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Originally posted by analog
Lots of kids get the 4th-year depression. Sounds like it hit this kid hard. Some commit suicide, some just isolate themselves from the world and simply have a nervous breakdown of sorts. You're talking about a kid who was set on a path of excellence, and who suddenly realizes that nothing he does is ever any good- good grades are expected, and anything less gets him lectured. Imagine being that kid and pulling a B... how depressed would that make you feel? And a lot of times, the parents are somewhat at fault for not properly instilling the value of hard work. If you work hard, and try your damnedest, and still pull a B, there should be congratulations in order, not "a B is not an A, were you even trying?" He had nowhere to advance (in his mind) and all he had to look forward to was MORE pressure in college for 4 or more years.
p.s.- i almost had this shit happen to me, but then my parents realized I thought I couldn't be perfect enough for them, and they explained what i just said about working hard. That was WAY more than enough to make me feel good about any grade, so long as I put forth the effort. It's amazing what good parenting will do.
As far as the alcohol and weed go, he likely knew someone who turned him on to it as a "distraction" or "a great way to relieve stress". Marijuana IS a great way to relieve stress, but EVERYTHING in moderation, and NEVER enough to interfere with important life duties. That's just bad decision-making, not the pot itself.
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yeah....the thing is he's not depressed...he seems pretty damn happy about it...he just visited me today and he's always laughing and smiling like dropping out of school is the best thing thats ever happens to him.
As for intervention and rehab, I don't think its that far yet. I mean, he DOES do it, but he's not alcohol dependant...yet.
Oh yeah....he's having a birthday party this friday and there will be a lot of booze according to him. I want to go because hes my friend but I know when I go, he's gonna make me drink with him and I really really dont want to. I've been able to avoid those booze at previous parties but this time hes going to say shit like "c'mon man, its my birthday." Thats gonna make me real uncomfortable. If I drink, I'm gonna go against all the shit I told him not to do. If I dont go, he's gonna talk about how I dont respect him enough to show up. A small dilema.....