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While my current fiance' is adventurous, I have been in your situation. With one woman that was "conservative" in the bed room I discovered after talking to her about it that she was body concious. She didn't think her body was attractive so she was uncomfortable with sex. After I convinced her that I found her beautiful she loosened up a bit. I even had to convince my fiance' that I actually enjoyed going down on her. She had a hard time believing anyone would want to put their face "down there". Many girls have been taught since birth that sex is dirty or bad and when they grow up and get into sexual relationships they have a hard time getting over that indoctrination. It can be a real mental block. They may get to the point that "regular" sex is ok but anything outside of the basics is perverted and wrong. I'd say just keep letting her know you love her every day. Let her know you think she is beautiful. Maybe try a few things during sex that are more adventurous and magnify HER pleasure. The oral thing has moved things along for me in several relationships. If you get her really revved up maybe she will see the benefit of trying new things. Most importantly after you've tried one of these things be sure to tell her you love her and give her a good smooch!
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