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slushi999 · 03-27-2005, 06:33 AM

My Boss in Corporate America feels I may be scared of him. I do get intimated by him. Sometimes I feel hes out there to get me, but he says hes not, how can I work on this?

tecoyah · 03-27-2005, 06:47 AM

I am left to wonder if this plays into your worries:

http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=85123

But ....as the "Boss" I will say this one thing.

If you feel he is out to get you......and after reading the above thread he likely is.....it is time to either lay low....or get out.

slushi999 · 03-27-2005, 08:37 AM

Ok Hi again.

Yes it partly does play a role into this, but ever since I started working here, Im trying to get the feeling that "manager" is not an enemy, hes there for help/guidance, sometiems I just feel otherwise.

Need some words of wisdom from you. I tottaly agree on playing low key as I want to grow in this same company.

so its been a few weeks know since this incident happend and i have just had casual communciation with the collegue, like just "hi" and "bye" giving him time to cool down. should I have a meeting with him soon to come to an agreement so we can put this behind us or build "morale" with him. , as It seems to be wise to strenghen the relationship with him. I know for sure this will be a major challenge since he took this to an extreme. i also found out the director did go to question the other 2 collegues about me as they told me which was in the 2nd email from the thread you linked out.

I already had a conversation with my manager, but some feels he is peace maker around here at times and its prob in my best interest for him to favor me or build interst back in me. how can I make this happen?

tecoyah · 03-27-2005, 08:48 AM

Honesty....hard work....commitment, and loyalty.

These are the traits I seek in my staff.

darkangel · 03-27-2005, 03:54 PM

My last boss felt he was the king and liked to screw us on our paychecks. He played all friendly when he was around us, but he was shady. He didn't even send out my T4 (I worked there last year from Jan-Sept) so now I have to go try and get it from him. If he doesn't have it (which I could see happening), time to be shut down...

I agree with tecoyah, if the job is good than just ignore, but in my case I had to say "See ya" after 2 years of my honest hard work for him.

03-27-2005, 06:33 AM	#1 (permalink)
slushi999 Tilted	Boss Approach My Boss in Corporate America feels I may be scared of him. I do get intimated by him. Sometimes I feel hes out there to get me, but he says hes not, how can I work on this?

03-27-2005, 06:47 AM	#2 (permalink)
tecoyah Illusionary	I am left to wonder if this plays into your worries: http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=85123 But ....as the "Boss" I will say this one thing. If you feel he is out to get you......and after reading the above thread he likely is.....it is time to either lay low....or get out. __________________ Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. - Buddha

03-27-2005, 08:48 AM	#4 (permalink)
tecoyah Illusionary	Honesty....hard work....commitment, and loyalty. These are the traits I seek in my staff. __________________ Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. - Buddha

03-27-2005, 03:54 PM	#5 (permalink)
darkangel Crazy Location: AB, Canada	My last boss felt he was the king and liked to screw us on our paychecks. He played all friendly when he was around us, but he was shady. He didn't even send out my T4 (I worked there last year from Jan-Sept) so now I have to go try and get it from him. If he doesn't have it (which I could see happening), time to be shut down... I agree with tecoyah, if the job is good than just ignore, but in my case I had to say "See ya" after 2 years of my honest hard work for him. __________________ "I'm gonna die when it's time for me to die.. so let me live my life the way I want to." - Jimi Hendrix

03-27-2005, 08:37 AM	#3 (permalink)
slushi999 Tilted	Ok Hi again. Yes it partly does play a role into this, but ever since I started working here, Im trying to get the feeling that "manager" is not an enemy, hes there for help/guidance, sometiems I just feel otherwise. Need some words of wisdom from you. I tottaly agree on playing low key as I want to grow in this same company. so its been a few weeks know since this incident happend and i have just had casual communciation with the collegue, like just "hi" and "bye" giving him time to cool down. should I have a meeting with him soon to come to an agreement so we can put this behind us or build "morale" with him. , as It seems to be wise to strenghen the relationship with him. I know for sure this will be a major challenge since he took this to an extreme. i also found out the director did go to question the other 2 collegues about me as they told me which was in the 2nd email from the thread you linked out. I already had a conversation with my manager, but some feels he is peace maker around here at times and its prob in my best interest for him to favor me or build interst back in me. how can I make this happen?