01-23-2008, 10:53 AM | #1 (permalink) | |
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3-Year Old Obsessed with her looks
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I do not believe a 3 year old has developed the emotion of insecurity as adults know it, let alone fully developed her sense of self-image. She's not self conscious of her looks. It's not makeup to her. It's a toy, and she's playing. This makes me want to pour a bucket of cold water on the head of the author of this ridiculous article. I'm not saying the issue doesn't exist, but her example is pure bullshit. AND she lists off Oprah immediately, as if she's an authority on anything. Argh! |
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01-23-2008, 11:07 AM | #2 (permalink) | |
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This is so ridiculous I couldn't finish.
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However, there are things I agree with. I think there are too many beautiful women out there thinking they are no so. Some people just need to settle the fuck down.
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01-23-2008, 11:40 AM | #3 (permalink) |
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I don't know... neuro-linguistic programming is a powerful and dangerous thing. If this girl associates herself with ugliness even at that age, I can't see her growing up with a healthy self-image unless changes are made. Perhaps her behaviour right now is purely imitative, and she may not understand fully what she's saying, but as she grows older those patterns are going to stick. The first five years of a child's life are so significant.
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01-23-2008, 12:00 PM | #5 (permalink) | |
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01-23-2008, 12:42 PM | #8 (permalink) |
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It's an attempt to convince mothers to deal with their own image issues so it won't affect their children. Sensationalist? Yes. BS? probably. But going to have an impact on at least a few people who worship Oprah like a goddess? Definitely.
Some people respond to sensationalist nonsense. The same people write it. Obviously TFP wasn't their target audience.
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01-23-2008, 07:36 PM | #9 (permalink) |
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Sadly, Oprah is an authority...on everything! If Oprah says it, it must be true. Three year olds, as previously stated, have none-to-very little concept of self. At three most children are still finding themselves in the world they once thought revolved around them.
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01-23-2008, 08:14 PM | #11 (permalink) | |
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01-24-2008, 08:52 AM | #13 (permalink) |
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My turn to pick it apart. I have three daughters, ages 30 months, 8yrs, and 17yrs...the approximate ages of the girls in the article. I have my own take on it, based on what I've seen in my own girls (and my friends' girls).
Jordyn and mommy Margie: Daughters, especially young ones, are notorious for wanting to copy mommy. They also like to do things with you. Try buying her a tube of chapstick so she can do what you are doing. For a 3 year old, the makeup is a plaything When toddlers do not get what they want, they sometimes...anyone?...throw fits and use the words that they think they will get their way. When they don't get their way, they say things that they know will upset you. If Jordyn got the reaction she wanted each time she yelled "the sky is blue" she would be yelling that instead. Mine yells "diddle diddle diddle diddle" like an alarm going off. This does not mean (I hope ) that she has a complex. As for picking out the clothes to wear, toddlers try to find what they have control over in their lives. Well, shoot, it's time for me to go to work. I'll have more fun with this later.
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01-24-2008, 09:36 AM | #14 (permalink) | |
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01-24-2008, 09:45 AM | #15 (permalink) |
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Walk through any toy section in a Target, and you will see what we are really teaching our little girls. Think about the Bratz dolls. What kind of example does that set for little girls, regarding looks and behavior? How about the television that some children are exposed to? Little kids often see and hear things without us realizing it--little pitchers have big ears--until we are faced with dealing with the problem of their exposure to that thing. And like ItWasMe said, a lot of little girls love to mimic Mommy.
The biggest problem I see on the part of the mothers in the above article is a gross failure to establish and maintain boundaries for their daughters (who in their right mind lets their 3-year-old look at a VS catalog?!), in addition to a failure to communicate effectively with their children. Tough love is sometimes necessary, especially when a child picks up a bad habit. The young years are so critical in a child's development. What really bothers me is how many parents are blundering about in sheer ignorance, unable to actually parent and teach their children valuable lessons.
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01-24-2008, 11:02 AM | #16 (permalink) | |
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01-24-2008, 05:01 PM | #19 (permalink) |
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I am with you casual user!
This is ridiculous but it does not shockme. Many kids age 5,7 or whatever are wearing clothes I wore as a teenager. Child clothes are like adults clothes, make up is aimed at 'Tweenagers' (young children) even if it pretends not to be , all glittery and girly things are everywhere unless you keep your kid in a shelter they are going to note these things.But I do blame the parent in this case, kids copy and as was mentioned before a child shouldn't be looking atvictorias secret or allowed to use make up... tantrums are 'normal' for a tot and I think this is making a meal out of it all. If the kid wasnt hung up about this it would be something else. Kids are also too 'mollycoddled'. If i had have behaved ins uch a way at such an age I wouldve been ignored until it passed.Not that I condone that either !
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To what, I'm not sure... But really, haven't little girls been toying with makeup since, like, the stone age or something? |
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01-27-2008, 07:53 AM | #22 (permalink) |
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I call shenanagins on the whole article.
I don't think there is a 3 year old who is that infatuated with her looks. Dr. Robin says mothers unconsciously hand down their insecurities to their children. "I call it the passing through the womb wound," she says. "As you were birthing your child through the birth canal, what is passed on are our wounds. … It's a generational curse that must be broken." Dr. Robin is a quack or a charlatan.
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