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Completely disregarding the point of the girl, I think the best advice given here has been to kickstart a workout routine. If you can, I'd recommend taking an hour every other day to go down to the gym.
You needn't even go to a gym. I used to live on campus, so it was much more feasible for me to take the five minute walk to go work out, but now that I've moved, I've bought a couple of the little 20lbs hand weights (whatever they're called).
Because I obviously don't know that much about it, it's hard to be more specific, but between using those, lunges, and situps, I've been able to maintain myself pretty well.
The whole workout concept really boosts self-perception/awareness/worth/etc. and best of all, the body generally follows that perception given enough time.
Not that it's anthing like your situation, but I was fresh out of highschool and starting college, and was super depressed due to a crush I had on a girl in high school (plus extremely introverted and low self esteem). Spending the time working out helped lift me out of that by making me feel better about myself, and just making me feel better all around. It kept my mind off her, and was finally able to open my eyes to all the ladies around me and, to a certain extent, me to theirs.
If you would like to persue a possible relationship with this girl, even if she has a boyfriend now, I say keep constant but inconsistent contact with her. This will let her know you still exist, will help you keep a friendship with her post-employment, and give you time to make yourself (feel) more attractive. Like others have said, a lot of it has to do with how you feel about yourself and how that subconsciously projects itself to others. If you feel more attractive, you will be more attractive (in most cases).
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