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Old 02-10-2004, 07:52 AM   #25 (permalink)
skysooner
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It's all in the attitude. If you feel comfortable with yourself, things with girls will all work out. For years, I was completely comfortable with my intellectualness, but I was a social moron. I used to be slim, and I could attract girls just through my looks. However I never really could hold on to them. My wife was just as socially inept as I was (extremely shy) but she knew how to do it where I didn't. That's why she and I connected so quickly. We were kindred souls.

I helped bring her out of her shell, and she taught me how to be more socially graceful. I will never be great at it, but I'm much, much better than I used to be. Over the years, I gained weight though. I'm not sure why except that I liked food and never really saw the need for exercise. I got up to 254 lbs in 2001 (5'10" tall). I was more socially graceful but felt fat as hell (I wasn't very obese, but I was still packing quite a few more lbs than I wanted to) and my health was suffering. I felt comfortable with who I was except for this. Around the middle of this last year, something triggered in me. I was finishing my MBA, and my wife had lost 20 post-baby lbs to get back into a size 6. She was working out, and I was winded walking up 2 flights of stairs. I started to diet a bit and when the pounds started shedding, I started exercising. I just weighed in at 182 with a goal of 174 at the moment. I'm down 12" in my waist. I achieved an above-average fitness level on a treadmill test, cholesterol down, etc. I now feel that I have all of my life together.

I guess the point of all of this is that you have to feel comfortable with who you are first off. If you don't like yourself, others will find it hard to do so as well. In some ways, I got very lucky meeting my wife when I did. I still feel I would have worked it out as I got out of college and was forced to socialize, but my life might have been very different (and maybe not for the better).
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