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im just a girl · 12-02-2003, 06:49 AM

first of all, i'm sorry if this has been asked before... i tried searching but it's down

now heres my 'delimma' - my boyfriend and i are both in college, and dont really have a lot of time to be together alone... but when we are we mess around quite a bit. there have been several times when ive ended up in nothing but underwear and hes been naked, and he'll end up cumming on my underwear. ive never really heard about the risks of this leading to pregnancy, if there are any. can it go through material or what? im very in the dark about this, so any advice would be great

wannabenakid247 · 12-02-2003, 07:18 AM

Yes I think that there is always a slight risk of pregnancy during circumstances such as these.

I suppose it depends how thin your underwear is and how wet you are underneath. Obviously theres going to be less risk than if you were wearing no underwear but in my opinion there is still a risk.

Nature likes to find a way

cheerios · 12-02-2003, 12:10 PM

there IS a chance you can get pregnant any time his sperm come anywhere near your vagina. Theoretically. Personally, I'd ask him to cum anywhere but RIGHT there, (here's a good chance to get a pearl necklace or somethin' of that sort

) and then I wouldn't worry. There's a link in a thread about the pill in Tilted Sexuality to planned parenthood that actually addresses this... lemme go dig it up

edit:
here's the link:http://www.plannedparenthood.org/bc/...4teens.htm#out
there's a LOT of good stuff in there for other kinds of pregnancy prevention, and don't be afraid to ask questions. of us, of your doctors... better armed you are with knowledge the better off you'll be.
here's the relevant quote from that link, by the way:

Quote:

... you need to know that for some people, outercourse is sex play without vaginal intercourse. For others, it is sex play with no penetration at all - oral, anal, or vaginal. Some people also believe that any kind of penetrative sex play is too risky to be called "safer sex." But many people sometimes have oral and anal sex - to avoid pregnancy or to "preserve their virginity."

Lower-risk forms of outercourse include

* Kissing - Many people enjoy exploring different ways of kissing. They may like to kiss each other's ears, necks, or shoulders - as well as other body parts.
* Masturbation - Many people enjoy touching their own sex organs. It's the most common way to be sexual. Partners can masturbate alone, together, or watch each other. They may hug and kiss while they do it.
* Erotic Massage - Many couples touch and rub each other's sex organs using their hands, bodies, or mouths.
* Body Rubbing - Many couples rub their bodies together - especially their sex organs - for pleasure and orgasm.
* Fantasy - Couples can read or watch sexy stories or pictures together. They can also share or act out sexy fantasies. People do it in person, on the phone, surfing the Internet, or through e-mail.

EFFECTIVENESS

Outercourse is nearly 100% effective against pregnancy unless pre-ejaculate or sperm gets onto the vulva or into the vagina.

Outercourse is also effective against sexually transmitted infections. It reduces the risk of HIV/AIDS and many other sexually transmitted infections - unless body fluids, such as semen and vaginal fluids, are exchanged through oral or anal sex play. But some infections, like herpes and HPV, can be passed by skin-to-skin contact.

supersteph2747 · 12-02-2003, 09:32 PM

There's a good reason why condoms aren't made out of cotton. They don't prevent pregnancy. Unless you have latex underwear or something, don't let him do it again.

12-02-2003, 06:49 AM	#1 (permalink)
im just a girl Upright	questions about messing around first of all, i'm sorry if this has been asked before... i tried searching but it's down now heres my 'delimma' - my boyfriend and i are both in college, and dont really have a lot of time to be together alone... but when we are we mess around quite a bit. there have been several times when ive ended up in nothing but underwear and hes been naked, and he'll end up cumming on my underwear. ive never really heard about the risks of this leading to pregnancy, if there are any. can it go through material or what? im very in the dark about this, so any advice would be great

12-02-2003, 09:32 PM	#4 (permalink)
supersteph2747 Upright Location: Tempe, AZ	There's a good reason why condoms aren't made out of cotton. They don't prevent pregnancy. Unless you have latex underwear or something, don't let him do it again. __________________ War is an ugly thing, but not the ugliest of things. The decayed and degraded state of moral and patriotic feeling which thinks that nothing is worth war is much worse. The person who has nothing for which he is willing to fight, nothing which is more important than his own personal safety, is a miserable creature and has no chance of being free unless made and kept so by the exertions of better men than himself.

12-02-2003, 07:18 AM	#2 (permalink)
wannabenakid247 Registered User Location: Wales, UK	Yes I think that there is always a slight risk of pregnancy during circumstances such as these. I suppose it depends how thin your underwear is and how wet you are underneath. Obviously theres going to be less risk than if you were wearing no underwear but in my opinion there is still a risk. Nature likes to find a way