streak_56

Now, basically this is individual habits that people have around you that you pick up on..... example....

Now, my father would be a heavy smoker. He told me that he had his first cigarette at age 7. Started again when he was in high school and now hes never looked back. What I gather from this is not that hes going to die younger (on average) but that who cares? Along with his drinking, he may be classified as an alcoholic but do I care? No, because it's his choice. Same with my brother smoking weed, my mother complaining (which I get from her) and myself being a huge prick.

Now, my question to you TFP is whether or not you are affected by the habits of those around you, negatively or positively?

Heres an even more in depth over view:

My mother, nags, complains and thinks of herself. Likes to pigeon hole my Dad when they were divorcing (still does). What I've learned.... I'm just like her and that I'm going to be sure that I marry the right person

My brother, works his ass off all the time, eats, sleeps, doodles on the computer. My lesson.... enjoy your time.

My sister, where to begin, easy to make angry, committed and confuses the hell outta me. What she learned, never bend over while I am shoveling... that scar will always be there. What I've learned..... I know nothing about girls.

My girlfriend (some would say I'm stupid doing this), committed, honest, opinionated. What I've learned.... fear her wrath.

Thats all, lets hear what tfp has to say?

p.s. hope the heck this thread works or I'll have some pissed off family.

Siege

A lot of my friends at school smoke. I don't smoke, nor do I feel the urge to. They always jokingly say "Seige, with all the second hand smoke you get from us, why don't you just smoke?"

No one near me has picked up my habits. I snap my fingers a lot when i'm really frustrated and for some reason, I use my hand to cover my mouth when I smile. it just naturally happens. Probably because I think i'm ugly.

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Lasereth

I'm not sure if I'm affected by anyone's habits at all, especially my family's, but I do have many of the personality traits that my mom and dad have. My dad doesn't get annoyed/angry unless an unnecessary amount of work is being done (inefficiency) or if he's accused of something he didn't do. I'm the same way. I get <I>extremely</I> annoyed if someone is doing work that doesn't need to be done, or especially if <B>I</B> have to do work that is inefficient. Call it lazy, but it's part of my personality, even described in the psychology test (I'm an INTJ). I also get extremely defensive if I'm accused of something I didn't do, almost to the point of exploding.

My mom wants to make everyone happy no matter what. I even hate it when people I don't like are sad or in a bad mood. When I see anyone else in a bad mood or unhappy, all I want to do is make them happy or take their sadness away. It leads to me thinking about some pretty ridiculous plots on how to make people happy. I don't know..it's almost like a part of me gets permanently saddened whenever I see someone I know that is sad. I'd call both of these genetic traits rather than environmental traits, however.

-Lasereth

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Daniel_

I don't do it wth habits much, but I certainly do it with accents.

Its part of empathy, I suppose - you try (subconsciously) to "fit in" with people around you.

If you never do it, that's because your own ego views you as "top dog".

There's a thing in bodylanguage that I always heard called "echo posturing". It's where people copy the manerisms of the Big Dog in their presence.

Try sitting in a meeting, and when you are talking pick up a pencil, or steeple your fingers togther - and if you have people's attention they'll copy you.

Its fun to make people scratch their noses and then point it out.....

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ruggerp11

I worry. I worry about stupid things. I worry about my relationship, my job, my money, my friends and my personal life. I get it from my mother.

I'm neurotic, I get that from me. I overthink everything. Every thought is ran out to its logical conclusion whatever it maybe logical or not.

I procrastinate. I don't get that from anyone. I'm just lazy but I always get things done on time

I avoid conflict like the plague. I get that from my father. He grew up with a father who yelled and screamed. he now is completely adverse to conflict as am I.

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meembo

I think we are definitely affected by those bad habits around us. My divorce was terrible, but one of the things I like about it is that I've been pardoned from a lifetime of dealing with annoying habits that I once lovingly tried to absorb into my daily life. The absence of those bad habits of hers are very liberating to me! No sour grapes here -- just looking for the silver linings in life.

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Daniel_

You got that right.

I know it's rose tinted spectacles, but since I separated I've realised how many things my wife did that really REALLY annoyed me.

Like watching Big Brother.

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