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Mephex · 02-06-2004, 02:53 PM

You know. I wasn't going to reply to this.

There is a lot of great advice above, but I'll tell you something.

I am in a very similiar situation right now. I dated my ex for 3 years. About 3-4 months ago, I noticed a complete 180 in the way she treated me. She and I played a mmo together about a year ago, that I gave up pretty quickly, as I was on to something else. I actually felt lucky, to have found a gamer grrl. I'd be playing whatever, and she'd be doing her mmo. The same one, all of the time. Now I confronted her a few times, because things changed so much. She was always playing this game, and she would get irritated whenever I got near her monitor. So I'd joke about her seeing someone ingame. She has done this before, met someone online, and ended up having a relationship with them. Anyway, she always denied it, no matter my approach.

I never actively persued trying to find out whether she was lying to me or not. After all, I trusted her, and she said she would never do something like that to me. Well, we had a falling out about 3 weeks ago. We had been living together, were planning on getting married and buying a house etc. Guess what ?

2 weeks ago today, I hopped onto her pc, flipped into her mmo directory, and opened up the chat buffer. Not only was she 'involved' with someone, they were making plans to meet at a nearby hotel for the weekend. There was a lot more, but that's one of the things that sticks in my head.

So she's done. She's moved on, I've moved out even though I am paying rent for the next 3 months.

I get angry all of the time, because I know I am miserable, and she is giving all the love and affection that I fucking deserve, to some bastard that sweet talked her for months. I work with this woman, I hear her giggle all day, I hear her laugh, my life is hell.

But I'm learning from it. I'm gaining greater self control, I'm trying to be more positive, keep my mind on other things. Because I know, that by working on myself, and ignoring her. I will be a better person because of it. My positivity will actually attact others. I just have to get there, one day at a time. People say time is all that will fix this, but it's really tough when 60% of that time is spent with her.

Best of luck to you.

Damn, I got carried away.

You will prevail. You will move on, you will find happiness. As cheesy as it all sounds, just stay true to yourself. In times like this, you are all you have to hold on to. But things change, every minute things change, you never know what's around the next corner. Smile more, be happy, say hi to people. The more you tell yourself positive things, the more positive you will become.

02-06-2004, 02:53 PM	#23 (permalink)
Mephex Psycho	You know. I wasn't going to reply to this. There is a lot of great advice above, but I'll tell you something. I am in a very similiar situation right now. I dated my ex for 3 years. About 3-4 months ago, I noticed a complete 180 in the way she treated me. She and I played a mmo together about a year ago, that I gave up pretty quickly, as I was on to something else. I actually felt lucky, to have found a gamer grrl. I'd be playing whatever, and she'd be doing her mmo. The same one, all of the time. Now I confronted her a few times, because things changed so much. She was always playing this game, and she would get irritated whenever I got near her monitor. So I'd joke about her seeing someone ingame. She has done this before, met someone online, and ended up having a relationship with them. Anyway, she always denied it, no matter my approach. I never actively persued trying to find out whether she was lying to me or not. After all, I trusted her, and she said she would never do something like that to me. Well, we had a falling out about 3 weeks ago. We had been living together, were planning on getting married and buying a house etc. Guess what ? 2 weeks ago today, I hopped onto her pc, flipped into her mmo directory, and opened up the chat buffer. Not only was she 'involved' with someone, they were making plans to meet at a nearby hotel for the weekend. There was a lot more, but that's one of the things that sticks in my head. So she's done. She's moved on, I've moved out even though I am paying rent for the next 3 months. I get angry all of the time, because I know I am miserable, and she is giving all the love and affection that I fucking deserve, to some bastard that sweet talked her for months. I work with this woman, I hear her giggle all day, I hear her laugh, my life is hell. But I'm learning from it. I'm gaining greater self control, I'm trying to be more positive, keep my mind on other things. Because I know, that by working on myself, and ignoring her. I will be a better person because of it. My positivity will actually attact others. I just have to get there, one day at a time. People say time is all that will fix this, but it's really tough when 60% of that time is spent with her. Best of luck to you. Damn, I got carried away. You will prevail. You will move on, you will find happiness. As cheesy as it all sounds, just stay true to yourself. In times like this, you are all you have to hold on to. But things change, every minute things change, you never know what's around the next corner. Smile more, be happy, say hi to people. The more you tell yourself positive things, the more positive you will become. __________________ He who is void of virtuous attachments in private life is, or very soon will be, void of all regard for his country. There is seldom an instance of a man guilty of betraying his country, who had not before lost the feeling of moral obligations in his private connections. -Samuel Adams Last edited by Mephex; 02-06-2004 at 02:56 PM..