03-01-2004, 07:51 AM | #1 (permalink) |
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Do you tell your boss her thong is showing?
I wasn't sure whether this belongs in the Ladies lounge (I am gender-banned), sexuality forum (but there is no sex involved) or politics (do office politics count?), so I defaulted to here:
I'm at work and I just had a meeting with my boss. She was just getting in and was taking off her coat, putting down her bag, etc. She's wearing a short sweater (not a belly sweater, mind you, but one that stops right at the waist) and pants, and when she bent forward to put something down, I saw a whole lotta thong. Enough to know it was a thong, if you get my drift. So the question is, do I tell her? And if so, how? Background: we've got a good relationship, very chatty, etc., but we've never ventured into discussions of our underwear. |
03-01-2004, 07:59 AM | #4 (permalink) |
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no. talk to HR and tell them that she's sexually harrassing you by showing you her undergarments.
well that's what you'd do if she was ugly. but since you are friends, I think you should tell her that you were taken aback by her exposing herself to you.
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03-01-2004, 08:04 AM | #5 (permalink) |
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Why even bring it up? I don't really see that you have anything to gain by telling your boss that you got a "sneak peek", but you sure have plenty to lose. Just keep it to yourself, and be satisfied with the knowledge that you got to see some boss butt. I'll go out on a limb, and assume that it's a good thing?
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03-01-2004, 08:05 AM | #6 (permalink) |
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If you can tell her in a non office environment, it would be better. She could pull the offended crap on you, and to HR you go. Even if you have a good relationship, she could do this. Or... just don't say a word, and enjoy the view without being caught.
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03-01-2004, 08:05 AM | #7 (permalink) |
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I guess it all comes down to if she's hot or not. If she's a hottie I wouldnt tell her and just enjoy it. If she weighs 300lbs and its really nasty I would leave an anonymous note on her desk!
BTW. If she is hot you should take pics and post them Daval
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03-01-2004, 08:14 AM | #8 (permalink) | |
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03-01-2004, 08:15 AM | #9 (permalink) | |
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I wouldn't say a thing - not worth it.
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03-01-2004, 08:19 AM | #11 (permalink) |
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Unless you are really good friends, the best bet would be to just stay mum about it.
If you are really good friends, you might want to mention it with the disclaimer "I wouldn't want you to inadvertantly expose that to people who aren't as good friends as we are" This tactic has worked well for me in similar situations.
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03-01-2004, 08:42 AM | #14 (permalink) |
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If it were me, I'd just let it go. I see them all the time in public places, school, whereever. Sometimes it just...happens. No biggie. Bringing it up is just risking causing a problem and bringing a harassment suit on yourself.
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03-01-2004, 09:28 AM | #17 (permalink) |
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It could just as well have been an honest mistake on her part. No reason to make things really awkward by bringing to light something so trivial. Leave it alone.
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03-01-2004, 09:35 AM | #18 (permalink) |
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You'd know if your ass was hanging out of your pants, I think she wants the peen.
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03-01-2004, 09:36 AM | #19 (permalink) |
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Most pants now are low rise. A vast majority of thongs are not. So thats where the problem is. Low rise pants + non-low rise thong = thong peakage...
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03-01-2004, 09:58 AM | #21 (permalink) | |
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Good advice here, I'm curious to know how you handle this. That is, if you do decide to take any action. |
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03-01-2004, 10:04 AM | #22 (permalink) |
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If its something that could potentially embarrass her, like say she has a big client meeting , then I think you should tactfully let her know. If there's no chance of that happening, why worry?
If you decide to tell her, I would not use the term "thong," just let her know that when she bends over, her underwear is exposed and that you want to warn her before she is subjected to any further embarrasment
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03-01-2004, 10:49 AM | #23 (permalink) |
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you dont tell ppl they are fat
you dont tell ppl they are ugly you dont tell ppl they have somehing hanging out of their nose you dont tell ppl they forgot to zip up you CERTAINLY dont tell your boss she had good thongs
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03-01-2004, 10:53 AM | #26 (permalink) |
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last time i checked, a woman knows that people have the potential to see their underwear when they wear certain clothes, so in my view she was probably aware that she might have outside exposure of her thong, na djust didn't care.
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03-01-2004, 11:00 AM | #27 (permalink) |
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If my penis was wagging out of my button flys, I would certainly hope someone would tell me about it, even if it was my subordinates. Ok, slightly different.....
No way....don't tell her you noticed. In fact, pass her numbers over here and let me handle the situation.
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03-01-2004, 11:15 AM | #28 (permalink) |
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Leave it alone dude...you had a look
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03-01-2004, 01:30 PM | #31 (permalink) |
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Wording carefully what you say to someone will prevent any statement from sounding like sexual harassment.
Personally, I wouldn't say anything to her unless it happens again. She may or not be aware that her thong was showing. Although some of us purposely try to show off to those we are interested in One of my colleagues told me non-verbally with a hand gesture that my thong was showing. We are friends out of work so something like that wasn't offensive to me. If it had been someone I didn't know the reaction may not have been so calm.
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03-01-2004, 03:27 PM | #35 (permalink) | |
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03-01-2004, 03:31 PM | #36 (permalink) |
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I disagree with the view that if its embarassing dont tell people. I mean it happens to the best of us and when someone tells me something like i got a booger haha not often but its happened I always appreciate it.
In this case, if it happens once in a while say nothing. If its an every day thing and you think she may not know then I would think she may appreciate being told but do it gently. Like I said tho, only if its becoming a pattern. |
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