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I just went through the same thing not 20 minutes ago. Some people here might remember my posts from a few months ago. I stretched it out this long, it was torture.
Anyways, I think one of the most important things you can tell yourself is… <i> it is supposed to feel like this. </i> Ending a relationship is supposed to hurt. It is supposed to make you feel alone and unmotivated. If it didn’t, people would have more relationships than socks. The main problem I had with all I went through with Stephanie was, it all felt so damn wrong. I loved her (I still do), I had fought for her (she didn’t make it easy sometimes)… I put a damn lot into this relationship. Letting it end just seemed so wrong. Everything felt backwards and upside down. The hardest part of it all was how it felt. Then, I realized that is how it is supposed to feel. Think of this kind of pain as lines in a painting. It’s the lines that let you enjoy the shapes. If you didn’t have the lines, you couldn’t see the whole picture. Just remember that as with all things, <b> this too shall pass. </b> At the very least, take some time out from her. Don’t talk to her, I know it will be hard as she is in many of your classes, but take this time to make some new friends.
I’m sorry if everything I’ve just typed sounds kind of trite. But it’s been my experience that in this sort of situation, it always sounds that way. No one here has the magic bullet that will make you feel happy again. All we can do is tell you what helps us, and hope some of it will help you.
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This too shall pass.
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