09-14-2007, 06:39 AM | #41 (permalink) | |
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/remembers he's married to a stay-at-home mom and calls the florist
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Additionally, is there anything really wrong with being anonymous? The opposite of that would be an attention whore, so given a choice, I suppose I'd take anonymous. But as I said, I don't think life is about work vs. anonymity. All my identity (public and private) exists outside of my work, so I don't feel anonymous in any way... I just don't need my career to give my life validity. Besides, what happens if you depend on your work for your self-image and sense of worth? It owns you. Everything must be sacrificed to the worship of that which will give you validity and recognition. Time, relationships, hobbies, even your sense of self. Hence why JJ began this thread, I believe. I'm not interested in being owned by anything, frankly, let alone a job. Quote:
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09-14-2007, 06:54 AM | #43 (permalink) |
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ayap i get that part of how you feel inside, but I guess that's what I'm curious about, what is your opinion of someone that isn't in the workforce or career? (not you mal but in general to the convo.)
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One thing I forgot to cite in my examples of notoriety-without-a-career: blogging. YouTube. The internets in general. As long as you can afford an internet connection (or you can find a place where it's free, like a library), you can become far more famous than most successful business people ever do. I think we're all well aware of that.
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09-14-2007, 07:12 AM | #45 (permalink) | |
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(that's the raisin at the end of the weiner! for you non-icelanders)
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09-14-2007, 07:16 AM | #46 (permalink) | |
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To be serious, people have always been remembered by what they have accomplished in life. The easiest way to do that work, whatever that may be. Some people are remember for siring someone who did something in their career, but let's face it: historical figures are generally remembered for what they did, whether it was President, king, inventor, executioner or salesman. Your career is generally the mark on the world that you can control. You can't control what your children will do, and they make their own marks.
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09-14-2007, 07:16 AM | #47 (permalink) | |
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09-14-2007, 07:19 AM | #48 (permalink) | |
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There's a quote from a television show about alcoholism - where the character, who was an alcoholic, mused that he didn't understand how people could leave half a glass of wine on the table, or how they couldn't not finish an entire bottle of scotch, basically drink until you were drunk... I tend to feel that way - except not with booze but with work... I don't understand how people can leave with work still to be done... and not enjoy it...
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In my case, I feel a great deal of control about other things making a mark, far more than my career. Photography, writing, my desire to volunteer, learning languages, traveling, being an activist, etc. My career controls *me*, if there's any controlling going on. I am a slave to that paycheck, since those hours I am supposed to be working, are not being spent on all the other things that I would rather be doing. Why is it so difficult to accept that identity does not *have* to be tied to one's career, and that it is in fact often unhealthy to live that way... as JJ pointed out in the OP? Quote:
It's for the same reason that there are five countries and language between me and ktspktsp, and why I enjoy the idea of living in many different places, our kids speaking multiple languages, etc. Living in one place for my whole life, speaking one language, being with someone from my own culture... for me personally, I would go out of my mind with boredom. The world is too big, life is too short, to put all my identity in one basket. But maybe that's just me.
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09-14-2007, 07:45 AM | #52 (permalink) | |
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Then why do we ask kids "What do you want to be when you grow up?"
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09-14-2007, 07:48 AM | #53 (permalink) | |
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09-14-2007, 07:54 AM | #54 (permalink) |
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When I am dead I will be dead - I really dont care if I am remembered or not - i'll be dead so what's it to me?
What matters is what happens when I'm here - I know that my work obsession has made the work lives around me better because of my efforts... so while that's a success.. there's a poem that's attributed to Ralph Waldo Emerson (that he really didn't write) To laugh often and much; To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; To appreciate beauty; To find the best in others; To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived; This is to have succeeded. Most every single one of those things - except for the garden patch or healthy child - I can apply to my work life - so that would mean my life was a success - because I have worked... Everyone is different... doesnt make their choices wrong... or right...
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09-14-2007, 08:10 AM | #55 (permalink) | |
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09-14-2007, 08:18 AM | #56 (permalink) |
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lasting difference in people's lives? not so much... but most people are about instant gratification... I can fix an immediate problem and let them continue to do their job and go on about their lives.
I can justify anything - yeahI don't have a problem
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09-14-2007, 08:30 AM | #57 (permalink) | |
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What was that Huey Lewis song about nothing we do today will matter a 100 years from now?
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09-14-2007, 08:54 AM | #58 (permalink) |
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at a remove, the op question has an obvious answer--people are this way because they are taught to be this way. whether you view the effects of this as submission or not is a political matter. whether or not you allow yourself to be sucked into variants on "work obsession" follows from political positions: if you understand the capitalist mode of work organization to be problematic, then you will probably struggle in your own life to not allow it to become how you operate; if you dont, then there's no problem and you'll do what seems to follow for you.
for myself--i can do the academic thing because i shifted around how i work. i like to make stuff. i find aspects of my academic training and interests are important catalysts for that making of stuff. for a long time, i identified very closely with a particular view of being-academic that i found debilitating and which resembled what abaya wrote above---but i figured out that for me other relations are possible and set about building them. so at this point, i see academic work as a day gig--neither better nor worse nor even particularly different from any other. what it is *not* is a space of non-alienated production. for a long time, i thought it was. i was wrong. much of my personal difficulty in reconciling myself to this curious way of life followed from my difficulty in reconciling what i thought it was and what it is. at this point, i see an academic gig as one that pays the bills, gives me access to resources to plunder, enables teaching (which i kinda like doing)--but mostly which enables me to buy and steal time. protecting my time becomes a priority then. time is what enables other types of production to unfold. whether the outputs please others or not is not my concern--i do the stuff i do because i find the doing to be engaging. insofar as any day gig is concerned, you only give away what you want to give away at one level or another: no-one actually gives a shit, so the problems and responsibilities are yours. sometimes i think that folk map relations to parents from the viewpoint of children into their careers and look to their day jobs for validation in ways that i find incomprehensible--but which it makes no sense to disapprove of really because they are simply not my choices, they do not correspond to my frame of reference--and because i dont have to live with the consequences and so my inability to understand them doesnt really matter. i used to wonder what normal is like. then i figured out that there is no normal. people go looking for it, but it isnt there. it isnt anywhere. it doesnt exist.
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09-14-2007, 09:14 AM | #59 (permalink) | |
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and that was one of the funniest articles I've read from them in a while.
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09-14-2007, 03:51 PM | #61 (permalink) |
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I like where this thread is going. There are so many questions I could ask based upon the responses thus far. I want to focus on just one or two, though.
For those people who accept that their work defines them, I wonder: what defined you before you began your career? What defined you as a child? How do you expect to define yourself after you retire? To an extent, I agree with maleficent when she says that once she's dead, she won't care if she's remembered. In that I agree with it, I believe in making the most of the life I have. While I enjoy my work, I have to admit that if I was wealthy enough to do whatever I wanted, I don't honestly know if this is what I'd do. Which brings me to my question. If you were wealthy enough that you didn't have to work anymore, would you? Would you continue with the career you have now or would you choose something different? Please be honest.
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09-15-2007, 03:51 PM | #62 (permalink) |
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Before I had a career, I was defined as a "student"
When I retire, I will be defined as a "retired [insert career]" If I had enough wealth that I didn't have to work, I'd still work in my career. I enjoy what I do, even if I don't like the job sometimes.
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Heh... what defined/defines/will define me before/now/in the future, is "me." Me being a person, who I am, period. I don't see why I would want to be defined as anything else, no offense to others.
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09-15-2007, 06:33 PM | #64 (permalink) |
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I work with a group of hard-working people. Recently, a single mom decided to have another child. She took two months of disability, had a c-section paid for by the state just because she wanted to, and filed for assistance from the state for single mothers with children. She won't marry the father, because that would cut down on welfare. He currently collects disability, but is not hindered in any way from riding his bicycle around all day.
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09-16-2007, 03:54 AM | #66 (permalink) | |
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I'll be carried out of the officein a pine box, retirement will be defined by a death...
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09-16-2007, 04:29 AM | #67 (permalink) | |
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Creating a boundary between one's work and one's self seems elemental, just as it's important to have boundaries between one's self and one's spouse, or one's children, or anything else we invest so much time and energy in during our lives. Preserving our core being. Isn't that key to healthy living, to not depending so much on one particular thing or person for who we are?... because then we are left vulnerable to losing our entire sense of self, when one of those pillars gets yanked out from under us.
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