There was something I read on lowbrow the other day, that struck me as being very powerful.
Something about putting her on a pedestal, treating her like the goddess she really is, and showing her that she has nothing to fear emotionally from you, and she will open right up.
I felt my ex never wanted me, though she claimed she did. She said she just didn't have the same drive as I did. In retrospect, I realize that it was me, pushing all the time, making it into some big ordeal that was causing her to back off.
Take it easy
