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motdakasha · 02-20-2004, 02:31 PM

Responding to the title of the thread:
a) Men often confuse affection for something sexual. Hugging, holding hands, etc. doesn't necessarily mean the woman is interested in your sexually or relationship-wise. So be careful with interpretting actions when you don't know what she intends them to be interpretted as.

b) Communicate with her. You don't have to profess your undying love to her (statistically speaking, you shouldn't even if you feel that way, at least not immediately), but say that you are interested in her -or- that you sometimes interpret some of her actions as signs of _____, and ask if that's how they were intended to be interpretted. Give her an opportunity to be clear about why she does what she does, but don't pressure her into a position where she has to say she loves you or hates you or something. Obviously I'm exaggerating, but my point is that it's possible for it to be very awkward for a female if her actions are being misinterpretted by a guy, so tread carefully, but do something.

If I'm totally off base with the signs of affection and whatnot, you still need to do something about it. She could be using you, or unsure that she's interested in you, or afraid to pursue you because she's got a boyfriend. Either way, you need to open up a line of communication.

You'll never know unless you take action.

02-20-2004, 02:31 PM	#18 (permalink)
motdakasha Hiya Puddin'! Miss me? Location: Silicon Valley, CA	Responding to the title of the thread: a) Men often confuse affection for something sexual. Hugging, holding hands, etc. doesn't necessarily mean the woman is interested in your sexually or relationship-wise. So be careful with interpretting actions when you don't know what she intends them to be interpretted as. b) Communicate with her. You don't have to profess your undying love to her (statistically speaking, you shouldn't even if you feel that way, at least not immediately), but say that you are interested in her -or- that you sometimes interpret some of her actions as signs of _____, and ask if that's how they were intended to be interpretted. Give her an opportunity to be clear about why she does what she does, but don't pressure her into a position where she has to say she loves you or hates you or something. Obviously I'm exaggerating, but my point is that it's possible for it to be very awkward for a female if her actions are being misinterpretted by a guy, so tread carefully, but do something. If I'm totally off base with the signs of affection and whatnot, you still need to do something about it. She could be using you, or unsure that she's interested in you, or afraid to pursue you because she's got a boyfriend. Either way, you need to open up a line of communication. You'll never know unless you take action. __________________ =^-^= motdakasha =^-^= Just Google It. BA Psychology & Photography (I'm not going psychoanalyze you nor will I let you cry on my shoulder. Have a nice day.) Last edited by motdakasha; 02-20-2004 at 02:33 PM..