ziadel

well, the title kinda says it all...

who do you trust, and why do you trust them?

do you feel like your too trusting, or mebbe a bit paranoid?



My list is short.

It involves my brother. Because he's my little bro. enough said.


and it involves a girl named carol, I've known her since I was 15, shes always had a shoulder for my to cry on, a hand for me to hold, and a kind word and a smile when I needed it. she's my best friend. I'd follow her into the bowels of hell, because I know that in reality, shes the only person who gives a damn enough about me to make sure I walk back out.

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maleficent

There were exactly two people in this world that I trust... Myself -- and my best friend Tom... Tom got my trust because it was a 30 + year friendship, the good times and bad times kinda of friendship -- and was there when it counted. Tom has been dead almost 4 years -- so that leaves me and only me.

There are other people who I would walk into fire for... and I know they trust me implicitly - because of my actions.. I've never had anyone "be there" like Tom was since...

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ziadel

thats another good aspect to add to this thread...


how many people do you know trust you, and do you reciporcate?

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BigBen

I trust every person who puts on a uniform in the morning.

Yes, I get hurt by putting my trust out like that, but it makes going to work every day that much easier, knowing that you can trust the person beside you.

I am a very trusting person by nature. I give people the benefit of the doubt, and expect reciprocation at all times.

I expect people to trust me until I prove otherwise. It has worked out so far.


Wish me luck.

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I only fully trust my family and my coworker Jeremy. Neither would ever intentionally hurt me.

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degrawj

I trust everybody until I have a reason not to trust them anymore. However, it is important to know how much trust to place in someone.

World's King

Is there a way I can trust less than no one?

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madcow

You have just about the opposite view of people that I do. I don't really trust anyone with something important to me until they have proven themselves to me in some way. I seem to remember always being that way, but maybe I got burned before and that's stuck. Perhaps that's why I have a more difficult time finding new friends than most people.

Back to the subject of the thread: I trust my sister, my parents and my best friend. I trust my immediate family the most because they have been with me my entire life. I moved a lot when I was growing up and they have been with me through it all, and that carries a lot of weight with me. My best friend I've known for 6 years now and I know he would always have my back, and I would always have his.

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ziadel

yes.


you can move to a mountain in montana and begin amassing your very own stockpile of firearms.

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ngdawg

There are levels of trust.
I trust one with my deepest secrets.
I trust another or two will stand behind me no matter what.
I trust no one ever tells the entire truth about anything.

StanT

Myself and my wife.

I'm not 100% sure about her.

viejo gringo

after 32 years, I think I can trust my SO.....

Ace_O_Spades

I usually try to trust my friends until they give me a reason not to

But total trust? I don't know... maybe nobody, maybe one or two people... I just don't know

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ninety09

One month ago, I would've answered my SO. But then she royally fucked me over and it made me realize that I could only trust my parents. They're the only ones who've been there for me no matter what. I don't think I'll ever trust anybody other then them.. Getting fucked over by someone that you trust is pretty painful, I won't let that happen again.

Seeker

It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul; if you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.
from - The Invitation by Oriah Mountain Dreamer

I have the problem of trusting everyone to the extent that I trust myself... most of my experiences have come back to bite me in the bum in such huge ways that I have felt like I've died one million deaths. I am often let down

That being said, I don't really stop trusting people... I pick myself up after plenty of soul searching - I realise it was pretty dumb of me to expect they would treat me like I treat them - and I put myself right back where I started from. I'll trust again, again, and again. Why? Nothing ventured nothing gained!

I have found that the 'faithless' are far more trustworthy as you will always know where they are at

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Sweetpea

I trust myself . . . i don't need anyone else.

that being said, i trust about three people in my life 99.9 percent with all of who i am.

I trust them because they have proven time and time again that they love me unconditionally, no matter what, they will never turn their back on me.

I feel like that's alot, i feel lucky.

Sweetpea

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TexanAvenger

People I have trusted without restraint: An old, past friend, two serious ex-girlfriends, my parents, and myself.

People I absolutely trust as of now: ...

By all means, imagine crickets chirping if you're so inclined.

Seanland

I think I trust everyone I know to an extent, but there are exceptions to each person, somethings i can tell some people, others I can't.. So, my trust is like a pie, divided into different pieces, in simple terms... so people get big pieces, some people get smalls pieces, some people share pieces

cierah

Hmmm. Who do I trust? Short answer - no one.
Long answer... I have been best friends with my best friend for 10 years. Do I trust her? Not complelty. I would die for her (and her for me) this I know with 110% certainty... but do I trust her with the day to day trivalities of life and with the huge issues that confront me? - not so much. After 10 years of her witnessing and knowing my own personal hell one would think I would, but do I? no. I love her to pieces but trust... that's too much of my soul to give away...

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themisfit

no one.

Those I have, I've regretted it. So I don't bother anymore.

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former newt

strange thing this: i can't think of anyone i truly trust...

what's weird is i have a good life. but little things happen that involve everyone i know, and somehow or another, i've always been slighted by even my best friends, usually unintentionally. i know i'm not the only one, but it never occured to me that i trust no one...

shit.

Glava

My mom and grandfather, assuming perfect memory. That doesn't mean I can tell them anything though, for obvious reasons.

skier

The only person I truly, absolutely trust is my mother. She's never done me wrong, and that's saying a lot.

My best friend I would trust with my life. But I don't think I could trust him with everything. He's the next closest person though.

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DTA,,,, Dont Trust Austin! I mean.. Dont Trust Anyone!

I think, pretty much, you're on your own in this world, and when the chips are really down, there's probably not going to be anyone there - you have to rely on yourself. In general I tend to be quite cynical and sceptical, and see negative or other motivations in what people do... there is no one I could say I truly feel I rely on, and I dont try to rely on anyone.

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StarCrossed

I trust all of my immediate family, and my best friend, i have known him since i was 4. I am 24 now. He is the only true friend i have ever known and had.

settie

You practically took the words out of my mouth. I thought I could trust my ex, but I got hurt bad by him, I'm still sorta hurting. But I too will never let it happen again.
I trust my parents, but not completely. It's far easier to not trust anyone completely, than get hurt time and time again by loved ones. After all, it's a tough world out there, and everyone is looking out for themselves.
That doesn't mean I won't go to hell and back for people I love and care for, it just means that I know better than to give away all my trust to people; there's too big a risk in doing that.

Rodney

I trust my wife. We knew each other as friends for 10 years before we got together. We even bought a house _before_ we got married (it was in my name only then) because we both trusted each other. She's always been there for me, and I've always been there for her. We don't always do the right thing by each other, but we trust that we're both _trying_ to do the right thing. We just know we make mistakes.

I'm trusted by a lot of people, largely because I'm quite happy to help people in various volunteer endeavors in church and community organizations and I don't ask anything in return -- no privileges, no recompense, no ego stroking, and I always do what I say I'm going to. So when I do ask for something -- volunteers of my own for some project -- it's very easy for me to get people to come on board.

I trust many other people to a limited degree, but maybe only one guy absolutely, and he's somebody I've known for 30 years. I not only trust his character, but I trust his judgment. The key to trust is knowing somebody's character and how they will react in various situations. That's why trust, real trust, is built slowly, through experience, except in some very special circumstances.

I had another friend even older who died a few years ago; I consider this guy to have been my brother. But I didn't trust him quite as much because, while I trusted his character and his regard for me and his honesty, I didn't trust his judgment quite as much. When he came around with a plan or proposition, it was always a good idea to look _really closely_ for holes instead of just going along. So I trusted the person, but not his competency.

I have gotten into trouble for trusting the wrong person even at my ripe age (approaching the half-century mark). There are a lot of emotionally needy people out there who are ready to take advantage of people who do them a good turn -- hell, I've even had somebody I helped try to break up my marriage -- because they want somebody to cling to in life. Are they bad people? No. But I've come to understand why a lot of people who help others frequently learn to be business-like, less willing to connect emotionally with the people they're helping and very quick to draw limits on what they will and won't do.

KinkyKiwi

i trust my best friend ilay because hes had chances to betray me and to hurt me and he has never taken them...because i know that he loves me and would protect me from any kind of harm with his life. hes the only person i trust totally.

my SO is pretty close..but i don't think i could ever let someone have my heart and my body and totally trust them 100%...it just seems dumb to me..but i do almost totally trust him. i trust him with my life and to never intentionally hurt me...but i don't 100% trust that he will always be there for me. i just cant.

my boyfriend vinnie who died almost 2 years ago...i always trusted him totally..more then anyone.

i know that ilay trusts me teh same way i trust him and my SO probably the same way i trust him as well...i dont fully trust my family even tho i love them because i've been fucked over by them again and again.

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thalakos315

difficult question..
i believe you trust different people with different things. for example, i know i could trust my best friend to save me if my life were in danger regardless of the circumstances.. however i also know that i cannot trust this same friend to always tell me the truth, take care of borrowed belongings, keep a secret, etc.

i trust everybody to a certain extent. but i don't believe there is anybody in the entire world that i could trust implicitly.

Lin

Im too trusting . No matter how many people treat me badly and let me down , I still automatically trust the next person I come into contact with.
Ive tried to be more apprehensive but its just not me , on-line or off-line I never see the crap coming my way .
I wish I was different, Im just very naive.

snowy

I trust my parents...my dad more than my mom, simply because my mom can be a little crazy. I trust most of my circle of close friends--Stephen, Wen, Lindsey, Nate, and Joshie. They would never do anything to deliberately hurt me or betray me, and I know I could trust them to the end.

A common saying among our group: Friends help friends move...best friend help friends move bodies.

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Janie

I trust myself and my best friend Scott, who can make me feel better at any given time. I can't help but mistrust everyone else.

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Suave

The people I trust most (almost completely) are my parents. My brother follows close behind. After that, my cousins, further down, then it's a steep dropoff on the trust continuum to my close friends. Anyone who isn't in those categories gets an infintesimally low amount of trust from me, unless it's required for the situation (but then there are different types of trust).

People are far too different in their thinking from me for me to trust them, even if I believe their intentions are noble. What they consider good does not mean I will like it. I also think a lot of people are stupid, then there is another chunk of utterly selfish people (these categories can overlap), et cetera. One might say I have trust issues. I think they're not so bad as to cripple me horribly, yet they serve a purpose.

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Meditrina

I have been married 11 years and the person I trust the most is not my husband, but rather my mother-in-law. She has become my friend, my "other" mother, and my Godmother. I trust her with my children, in my house, and with anything. I can talk to her about her son, without her judging me. She truly is a remarkable person, one I cannot live without. There are other people who I love tremendously, but do not trust them like I do her. My husband lost my trust back in 2003. He has yet to completely earn it back. He came close, but blew it again.

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sillygirl

My Alfred.
He's been my best friend for a while now, and he's also the one I love. Through everything and anything, I know that he will be the one that stands by me, and I stand by him. We've both been fucked over by almost everyone we know, and we've proven that we can only lean on each other.

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Zeraph

I've never fully trusted anyone, born that way.

TroutKind

Trust is such a vague word by itself. When it all comes down to it there is really only one person you can confide in soley and that is yourself. Of course there are people you trust when you tell them things or ask them to do things. If not you would be a hermit lost in society. You put trust in so many people everday that you don't even realize it.
I do have certain people I trust that I talk with and receive advise from, my aunt being first. She is like a mother to me, but I tell her things I would never imagine telling my mom.
So I would say she is the person I trust the most. Mainly because she hasn't given me any reason as of yet not to.