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You might be careful about when and how you ask and how you respond if she says no. If you give the sad puppy dog face even it can make her feel guilty. It's happened to me. Hubby would say "Ok, That's fine." but say it in such a Rejected tone, sad face, and just turn away that I was turned off when he asked. I also quit enjoying his touches because they always led to him begging, a rejection by me, and the guilt trip from him. I'm in no way saying that you might be making her feel guilty. I'm warning you that it can happen very easily though. Be sure to give her lots of touching, hugs and kisses and don't ask for sex every time either. That may help her open up some.
I did grow up in a religious home. I did have some hangups with intimacy early on. Especially when I wasn't married. I had a lot of guilt for having sex before marriage. Time, patience and talking will help her get past that.
There's always the daily stress that can make things harder for her. Give her plenty of time to talk it all out. Hubby's learned to listen so much and he's seen how it clears my head for sex thoughts.
Patience is the word. Good Luck.
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