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While I don't have kids of my own yet, I've spent much of my time playing surrogate mother to about 5 kids over the last 5 years or so. Like some have said, I've found that when they show behavior resembling your daughters, negative attention just feeds the frezy. When one of them gets in the mood to start throwing a tantrum, I usually start off calmly saying" : _____, you know that when you start whining or crying, that I can't understand you(I'm almost completely deaf) and will not listen to you. When you can be a big boy/girl, and tell me what's the matter, and then we can have some fun. Ok? " Granted, this changes from scenario to scenario, but you have to be consistent and as calm and unexcitatory as possible. Especially when taking care of 3 kids at the same time, you can't behave one way with one child and let something another does slide.
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Calling from deep in the heart, from where the eyes can't see and the ears can't hear, from where the mountain trails end and only love can go... ~~~ Three Rivers Hare Krishna
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