arctic cat

how did you get over your's?

by concentrating on work/studies?

by sleeping with someone else?


i split with my partner over 6 months ago but i still find myself thinking about him all the time. i still try to contact him sometimes but it hurts when he doesn't respond to me and i end up feeling like shit. this isn't good for me. i've tried hanging out with my friends more but when i come home i start to think about him again.

i need help. anyone got any advice?

JStrider

just takes time... dont know that theres anything you can do to make it go faster

just try to keep yourself busy so you dont dwell on it all the time.

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Average_Joe

Time heals all wounds.

I tended to dwell on old love too much. For me, new love helped me forget all about old love.

Enjoy your new freedom while you have it.

Cynthetiq

1. letting time pass.

2. forgiving myself.

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Willy

Different based on your personality I think, but if he doesn't return your calls it's probably over for real and you should be thinking about your life without him in it. One thing I found kind of helpful is going to craigslist and reading personal ads. Even though I was nowhere near wanting to date again, it's nice to see there are lots of people out there looking (many of them scumbags heh) and feel like there are options as well as trying to guess who would be a good match for me etc. Just a way to get into the single mindset again.

analog

Nothing works for everyone... time works for most, as long as you're willing to allow it.

Above and beyond that, do some serious thinking so that you understand you need to move on. It's been 6 months, he doesn't return calls... it's time for your mind (and heart?) to decide that you can't hold on to the past. The future can never contain the past- you either create a unique future, or you try to repeat the past. Your future can hold so many wonderful things... there's no reason to try and bring your past into it.

Been there twice, myself... good luck.

shesus

Time, exercise, anything that takes your mind of it. However, as others said, one thing doesn't work for everyone. You do have to realize that it wasn't meant to be and move on. You will never proceed in life holding on to something in the past that doesn't exist. Good luck!

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surferlove007

For me when I'm stressed about overthinking I listen to music and exercise ALOT.
Usually I'm a gym fanatic because it helps me deal with things on my mind. Plus I sleep better...unfortunately since being at home theres no gym.

captobvious

As the others have said, it just takes time, and depending on the person it will take varying amounts of time. One thing that will help you move on faster is not contacting your ex at all. How do you expect to get over someone when you still let them be part of your life?

arctic cat

i sent him a text on boxing day telling him i hope he had a nice christmas and have a happy new year. he replied "who that?", so i decided to call him but he got his friend to answer the phone then hung up. i called back twice but he still wouldn't answer his and got his friend to answer it. after that i broke into tears and decided to delete his number.

then at 2.30am i got a call from him, but all he said was "hello..... hello" and he diguised his voice. i bet he was drunk. i guess i just wanted to know how he was doing.

i was the one to end the relationship but a couple of months later i changed my mind, but by then i guess it was too late. he was the first person i'd been with for a long time. before he came along i was still wanting my ex ex ex ex back.

i knew i shouldn't have tried to contact him again but stupidness got the better of me. although he won't answer my calls or reply to my texts, up until about a month ago he was still talking to me via msn under a disguise. he doesn't know that i know that it's him so i just went along with the pretence and hoped that he'd talk to me as himself soon enough. he was on msn yesterday under his disguise name and he signed off as soon as i signed on.

i need to get over him and move on cos i can't continue to feel like this. i wish time would move faster

kurty[B]

He's acting childish, and you're reading into this too much. The whole MSN under a disguise? The fact that you pay attention to him logging off as soon as you log on. Personally, the way he's having friends answer phones and such, that's simply childish, and obvious that he's not ready for attempting to maintain the relationship. Remove his MSN sign-ons so it doesn't even remind you of him, you already deleted his phone number. Don't call him. If he's "pranking" you he'll stop when he realizes it's not getting him any attention. Move on. It will obviously take time, but don't dredge him into your thoughts by calling him, or wondering why he's logging off IM. Sometimes cutting off contact (as much as possible), trashing pictures and things that remind you of your SO will help the healing over time process.

Daniel_

1) Bitching about her.

2) Going on a few dates with fiends of friends.

3) Getting laid

4) Making friends with some women

5) Falling for a someone

6) Eventually marrying her

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