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raeanna74 · 02-24-2004, 08:49 AM

The last two day my daughter has been "acting out" terribly. I can't understand what has caused it. Our daily schdule has not changed except that she has gotten to outside a little more. I don't think that should cause this problem. It's possible that she's just had a growth spurt emotionally or mentally. I'm at my wits end to help her. She's been talking back to Dad a lot too. Sometime she'll stop and listen when he talks simply cause he's not around as much and it makes her notice. I think he's a little more strict with her too but I'm not too lenient. Here are some examples of yesterday's behavior and this morning.

I went to Walmart with my mother and one of Laura's little friends. She and Ashy are only about 1 month apart in age. They do a lot together and we've gone to the store together. All through the store she not once listened to me, she ran off, she screamed at me, and she hid in the clothes on me. She's usually well behaved in the store but yesterday was embarressing and frustrating. She often will listen to Grandma pretty well because it's a different person and she doesn't know how far she can push grandma. Grandma will spank too if necessary. I do sometimes as well. Her little friend even asked her to stop running and to hold her hand. She wouldn't listen to anyone. She ran around the corner of one isle right smack into another woman with two young children who were behaving pretty well. When I apologized she just chuckled and told me "Oh don't worry. Yesterday was my day." Then she spoke to Laura saying "Are you giving your Moma a hard time today?" Laura spoke in a snotty voice and said "YEAAAHHH!" I was so embarrassed and frustrated. I got her out of the store ASAP but what had already happened wasn't going to change. That incident was only the tip of the iceburg.

She also locked the door on one of my day care parents when they brought their kid. I told her to let go and tried to pry her hand off. She screamed at me. So I swatted her butt. She still would not let go. When I finally pulled her away from the door and pried her hand off she screamed and tried to reach the door. I carried her to her room and shut the door. She threw herself on the bed and carried on until the parents left.

After I got Star busy playing I went to talk to Laura. I asked her why she was so angry. I asked her if she wanted to play with just me. I recieved an adamant "NO!". I asked if she wanted to be quiet and alone for a while? "NO!!". I couldn't understand what was going on in her head. Why was she being so destructive, angry, mean, and disobedient?

This morning she got up and first thing she did is pitch a royal fit when I wouldn't give her a sucker for breakfast. She has cereal, poptarts, yogurt, fruit. Anything she wants like that in the morning. I offered it all to her. She threw herself on the couch and screamed until Dad came. He talked to her. She screamed at him "Go AWAY!!" I told her to go to her room. She said "FINE! and on the way stripped her clothes off and said "I'm NOT Wearing any clothes." We usually let her go with just a diaper at bedtime if she wants or if she stays in her room but during the day we make her wear clothes since I have people coming and going often. She knows that Dad makes this more of an issue and so I think it was targeted at him as rebellion.

I'm just grasping for straws here really. She's usually pretty good natured and listens relatively well for 3 1/2 years old. I realize kids go through stages where they stretch and test their bounderies but she's already worn me out. This is so extreme of a change from her usual. I didn't even tell everything she did. My mother called, Joe called, and Mom-in-law called yesterday and they all had opportunity to hear her scream and throw a tantrum. I tried sending her to her room, withholding treats, taking away toys, spanking even, and time outs (which were a battle all their own). Nothing seemed to work. Spankings which I knew hurt didn't hardly bring a tear to her eye. She has a high pain tolerance anyway so they aren't very effective. I'm not sure what to do. She's been at it already today. Including climbing on numerous stools and chairs to reach the top of my closet, get my paint, and you can guess the rest. She is refusing to use the toilet today too (we are mid potty training and WERE making excellent progress). She even played in her you-know-what and then came to show me. I'm at a loss. Any suggestions, psychological analysis, or sympathy even would be appreciated. Thanks

02-24-2004, 08:49 AM	#1 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	My brat The last two day my daughter has been "acting out" terribly. I can't understand what has caused it. Our daily schdule has not changed except that she has gotten to outside a little more. I don't think that should cause this problem. It's possible that she's just had a growth spurt emotionally or mentally. I'm at my wits end to help her. She's been talking back to Dad a lot too. Sometime she'll stop and listen when he talks simply cause he's not around as much and it makes her notice. I think he's a little more strict with her too but I'm not too lenient. Here are some examples of yesterday's behavior and this morning. I went to Walmart with my mother and one of Laura's little friends. She and Ashy are only about 1 month apart in age. They do a lot together and we've gone to the store together. All through the store she not once listened to me, she ran off, she screamed at me, and she hid in the clothes on me. She's usually well behaved in the store but yesterday was embarressing and frustrating. She often will listen to Grandma pretty well because it's a different person and she doesn't know how far she can push grandma. Grandma will spank too if necessary. I do sometimes as well. Her little friend even asked her to stop running and to hold her hand. She wouldn't listen to anyone. She ran around the corner of one isle right smack into another woman with two young children who were behaving pretty well. When I apologized she just chuckled and told me "Oh don't worry. Yesterday was my day." Then she spoke to Laura saying "Are you giving your Moma a hard time today?" Laura spoke in a snotty voice and said "YEAAAHHH!" I was so embarrassed and frustrated. I got her out of the store ASAP but what had already happened wasn't going to change. That incident was only the tip of the iceburg. She also locked the door on one of my day care parents when they brought their kid. I told her to let go and tried to pry her hand off. She screamed at me. So I swatted her butt. She still would not let go. When I finally pulled her away from the door and pried her hand off she screamed and tried to reach the door. I carried her to her room and shut the door. She threw herself on the bed and carried on until the parents left. After I got Star busy playing I went to talk to Laura. I asked her why she was so angry. I asked her if she wanted to play with just me. I recieved an adamant "NO!". I asked if she wanted to be quiet and alone for a while? "NO!!". I couldn't understand what was going on in her head. Why was she being so destructive, angry, mean, and disobedient? This morning she got up and first thing she did is pitch a royal fit when I wouldn't give her a sucker for breakfast. She has cereal, poptarts, yogurt, fruit. Anything she wants like that in the morning. I offered it all to her. She threw herself on the couch and screamed until Dad came. He talked to her. She screamed at him "Go AWAY!!" I told her to go to her room. She said "FINE! and on the way stripped her clothes off and said "I'm NOT Wearing any clothes." We usually let her go with just a diaper at bedtime if she wants or if she stays in her room but during the day we make her wear clothes since I have people coming and going often. She knows that Dad makes this more of an issue and so I think it was targeted at him as rebellion. I'm just grasping for straws here really. She's usually pretty good natured and listens relatively well for 3 1/2 years old. I realize kids go through stages where they stretch and test their bounderies but she's already worn me out. This is so extreme of a change from her usual. I didn't even tell everything she did. My mother called, Joe called, and Mom-in-law called yesterday and they all had opportunity to hear her scream and throw a tantrum. I tried sending her to her room, withholding treats, taking away toys, spanking even, and time outs (which were a battle all their own). Nothing seemed to work. Spankings which I knew hurt didn't hardly bring a tear to her eye. She has a high pain tolerance anyway so they aren't very effective. I'm not sure what to do. She's been at it already today. Including climbing on numerous stools and chairs to reach the top of my closet, get my paint, and you can guess the rest. She is refusing to use the toilet today too (we are mid potty training and WERE making excellent progress). She even played in her you-know-what and then came to show me. I'm at a loss. Any suggestions, psychological analysis, or sympathy even would be appreciated. Thanks __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.