Best friends..
What does that mean exactly. I hear couples say that their signifigant other is their best friend. But how can that be? I have thought about this alot in the last few months so I finally decided to get it outta my head.
When it comes to friends you have, there are things they can do that are tolerable. You overlook it. May not agree or like what they may do sometimes but as a person being a so called "best friend" it seems easier to over look. Maybe a little advise stating my opion and things still seem fine. They are still my "best friend". So if the man I maybe with should do some of the things my qoute "best friend" may do, such as example cheating on his or her mate. It wouldn't be as easy to accept. How then in that case could I refer to my mate as my "best friend"?
There are things we share on a personal level with the people we call our "best friends as well. Are those things the same things you would share with your mate? How many times have you ever heard some ones other say to their partner damn that person has a nice ass. We all look ..okay I can't say all. Speaking for myself yes I look. But why is it that it seems disrespectful to be able to share a thought like that with my man?
Speaking for myself once again .. I have fantasies. It maybe while doing the deed with my man. A thought like that I would feel comfortable sharing with my "best friend" before I would my man. If my mate is suppose to be my "best friend" why does it seem so difficult to share things like that with each other? I would rather to be honest want to share those things with my mate before anyone else. I'd like to think I am open minded enough that my mate could share things with me as well too. But sometimes my feelings step in the way in some little things said and done. Then I am left questioning myself and I am learning or thinking I hope I am learning anyway to think before I open my mouth.
Still it comes down to feeling as tho we aren't able to share everything as a couple. It seems there are some thoughts best left unsaid. So back to the same question .. if I can feel like I can share those thoughts with a "best friend" before my man, what does that make it between couples?
Thanks for letting me ramble
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