abaya

My only question: isn't it possible to be a hard worker without that work defining who you are? To put in your 110% to whichever job/activity/sport for the time that it requires, and then go home and chill, be "yourself," and let go of work for the day? I've seen it done, and I try hard to approximate this in my own life, so I know it's not impossible. In fact, I would daresay that it's an ideal to strive for.

Creating a boundary between one's work and one's self seems elemental, just as it's important to have boundaries between one's self and one's spouse, or one's children, or anything else we invest so much time and energy in during our lives. Preserving our core being. Isn't that key to healthy living, to not depending so much on one particular thing or person for who we are?... because then we are left vulnerable to losing our entire sense of self, when one of those pillars gets yanked out from under us.

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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
--Khalil Gibran