen begged them to continue because she thinks (or so she says) is that these events on tape will be the only thing that makes Danny realize he needs help.

Sweatpea has a point about him "attempting" suicide as punishment on his wife. He attempted to kill himself with his wife's pink Bic razor. I don't think that's possible.

A total aside, I was on a flight with him , I think in '94? It was long enough after the whole transvestite thing that it was kind of blown over, right when he was doing that fake talk show-informercial. He was in the last seat of first class and I was in the first seat of steerage.

I don't have a cool story about him going crazy, upsetting serving trays, or getting piss drunk. He was actually very nice, and sort of embarassed about being in first class. I don't think more than the flight crew and I knew who he was.

10-11-2005, 11:43 PM	#1 (permalink)
pan6467 Lennonite Priest Location: Mansfield, Ohio USA	Breaking Bonaduce Ok, so I am up and watching television and playing on my puter so I don't oversleep school, when what should come on? "Breaking Bonaduce".... that's right Danny and his wife's reality television show, so I watch it. Now either this guy is truly a great actor and very underrated or he is truly nuts and his wife a true bitch. I watched the episode in which he had tried to kill himself, off camera, because the wife had told him she wanted a divorce. Why did she want a divorce? The television show producers set her up to have a party with male strippers and Danny got jealous. Now add to it the pressure of being on camera and letting the world see you problems, it adds fuel to the fire. Anyway right before the suicide attempt, he had to literally beg her to ask the camera people to leave so that they could talk in private. She refused until he grabbed a camera and followed her into the bathroom. It's sad, because as he said, he thought he was going to be on tv and do what he does best, joke around have some fun and instead, it exposes his pain. What I have seen of this show, (this wasn't my first viewing), the producers set him and his wife up to have the problems they have so that there would be a show. I always liked Danny and wish him well and feel sorry that he has done this to himself. His wife although gorgeous is a fucking publicity seeking whore from what I see, and he is a husband who reacts as most husbands would, except it's on camera and you have everyone saying "you're freaking, Danny. You're reacting badly...." Which in turn makes bad situations worse by adding extra pressure and embarrassment. I only hope he truly realizes the producers do not have his or his wife's best interests at heart.... on ratings points. This is sadly one show where I can see the producers asking if the cameras were rolling when Danny does kill himself. Pathetic.... not Danny the show.... and yet, I watched it glued to the screen feeling empathy for Danny. __________________ I just love people who use the excuse "I use/do this because I LOVE the feeling/joy/happiness it brings me" and expect you to be ok with that as you watch them destroy their life blindly following. My response is, "I like to put forks in an eletrical socket, just LOVE that feeling, can't ever get enough of it, so will you let me put this copper fork in that electric socket?"

10-12-2005, 04:00 AM	#3 (permalink)
Poppinjay You had me at hello Location: DC/Coastal VA	I don't know, the steroid use, the drinking, it all seems pretty real. I haven't seen it enough to get a sense of his wife, but they married after knowing each other for a few hours, so what could possibly be expected? He is obvioiusly dependent on his wife, not in a good way. In a bad way. He did really go on his morning show on Star 98.7 and talk about his affair. What's kind of odd is how his wife is at one turn very hostile towards the girl he screwed and protective of Danny, then a few minutes later will say she wants a divorce. __________________ I think the Apocalypse is happening all around us. We go on eating desserts and watching TV. I know I do. I wish we were more capable of sustained passion and sustained resistance. We should be screaming and what we do is gossip. -Lydia Millet

10-12-2005, 12:26 PM	#7 (permalink)
Poppinjay You had me at hello Location: DC/Coastal VA	Apparently, the VH-1 folks started to flake out after the suicide attempt, they wanted to stop the show and get the hell away from this couple. Gretchen begged them to continue because she thinks (or so she says) is that these events on tape will be the only thing that makes Danny realize he needs help. Sweatpea has a point about him "attempting" suicide as punishment on his wife. He attempted to kill himself with his wife's pink Bic razor. I don't think that's possible. A total aside, I was on a flight with him , I think in '94? It was long enough after the whole transvestite thing that it was kind of blown over, right when he was doing that fake talk show-informercial. He was in the last seat of first class and I was in the first seat of steerage. I don't have a cool story about him going crazy, upsetting serving trays, or getting piss drunk. He was actually very nice, and sort of embarassed about being in first class. I don't think more than the flight crew and I knew who he was. __________________ I think the Apocalypse is happening all around us. We go on eating desserts and watching TV. I know I do. I wish we were more capable of sustained passion and sustained resistance. We should be screaming and what we do is gossip. -Lydia Millet

10-12-2005, 03:14 AM	#2 (permalink)
Catdaddy33 Psycho Location: TN	I've watched a couple of episodes out of sheer curiousity, and they say it's not scripted, but I don't completely buy it. He said it himself on another VH1 show, "being a former child star is easy just pop up every now and then and rob a store, it keeps your name out there". I get the same feeling with Breaking Bodaduce...it's more of a psuedo-reality...

10-12-2005, 09:04 AM	#4 (permalink)
Salomon Loser	I agree, it is a frightening show. Like watching a human trainwreck - when you start to think about the real-life ramifications of his actions, how he looks to be destroying himself and his family in front of the camera, it's uncomfortable to watch. I saw about 3 episodes and had enough - if this guy lives to see 50 he'll be lucky. What's particularly painful to watch is whenever they show him playing with his kids. You're just thinking: kids, enjoy him now while he's here, because when you're a little older, he won't be. Ugh. Bad television.