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To be honest with you, and I'm not trying to diss you, I find it hard to reconcile the two facts of your post - that you are deeply in love with your girlfriend but you are also considering leaving her or at least not going forward because your sex life isnt so great. Maybe thats just me, but compared to love, friendship, companionship, partnership... sex shouldnt be so important at all.
Again, maybe more you than me, but I could have a very happy relationship that involved only limited physical intamcy (kissing, hugging, etc) and very little sex at all.
I think, you mentioned that her going on the pill was an issue, so maybe you could try to try a while where you take care of the contraceptive side, and see if her appetites increase being off it? Also, it sounds like you are trying to already, but talking to her about it really is the best thing - what she likes, what her fantasies are that you could fulfil, what positions feel good for her. I think its important not to let sexual issues become so that they are putting pressure on you, either of you, because the whole point is to enjoy it.
Maybe she has issues about sex, but from what you said it doesnt seem so, as your sex life was more active to start with - maybe you just need to talk about it a little more, maybe you need to try and make a special effort to do the things she wants or fantasizes about sometimes. At the end of the day, it could just be that you have a higher sex drive than she does - and if that really is an issue to you that makes you consider the whole relationship, only you can answer that.
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The Gospel of Thomas
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