EruptiveDreamz

What does that mean exactly. I hear couples say that their signifigant other is their best friend. But how can that be? I have thought about this alot in the last few months so I finally decided to get it outta my head.

When it comes to friends you have, there are things they can do that are tolerable. You overlook it. May not agree or like what they may do sometimes but as a person being a so called "best friend" it seems easier to over look. Maybe a little advise stating my opion and things still seem fine. They are still my "best friend". So if the man I maybe with should do some of the things my qoute "best friend" may do, such as example cheating on his or her mate. It wouldn't be as easy to accept. How then in that case could I refer to my mate as my "best friend"?

There are things we share on a personal level with the people we call our "best friends as well. Are those things the same things you would share with your mate? How many times have you ever heard some ones other say to their partner damn that person has a nice ass. We all look ..okay I can't say all. Speaking for myself yes I look. But why is it that it seems disrespectful to be able to share a thought like that with my man?

Speaking for myself once again .. I have fantasies. It maybe while doing the deed with my man. A thought like that I would feel comfortable sharing with my "best friend" before I would my man. If my mate is suppose to be my "best friend" why does it seem so difficult to share things like that with each other? I would rather to be honest want to share those things with my mate before anyone else. I'd like to think I am open minded enough that my mate could share things with me as well too. But sometimes my feelings step in the way in some little things said and done. Then I am left questioning myself and I am learning or thinking I hope I am learning anyway to think before I open my mouth.

Still it comes down to feeling as tho we aren't able to share everything as a couple. It seems there are some thoughts best left unsaid. So back to the same question .. if I can feel like I can share those thoughts with a "best friend" before my man, what does that make it between couples?


Thanks for letting me ramble

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Mephex

I am recently out of a relationship, but this is something I consider very important. Not all couples share everything with each other, but why not ?

If I see a beautiful woman, I'll look. Will my SO react negatively ? I hope not. Because even though I'm looking, she should know that she is the one I choose to be with.

And vice versa, I know that there are many men better looking then me, so how could I expect my girl to not have wandering eyes once in a while ? I see it as 100% honesty.

I also see an open, honest, faithful relationship as being one that provides more opportunities for showing affection and love.

I can't see myself sharing all that I share with my SO with anyone else, so she is one that I would consider my best friend.

ariekitten

sometimes it is hard to share certain things with your SO, but i still considered my last SO to be my best friend. he made me so damn happy, we got along great, and he was the person at the top of my list when i consider who to hang out with. you know? just little things like that....
*shrug* i dunno....
it all depends on like, some things you would only tell your girl friends, so naturally you wouldn't tell your SO.

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tenchi069

My fiance' knows more about me than anyone else. I choose to keep nothing from her. I am a private person by nature so I will only keep a few things known to everyone, some things known to close friends, but my fiance' hears it all. Good, bad, or indifferent. That is what makes her my best friend and soul mate.

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I think this is what it comes down to. It's who you share the most of yourself with, not just physically and emotionally, as you do with an SO, but also your hopes and fears and dreams. Whether or not it's necessary for you to have your SO be your best friend depends on what kind of connection you need to have. And often you don't need to explicitly communicate your thoughts in order for your SO to understand you and love you.

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ladyadmin

I have several best friends and one of them happens to be a male. The question I have in my mind is can a best friend be your soul mate? I think it's possible and also possible to date or even marry that person and be happy.

My best friend and I are real open with each other, share details about our lives and personal issues. We feel a sacred bond with one another but can't quite place a finger on the exact reasons why.

If he was my sigO, I could honestly still call him my best friend and continue to be open with him on antyhing. Main reason being is that he never judges me and accepts whatever I say as it is point blank.

Of courseI still believe some things are better left unsaid. Things that are unnecessarily hurtful or comments about how sexy you think someone else is.

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My wife and I know each other on all levels... Yes there are things that I keep back from her. There are things that I keep back from my other good friends as well.

I don't believe that we can fully share *everything* with anyone. That said, my wife knows me better than anyone. She knows my fears and insecurities as well as my lusts and passions.

Neither of us thinks much if the other makes a comment like, "Hmmm... she's (or he's) cute." Appreciating beauty is not an issue... Being insensitive and saying, "I'd like to fuck her" is.

That's just being considerate. Imagine a platonic friend that is good at some sport, let's say hockey. The two of you are watching some other team play and you nudge your friend and say, "Wow, you suck compared to that guy." No very considerate (I am assuming honesty here rather than sarcasm).

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thedrake

i would say my fiance is my best friend because she understands everything about me.

Yalaynia

He said it the best. Tenchi069 and I have spent countless hours talking on the phone. I feel the same way he does. He knows everything about me inside and out. I dont have any problem what so ever telling him about anything. We kinda get a giggle sometimes when we talk about guy and girl problems seeing that my guy problem usually has something to do with him and his girl problem has something to do with me. But it all works out and it helps us find out a little more about each other along the way.
I had friends in my past that I thought were my best friends and I could trust them and they betrayed me. Takes me a long time to develope a trust in someone, but only a short time for a person to make me lose that trust for them.

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jazzwyld

Yes, I completely agree. I have a friend, whom I am extremely close. We've discussed a few times about moving further in our relationship, but for right now there is no reason. We are great friends, and hold no secrets. If it supposed to be a foundation for something greater later on, it is a very firm foundation, if not it is a friendship that I cherish and always will. It takes a lot of time and intimacy to create that type of trust. We could both hurt each other easily, and we both love each other. For me jumping into a ill planned relationship holds no merit. Plus we are both completely happy where our relationship is, it is a rarity we both know this, but what can I say, I'm lucky.

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Pencilneck

I always refer to my girlfriend is my best friend. We connect on a very deep level, understand eachother, and she gets me more than my other friends. Because we have a romantic and sexual relationship, I don't tell her everything, but she still understands me better than anyone else and there is no one else I would rather spend more time with.

I think, if I were not dating her but dating someone else, I still think she'd be my best friend.